Hey fellas.

I need some help with my openers, and I don't have the courage and the strenght to go and talk to sets. Do you know anything that could help? I really want to improve my PU.

I also need to start somewhere but I know know where...

Thanks for your helps guys

Tibodep

Do it little by little and start off small. Check out the following and notice that they get tougher. These examples all take place at the mall:

1. Have something prepared to say to a girl that works at the mall. Ask her about a pair of jeans.
2. Talk to another girl that works at the mall. Ask her about jeans, and then have a conversation this time.
3. Do #2 and this time close on her. Tell her you had fun talking with her and would like to get together for coffee sometime.
4. This time approach a girl walking around by herself. Ask her what time it is.
5. Approach a girl walking around the mall and ask her for her opinion on styles of jeans.
6. Do #5 and actually take her with you to men's section and look at some jeans. All the while, getting to know her better.
7. 6 + close.

As you can see, these don't involve the openers that appear out of the norm. They are perfectly ordinary ways of meeting people in general so you don't have to have any courage, if you can simply convince yourself that this isn't something with an agenda and premeditated.

Where do you start? The next girl you see. What do you say? Anything that a normal guy would say to a normal girl. It's that easy. Go!

Thanks fro that man.

I will try all of those and I will get back to you.
Is there any problems if I fail? doesn't kill the SPAM around me or anything like that ?

I can't see you failing on asking the time or about some jeans, but if you fail on the closes just pick yourself back up and try again with someone else. The only way the SPAM around you will be bad is if you start to doubt yourself or if you're in a negative mindset when you approach

True, thanks for all.

Here's a confidence myth that I'll break down to you:

"In order to do the things that I'm having fear of doing, I must have more confidence in order to act"

Let me explain. You don't have balls. THE ONLY THING that will get you confidence or "balls" to go talk to these sets that you can't approach is taking action. The real feeling of confidence comes when you act on the things you fear. It's the opposite of the myth that I've mentioned above. Most people think: "Wow that girl is so hot, but now I'm not feeling confident, when I'll be more confident, I'll approach" WRONG! You get confidence when you'll approach a lot of girls of that caliber and AFTER that, you will naturally feel confident to take the action that was before holding you back. There's no magic pill...you stop the compulsive thinking, stop listening to that voice in your head, stop trying to predict the future and ACT. And confidence or "balls" will come after you acted.

The feeling comes after action...you do not wait for the feeling of confidence in order to act. Otherwise, you WILL WAIT FOREVER.

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get a buddy, give him 100$, for every girl you approach, you get 20$ back

you will grow balls by facing your fears, it won't come by avoiding them, when you start, just talking to a girl about anything might raise that heartrate and put you into flight or fight, after you get more comfortable with that, maybe letting a girl know your intentions with her are sexual might put you into flight or fight, after that, maybe it's kissing, after that, maybe it's sexual touching or working up to courage to ask her home, or getting naked with her, who knows, different for every guy, but what is the same is you will have hurdles of things that are unknown to you, you fear these things, the only way to make them known to yourself, is to just walk into the unknown and be ok with it, the more you do, the more you will know yourself and you can begin to put more trust in yourself, knowning that you have walked into the unknown before and everything went ok, this creates self confidence, and the more you repeat a specific task and gain experience with it until the point you know it inside and out, the more situational confidence you will have in that situation

GOOD LUCK

What a dumb question.

You are afraid to approach women. How to fight that fear. Well life is simple and best way to deal with problems is to deal with them directly. You can read all the bullshit on the internet, all the tricks, chiriba chiribu crap many so called "pick up artists" (i hate this name personally, it sounds as corny as some crappiest corny marketing piece of shit) will tell you, BUT IN THE END you will still have to approach them.

So my friendly advice, do it the way I did it, cut the crap and start approaching women now.

The real tips that can boost your confidence are

Before the night out/before meeting women:

1. Shower 3 times in a row (yeah, shower-rinse x3)
2. Shave (your face and your balls)
3. Brush your teeth
4. Apply some cologne if you have, don't over do it.
5. Put on clean, nice, good looking clothes - if you're well built, try with tight shirts and short sleeves, or if you're fat, try some more loose clothes, but those that don't make you look like a bum. This is my ritual for last several years and it gives me confidence and im in better state.




General - the goal is, which you should be striving for, is to be 100% at all times, look 100%, feel 100%, smell 100% and be ready to react 100%. Work on yourself and invest in yourself each and every day.

1. Keep yourself clean at all times
2. Keep your haircut in order at all times
3. Be freshly shaved at all times.
4. Smell good at all times.
5. Have your car clean at all times if you have it.
6. Don't be dirty, ever.
7. Workout often.
I can go to distance with this until forever, but you get the point. Work on improving yourself and stay sharp. Another useful tip is to have a cool looking lighter with yourself all the time. Girls often ask me for fire.

And to say, how many times I didn't approach because I just didn't feel comfortable enough because I didn't shave for 4 days, because my car was dirty, THERE WAS EVEN ONE TIME I WAS AT A MARKET WANTED TO APPROACH THIS GIRL SO BAD BUT I HAD A HOLE IN MY SHOE THAT LOOKED LIKE SHIT SO AT THE END I DIDN'T APPROACH HER. watch out for those things

Do these things, keep these things in check and your rate of success will be high.

well said Crobro

I also agree with splican21 the crobro

Without constantly pushing yourself outside of the comfort zone, you won't achive nothing.

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I hope you see that the magic happens outside of your comfort zone Cheers man you can do it! And Nike man Just do it!!!

The more you practice=the more you get denied= the more balls you get. Getting denied makes denial just kinda part of what happens, so you get used to it and it affects you much less. Then you will be more and more comfortable taking risks. When i first started PUA after about 3 months of opening i noticed a huge difference. Good luck

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Really true. There's no magic way, you have to approach.
Gr8 idea, you should do that for starters.
Comfort zone is there where are titties, pussies, bj and sex. It's good, really. tibodep, your mind is tricking you to do nothing. To seat in front of a pc and write to have an ilusion that you learn PU. Go out and practice. Open some chicks, than you won't feel fear.

I can promise you that you won't regret any approaches you've made, but you will regret ALL you haven't done when you wanted to!!!

Great posts, I will be taking notes here

Good thoughts! Are you saying this because being clean helps your inner game and that is shown to women or that women actually care how clean a man is. I thought you could just "caveman" if your frame matches. Ive known some lazy fucks who can run game. But Im kind of a clean person so I like your style!

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