i am actually the last person in the universe that would ever thought would say this but i genuinely feel like im falling in love with this girl, i dont see her much its more face book chat etc.... we used to go to college together and things have flared up recently .. its been recently that her father has been unwell and she has been texting me updating me on the situation.. as she text me tonight i was out sarging as you do.. but i was with my cousin (female) when i realised i definatley have intimate feelings for this girl (not my cousin dont worry)

i am drunk but i feel as if i would feel the fucking same way when i wake up in the morning... ive never had a girlfriend and im quite the commitiphobe.. i dont know what i should say to this girl anymore , should i just tell her my feelings or just let it slide by... honestly im scared that she doesnt feel the same way and ive always been like that... the truth with me always comes out when im drunk. Its now 5.30am and she's just gone to sleep, i dont want to freak her out by telling her shit and ruining everything ...........................................................it feels weird even talking about this shit

Some users might not find the following comment according to the nature of the site, or even apropriate... but. Id say to you:

Go break a leg

Make her yours!

Cannot stop you from doing what many of us wouldn't, but If you've never had a Gf this might be the time. In case it doesnt work out, or she doesnt feel that for you, don't force things, be smart and move on; We'll be waiting arms wide open


Just get to know her better, dont show off and dont, under any circumstances reveal your feelings like a needy guy. Let her know with passion, with fire..

Good Luck friend

and, uhm.. by the way. We've all felt "in-love" at least once in our lives, so its nothin to be ashamed

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You can tell her. I don't know what will happen. But with most situations like these, everything just gets awkward and nothing happens.

I'll try and explain why you feel the way you do, as I have been through a similar experience. Basically, we as humans will get attached to things. Those things we spend effort and time on become harder to part with. You are becoming attached to her because you are spending effort and time on her, with no certain outcome. All you know is that you want her, but you have no idea how to get her. Your so called love is nothing more than an attachment to the idea that being with her will bring you pleasure.

Damn right there. Humans love being attached to things (and ideas as well) And the idea of finding pleasure trough a person is a very horrible mistake we all make in our lives. But any ways, regardless of it, just go for it and learn from whatever comes out of it.

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I'll agree with you on that one. Go for it, but be prepared for rejection. Don't act like your whole life rides on the outcome.

Ok so let me get this straight.

You don't really see her in person.

You have not had sex with her.

And you're falling in love?? When you say "flared up", what do you mean?

Sounds pretty ridiculous to me to fall for a girl you've never fucked.

S.

Done this a couple of times and it never ends well. Telling a woman that hasn't shown Attraction to u that u love her is the biggest mistake u can possibly make. Best case scenario she feels sorry for u and hangs with u out of pity for a while trying to hook u up with someone (anyone) else. Worst case she never talks to u again because it's too uncomfortably and she thinks your creepy or obsessive.

Try to lead her into being attracted to you and then if she seems up for it or makes the first move start letting her know your interested. Never openly seem more invested then the girl your after. Invested = needy = loser.

Make sure your life DOES'T ride on the outcome...

Go for it man. If she is giving you IOI's that she feels the same way..or maybe you "feel" she does. Go for it. What do you have to lose? If you let it slide, you will never know what could have became of it. She may be waiting for you to make the move.

Just be prepared for rejection, and DON'T take it to hard. Just continue to be friends with her(or not) and move on.

All guys or so called PUA's on this forum should read this book "Naked" by David Wygnant

Check it out on amazon.

http://www.amazon.com/Naked-Find-Perfec ... ords=naked


Sluggler

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im still stuck on this i feel in a dazed. im a music producer i do this in my spare time and alll i want to do is create music just for this one girl. ive never been this way belive me all i want to do is fuck every hot girl ever but this girl is what you would call a 6 at best and i like to think im pretty cute , i dress really really well , i work in fashion too. Tonight i was in the club with a girl i just started working with and we've become good friends..im known for kissing my co-workers bascially and she was saying stuff like " you need to stop doing this " while never actually properly rejecting me ... i eventually had to say " do you want me to leave you alone " to which she responded "no" and touched me on the elbow area.. she got me thinking theses girls are fucking crazy.. its like she wants me to but she doesnt want me to.. it was my birthday and she came out for it .. i honestly wanted her but i kept saying stuff like " look at the ass on that girl over there" and intentionally ignoring her , eventually i went to the bathroom near the end of the night and bumped into an old friend so i was talking to him for too long and went back to look for her but she was gone.. all i need is advice lads... i live in ireland if you peacock over here and where a funny hat your considered a freak!!!!!....................... this girl..... ugh....oneitis..... what the fuck am i doing wrong .. i like to think im charming , i make funny jokes the girls basically lick my ear when im talking to them .. but im not getting the close...... someone tell me why!..... i need to up my game!.. fuck oneitis

Dude you need to relax. But I do know the feeling your talking about. I went on a long Europe trip and met a ton of women, got laid and came out of it smarter and mature than I was 4months prior. But out of the whole trip, there were only two girls that I had strong feelings for and reciprocated those feelings, both are almost perfect in every way and actually both of them I didn't have sex with! (Only some other action). But out of those two one is by far my favorite and as I am now back home we can only keep in contact online. Even though I would be crazy about this girl if I lived in her city, I would continue keeping an open mind because there are always other girls.

You say your in love with this girl, but this can only be genuine if she reciprocates those feelings. Like 870 once wrote, (paraphrased) "A girl can only be crazy about you, if you are completely crazy about her". But you have to show her this. My advice is if you haven't already, be direct with your actions and tell her you really like her in the right moment that rides smoothly with your conversation. But ALSO, Learn to cope without talking to this girl otherwise you become reliant on her and feed off her energy to bring you happiness this is BAD and sets you up for disaster. You should continue talking with this girl, see where it leads. But don't be obsessive, you have to be able to walk away from the situation as a cool dude at any point but that is more on the topic of building inner game. Anyway just remember, your life does NOT revolve around her!

Edit: And now after rereading what your wrote I realize this is probably one of those AFC situations where you fantasize about a girl and in your mind she becomes perfect for you and you imagine different situations being with her. But don't be a fool.. this is just your EGO.

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