| seems like you handled this fine,
she seems interested in you, she tested, you just stayed congruent
she gives you massive ioi and asks if you are single, you answer honestly, after she qualifies you as to if you are honest
she wanted to see if you were honest, you demonstrated honesty
the real part of this test came when she said she had a boyfriend, she wanted to see how you would react, and what sort of thing you will say, you didn't, just stayed sure of yourself and projected congruence, you stayed honest, THIS BLEW HER FUCKING MIND
the only thing with this whole thing, is in this situation, you could be more pro-active in defining the frame, you could take more steps to lead, rather then sitting back and allowing her to pace this interaction, it got to this point somehow, you could be fine in this point, or it could have been avoided, but it is not nessicarily a bad thing or a good thing, it is just a girl showing interest in you
but don't take that the wrong way, you still took a shot at leading, right at around ''zero out of zero?'' you had the frame, changed from a serious discussion to a fun one you were thinking of having
being better prepared for this situation, if just wanting to know how to react, the trick is, don't react man, there is no way to react properly, lead in the first place so that you don't have to react
as for what would have been a better way to handle this?, there is nothing wrong with how you handled this, but you could have just lead the discussion somewhere else when you saw this, if you didn't like where it was going, you don't have to invest in threads that don't interest you, cutting them, then moving on, will only force her to invest more if she wants to revive the thread, and at least you get some investment out of her before you commit to a response, and all you have to do to pass a shit test (aka congruence test), is remain congruent to the frame you want to present or just don't take the test to begin with, the girl either finds the frame you are presenting attractive, or doesn't, compliance will tell you everything you need to know
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