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Alright I haven't posted in a while and I gotta work for another 2 weeks. So I won't be online as much cause I'm gone all day. But just cause I can't approach as much doesn't mean I'll quit. I opened all my new coworkers today.
I got a direct approach in yesterday (my last day of freedom lol):
She left a store and didn't look too busy.
Me: Can you stop for a second?
She stops.
Me: Look I don't run around the city approaching girls all day but I noticed you and you look like an interesting person! So what's your name?
We exchange names and small talk. It was a weird convo because I never stopped a girl as long as her. Just an example:
Me: So you look pretty young are you still going to HS?
Her: No I go to college in -small city 120miles away-
Me: So what brings you here? I've been to your city and it's much prettier than this.
Basically it was maybe a minute. I commented a lot and I just kwpt talking and asking. I was definitely leading the convo and I followed pumpingtons posz because I was honest. It felt like I was cleaning out my consciousness, I just said whatever came to mind.
She looked like it was pretty awkward to her though. She stopped for me and gave me her name and stroked her hair etc. But I never lost the feeling that she was actually busy and had somewhere to be. Whatever, another approach and I'm getting more comfortable in set every day. I think I did a good job calibrating. It's sometimes hard for me to read girls and say "ok she's ready for teasing/ she needs qualificatin/comfort/whatever." Sometimes, it's obvious, but not always.
I guess this comes with experience right? Anyway I posted to let y'all know I'm still going on.
awesome man, you are pulling through longer in set now
that one girl was probably just confused, be more honest, get to the point of where you are leading, try not to censor yourself to get her, turn your brain off, say what you know, instead of what you think she might wan't to hear, let her know you find her attractive and that is the reason you are speaking to her, be more honest
direct-opener-getting-alot-of-rejection ... tml#657160
^ here this might help you a bit in dealing with initial reactions
the focus in set is really connecting with that girl man, you want to become a part of her life, you make your impression and really make an effort to know her and have her know you, the sex is just part of it, she's a girl, you're a guy, you approached her cause she is sexy, naturally you want to get close to her and make out with her, eventually get it in, that should just be assumed, but knowing her is the reason she will meet with you, knowing you is the reason she will feel safe getting naked in front of you, and knowing you is the reason she trusts you to not brag to your friends about it, the more she invests in the conversations, the more she will think about you and have that feeling that she knows you, but, to invest in a product in the first place, the buyer has to see value in the product (they need a reason to invest), you should be the only reason they need, let them know why you want to invest in them (justfy why), then begin investing, if they reciprocate your advances, you can both escalate together, if she is non-compliant fully when you have done a good job of getting her settled, and projecting the intentions through your frame, then she probably just doesn't see enough value or she is currently invested into something else too far, and has descided for herself that she must not invest in you in order to keep her other investment safe (sexually unavailable)
forget the game concepts, for a while focus on, enjoying yourself, and really getting to know those you are talking with, and when you are looking for some sort of act of compliance, justify why you want their compliance, they are more likely to comply when you give them a reason (example: I want to talk to you cause I find you attractive, I have to meet my friends and leave, so lemme grab your number, or you seem really cool, I want to take you out for coffee next week, we should go back to my house and watch a movie or it's getting kind of late and the drinks are kind of pricey here, lets go back to my place for some drinks etc.), you lead and justfy your coarse of action, it doesn't have to be honest, but the more honest you are at all times, the easier it is the maintain congruence without having to think, when you start to notice problems that continue to re-occur with multiple girls, post the problem in the sticking points section, and often there will be a way to dis-qualify this problem, either during the situation for the future or pre-emtively by dis-qualifying the problem before it comes about, you can then practise the improvment your game and correct the sticking point
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