This is one of the methods I use to get into state.
Sometimes you approach a group of girls - your humor doesn't land , they seem disinterested and they leave after a while. What's wrong? Your
STATE.
What is state?
State is the set of emotions you feel within yourself and greatly affects your game. Have you ever been out and everything just seemed to flow? You felt confident , funny and energetic? You experience nights like that when you're in state.
If we take a look at my Ring Model we can see that state affects your body language/sub-communication.
So if you feel confident , you will act confidently.
How do I get in state?
According to the Ring Model we can see that what you
believe in affects your mood/state , and your mood/state affects your sub-communication.
I believe I am a confident man -> I feel like a confident man -> I act like a confident man
If you don't TRULY believe that you're an alpha male - you won't feel or act like one.
I'm currently busy writing a full program on how to create strong beliefs within yourself and I strongly encourage all of you to read it. ->
the-ring-model-creating-unshakable-conf ... 42102.html
So now we have a problem.
A lot of guys who are new to pickup don't have these beliefs within themselves - how can they feel confident?
By consciously forcing confident body language.
How does this work?
The Ring Model works in reverse as well...
If you force confident body language -> You will start feeling confident -> Your brain needs a logical explanation for why you're feeling confident and then comes to the conclusion that you
ARE a confident man.
Why does forcing confident body language work?
Your brain is a very powerful machine , it remembers EVERYTHING that has happened throughout your life(even though you can't remember all of it).
Your brain remembers all your previous experiences , your brain remembers the way you acted when you experienced certain emotions - thus creating a bridge between the way you act and your emotions.
When you constantly smile you will actually start feeling happy after a while - why?
Because your brain has associated smiling with good emotions.
This is called NLP Anchoring.
You can read more about NLP Anchoring here :
http://www.self-improvement-mentor.com/ ... oring.html
So in the same way we can use smiling to get us in a happy mood we can use confident body language to start feeling confident.
Consciously force the following :
Speaking very loudly.
Walking upright.
Relaxing your eyes.
Speaking Slowly.
Lowering your hands to your waists when you speak.
Smiling(in a confident way , don't smile like your looking for approval.)
Using hand gestures.
Lowering your voice tone(Just until you start sounding relaxed.)
Looking people in the eyes.(Don't stare)
Looking over people when there is no eye contact.(This means looking above their eyes - look over them instead of looking down when you're not making eye contact. This is a sign of dominance.)
Spreading your legs when standing.
Leaning back when you speak.
These are just a few of the things you can use to get into state.
You're all welcome to post your own list of body language pointers.
Practice forcing all of these when you're approaching and you will automatically start feeling confident.
Check out my other post on a better explanation of the Ring Model : the-ring-model-creating-unshakable-conf ... 42102.html
-Happy Gaming!
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