There are many ways to make a woman orgasam but some women are different than others... Making her cum wont make her want to be with you... Turning her on and holding back works better... Study erogenous zones, some are accessible without intimacy, sometimes talking will turn a woman on, I first gained my current girls interest by telling her what I was doing with another girl in text and the text messages I was sending that woman.. Not trying to turn on this woman never knew she would be interested but she suddenly decided she wanted in on that..

To stop a woman feeling guilty I find it's best to display the emotions that you feel, play up your desire for her physical and mental and put it that it's your fault not hers that you should have stopped it from happening. that something happened but that it happened for a good reason (what you feel for her) and that you wouldn't give up that moment that had happened, never say it shouldn't have happened! that will just make her feel bad and guilty. There is nothing good about her feeling bad or guilty. Leave her feeling that she shared a warm rewarding mutual experience that you wish could have continued. But you understand that she feels it can't happen... Don't peruse it to happen again just allow through body language and looks that you still desire her. If she wants you she will come after you.

At the moment for you I would say mention the positives like I said but in the past tense and that what was felt was good then show you have moved on she will go for you or she won't. Allow that your open to something with her but don't chase it chase those who want you instead, they are all around you trust me!

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"And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane

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I think avoiding feelings and emotions is probably best for now cause that was part of what scared her off in the first place!

I wanted to focus her mind on the attraction / physical side of things like they were before I wussed out on her. Common theme with all this advice seem to distance, don't pander to her demands and where possible demonstrate having moved on as much as possible without bein too in your face about it....

Thanks guys that's really helpful, I kinda knew that in the back of my head but there's always that "well what if you ignore her and she doesn't care" kind of insecurity undermining that so it's good to hear it from someone else as well

Any other tips on how to talk to her when we do talk (which is inevitable cause we work together and ignoring her work related convo's would make me seem like a spoiled brat!)?

Dude, you're getting the advise you need but you aren't listening. MOVE ON! Seriously she may be cool as shit but as far as any relationship is concerned, she isn't the right one. Think of it this way, if she is willing to cheat on her boyfriend with you, what makes you so special? Nothing, that's what. On to the next one and if she wants to smash, she'll let you know. It seems obvious you are nothing more to her other than a creative output for her sexual frustration, so exploit that shit and hit it when the opportunity presents itself. Otherwise you are headed for an emotional trail wreck.

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dannyboii!!!

ignoring work related convos is not an option, it will show to others something has happened. at work you need to protect her rep, if there has been a risk of others finding out that may be why she pulled back...

others at work shouldn't know of your involvement, so talk to her like you would anyone else... it also protects your own rep and leaves you open to future office romances with others... being found out closes you down to other opportunities with others.

anyone doing a work or office romance should maintain normal visible interactions before during and after a romance... control emotions and when at work be at work!

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"And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane

by those who could not hear the music"

- Nietzsche