I just got over my oneitis for a LJBF and I gotta say, it really isn't worth it to try to work your way out of that situation. If you are friends then there is a reason, she doesn't view you in a sexual way, it sucks but it's life. You can try to turn it into something else but you need to ask yourself, is it really worth it?

I kept telling myself that she was better than other girls, but that isn't it. The cause of oneitis is fear of having to go out and meet new girls when you can just go for one you already know. She may be beautiful or awesome or whatever but it is fine to have women for friends. It will come in handy in the long run if she sets you up with her friend(s) and sometimes just having a girl around you is enough to build other women's interest.

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First of all man, congrats on kicking the bug.

Now . . .
I actually have to slightly disagree with this. While it is true in most cases, it's not always that fear that causes one-itis.

Yeah I'd disagree with it for a different reason. I would say that's why I USED to get oneitis. Now, however, I know it's forming for the girl i'm already in an open relationship for three months. Normally this wouldn't be a bad thing, but I'm only 20. There is plenty of time for a relationship later in life, and I've been progressing exponentially since I started Cold approaches in clubs. I don't want to give up game, and I know a relationship won't make me truly happy, but neither will fucking a different girl every night.

What a dilemma. haha. The oneitis I'm forming, I guess you could say it's not a fear of meeting new people...but the fear of letting this one get away. Even though I know after a month of being exclusive I'll be bored as fuck, as much as I do appreciate all the things that come with an exclusive relationship.

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I thought i was over mine (well just), but oviously not. Because she briefly appeared in one of my dreams last night, i think thats the first time i've dreamt about her? (who knows?) But she looked gorgeous in it, typical! She told me she had a sexuel dream about me once. We where together ages ago kind of, We met again and become best friends, because of me, then after i got a big thing for her an got friended, shes got a BF, but the thing is she says she's still attracted to me and we kiss all the time?

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I'm so sick of "One Itis" if you are sure why read my posts about "Are you a wussie?" Glad you're over it!

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hey man i cant force myself to hate her. I know what needs to be done though. Even before i knew about this stuff i told myself i would'nt see her for awhile and i started to date as many girls as possible and she got mad jelous. And told me that she was jelous. She's got game man, i have to admit it. Knows what she's doin like. Anyway she's finally stopped callin me, but i would be alot easier if she did'nt live so close, i dont want to bump into her. I've just gotta get my shit together now.

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I also recently kicked a never ending case of one-itis, it seemed like everytime i finally got over one girl another one would take her place as my "one". But im proud to say within the last 2 months ive f-closed 3 girls and have yet to have a hint of the itis. It seems like its gone for good and i can only hope it stays that way.