I've been dating a girl who lives an hour and a half away by train for a couple of weeks now and it was my turn to go down and see her. I booked the tickets ages ago and it gives me a 4 hour visit.

My initial thinking was to have a short visit leaving her wanting more as my motivation is for a relationship. When I told her that it was a 4 hour trip she seemed very shocked and asked was I not staying over?

We have not had sex yet so I literally felt like punching myself in the face, putting it on YouTube and posting it here lol! I mean how stupid!!! We talk on the phone for an hour and a half and it feels like 15 minutes.

So I contacted the train station and swapped my ticket for am open return ticket. She does not know this yet. I was thinking of letting her believe I have to go home but then having a really good time with her and saying "screw going home, let's hit a bar"

Sort of like a push pull!

What would you boys do??

Your plan is great... spontaneous and fun, easy going... keep it up! You can play cocky-funny with her, when she asks you if you are staying over: "don't get any funny ideas, it's that time of the month" or "I'm not that kind of guy, I need trust and a connection before we go physical" or whatever silly shit you come up with... Best of luck to you!

Ohh good advice, I'd forgotten about the saying no sex tactic! It's worked a charm for me in the past!!

Used the time constraint as a push pull and it worked like a charm! Was in her bed within 3 hours

I'm going to use this on dates in the future

Kudos to you, man!