Hello,

Started a new job half a year ago, and there is this coworker of mine in an open office that I am close professional associate and need to work with her closely. In past my rule was not messing with women where I work, but this one really proved to mess with my emotions big time. She also has a boyfriend, there is no way I would be messing with her if not for her manipulative tactics. Now I am not a PUA but rather a RAFC, but I am not stupid.

Manipulative shit she is using ranges from using kino, flirting, eyeblinking, always talking shit about her boyfriend, taking excessive interest in me, wanting me to desire her, hurting me when she feels I am walking away, etc.

Every time I show her I am willing to walk away from this crazy "relationship" she progressively increased her game. This week for example I almost ignored her, and she was rubbing her tits against my arm by thursday, later inviting me to go for a drink with a group, and then went on another drink with another coworker she started manipulated when she noticed I am ignoring her games few days ago. This shit must end.

So, ... where do I go from here ? And yes, I did invite her out couple of times after her games, only to get boyfriend excuse. And we will be working closely for another 10 months.

Turn the tables on her man. Get her attraction amped while using pick up and then use push/pull to excite her. Then just walk away and take that shit away from her. Be the one playing the games, don't get those games played on you. Make her see you're not like the other guys who fall for her games and she can control. Be the dominant male and take control.

Good luck man, it's gonna be a challenge whether you turn the tables or not

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Thank you Rockso, that is a good advice. Though I am not anymore sure I want to have anything with her even If I win her. We are naturally attracted to eachother and I could love her but manipulation shit really turns me off.

When I first hinted to her that i am sick of her games and that I will not wait for her emotinally attached and that I am meeting my ex-girlfriend she instantly came up with some guy - basically telling me that if I dont go her way she will go with him and making me look like a fool. And on top of that, this week when I really ignored her she manipulated the living hell of this coworker (who is living with his girlfriend), who went cucu - she is good in her games. Now trying to convince me that her hormones went crazy and that she will go with first guy if I continue to ignore her shit. But I know she wont do this, she is too cautious about her social image so my plan has to be to ignore games and take control.

Cheers.

you can only become manipulated if you allow it,

you want her to stop playing games?, stop playing them yourself, stop being such a girl about this

you tell her what you want, and why, she either complies or does not comply,

there are no games beyond this, her actions will speak volumes

since this is what you have somewhat done (although from the sounds of your post, not sure if your intentions were very clear, even though they were understood), and she has not complied, this means that she is un-available, deal with it, it is how it is

you are also aware she has a boyfriend (this is most likely why she is non-compliant), and she is not available, but she is still attracted to you (judging by her flirting), and you have to be around her, so now you have to make a descision, keep giving her attention, and getting attention in return that you are well aware won't lead to anything, the more you react to her and invest in this, the more needy for her you will become, or... you can just cut off the attention, cut off the flirting, be professional at work, stop shitting where you eat, and cut it out all together, stop investing in her, and meet other women since you are obviously becomming emotionally invested in a girl that is not invested in you enough to escalate with you over her boyfriend, and further investment from your end will only lead to oneitis

now, there is the third option, but I suspect you can't follow suit on this one, still be her friend at work, but DON'T BE NEEDY, stop thinking of this girl in the tense of you and her being something, some sort of item, stop trying to get her, stop focusing on her, be normal at work, don't hit on her unless it is fun to do so, don't talk to her unless it is fun to do so, don't try to get anything from her or get her to do anything with you, don't try to be her boyfriend, just de-tach from her, don't stop doing any of the above things in order to ''get her'' that completely defeats the purpose, just actually stop trying, you don't need her, only hang with her from moment to moment when it suits the moment and will increase your enjoyment or you can make things better then how they are, no other reason, not to get something, she can get you if the moment is right, but don't go out of your way to get her, she is not needed

^ for this to work, you have to actually not care, and for this to be the case, usually that means you actually have some options, and if you are in this headspace, getting her or not is irrelivant completely, if you are emotionally investing in some girl just cause she smiles at you, talks with you, and flirts from time to time, this would show me that this isn't exactly the case and you probably are not meeting enough new women on a regular basis

Thank pumpington, I appreciate the perspective of total accountability for your own fate and you are obviously right. I to am to blame for my own emotional rollercoaster of last months - should have known better in the first place.