So I met this girl through friends the other night, I came preselected. At first I noticed she was avoiding eye contact and to my mind this was an indication of disinterest so I pursued other avenues. It was only when we got to the dancefloor that I realised she wasn't totally disinterested in me - she wanted me to grind and was perfectly fine with me switching up the dance moves with her - all the while she was trying to make eye contact with me and smiling.

We sat down and chatted for about 20 minutes, but when we chatted the vibe seemed different. She was interested and was giving me her full attention but her physical signals weren't as in tune - she seemed much more physically confident on the dancefloor; off of it, she was timid. She's from another country and had only been here for a few days and had told me her mum would kill her if she knew she was at a club as she worries so much. Nevertheless she didn't leave me alone for the next 15 minutes and followed me to the dancefloor and wouldn't let me go. The eye contact on the dancefloor made me wonder if I should go in for the kiss, I didn't as I was very unsure from the mix signals I got from here when she was sitting down, she seemed like a totally different person when dancing.

We then sat and chatted some more, her friend then asked her "when does your boyfriend arrive in town?" I was shocked, but didn't show any signs at all. I continued conversation as normal and later asked her if her bf would mind that she was at a club, her facial expression was bland and she just said no in a confused voice tone. She then said that he looked just like me - is this a good or bad thing? I didn't know if I should continue with the girl I liked or not so I was working some C&F on her friend who was playing around saying how she no longer likes me, this girl then stepped in and said "oh I like him, he's really fun" and words to that effect a couple of times over.

I was unsure of what to make of this - especially as when she was leaving for the night she said she didn't have my number (she didn't have a phone but her friend with a phone has my number). The fact that she asked that is another indication of interest.

So I'm kind of wondering if she's playing me around, she doesn't have a good relationship with her boyfriend, maybe doesn't even have a boyfriend? She may have been clinging because she was unsure of the environment and just wanted a familiar face? When her friend asked when he arrives (which is in 5 weeks, by the way) she took about 5 seconds to answer "umm... on the... XX of feb... yeah I think the XX of feb..." without much conviction. Also she said he looked like me... well this baffles me, can anyone shine some light?

Sounds to me like green lights. Her boyfriend doesn't seem to be much of a problem the way you describe it. Sounds to me like she's interested in you and losing interest in her bf quickly. Boyfriends...they're just details. You've got this girl. I hope you have that girl's phone number and she doesn't just have yours.

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Girls normally feel that they can be more naturally sexy on the dance floor.
It's a place where they're less likely to get judged for being sensual.
At least that's what I've always observed.
Whatever, anyways.

I wouldn't make a big deal about the boyfriend thing.
Bringing up her boyfriend, comparing your looks, etc...
I think it was just a sub-conscious shit test,
to see if you'd start acting weird.

Most of the time, women don't even know their doing it,
but they'll say things like that, that'll throw you off-balance.
It's like an innate social filtering mechanism.
The strong carry on.
The weak crumble.
Ignore it.

With the limited info provided, I'd say you were doing fine.
You should've got the number though, if you didn't.
She's got to have some kind of number, outside of her friend's cell phone.

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