How to turn a woman onto you?

Game should be like fine wine and get better with time. wine is an acquired taste. It doesn't taste good at first, but then people start to like drinking it. It's psychological. It's the buzz after drinking that people like and they associate that with the wine drinking. Then the more they drink it and experience that good feeling that develop a liking for wine, a strong liking.

Here's other analogies. Let's say you smell a pleasant aroma, the longer you smell it the more you want to taste it until you can't fight it any longer and you go eat it. Or someone is working on your nerves and they keep aggravating you until you lash out at them because they made you angry.

When you do something with a positive attitude you give yourself a desire to do it. If you keep doing it with a positive attitude, excitement, you love the activity. Mind over matter.

The more you are exposed to a pleasant stimulus the more you want to be exposed to it. It builds a desire. Then that desire is bolstered by habit, the habit of performed the activity again and again. that behavior habit is bolstered by the mental habit of being positive during the activity.

This why I contact girls the next day I want to build on the feeling of interest I created until I ignite it into a fire. This also why I'm not afraid of the friend zone because I know how to develop interest into a fire. However, Never push a girl to do something she is uncomfortable with. It'll ruin the progress. Patience and consistency is very important with this method.

Mental Attitude

You don't have to submit to your feelings. You can fight them off and overcome them. A lot of guys don't understand mental toughness. They don't understand the difference feeling good about doing something vs. feeling bad about it can make. Go in the gym unmotivated and you might not finish the work out you. Go in inspired and you can do that work out three times. It's all about your will.

People always do what they want to do. People don't always do what they would like to do, but they always do what they want. For some guys talking to girls will be like running down hill for others it will be like climbing a mountain. if you are inexperienced with girls your imagination on a subconscious level will cause you to have overly strong or negative reactions . If you have negative experiences with girls you will dread talking to girl. If you don't believe the outcome will go positively you will dread talking to girls...

It's all about your attitude. Affirmations help your attitude and positive experience help your attitude. You're trying to build yourself up to a point where you can deal with talking to girls.

Affirmations can be used:

1.) Improve mental attitude progressively
Use an affirmation to perform an activity with a positive attitude. Repeatedly perform that activity with that attitude and it cements your confidence. Then increase confidence by increasing the difficulty of the activity.

2.) to gain positive experience
Use an affirmation to gain positive experience. This positive experience cements your confidence after enough of it.

3.) to instill beliefs into your subconscious.
Your subconscious pushes you to do things without you knowing it. when you are under pressure you do what you believe deep down in your subconscious.

You can use this method on girls to get them to do things progressively. Now a good affirmation is short " I will win" "fear no one" "she wants me". It's easily repeatedly and easily remembered.

However, the best way to have an impact oo another persons emotions is to be short, shocking and dramatic. For example, I felt a girl was lying to me so I told her

"can I get you a napkin? Because you got some bull shit on your mouth!" then I repeated "bullshit" three times to drive my point in harder. I made an impact.

Patience fellas. The more pleasant experiences a girl has with you the more she will like you and the more positive conclusions she will draw about you and the more she will be willing to do and even compromise for you. Patience

Mental Preparation is essentially thinking about something the builds an emotion which is necessary to get a job done. This is thinking about what you want to do and why you want to do it (can do it). Its pysching yourself up for a particular task.

Do you hate your life?

A lot of people say they are depressed, but they don't really hate their life. You don't really hate your. You don't really hate your life if you refuse to do the things that would improve your life. You don't really hate your life if you refuse to do the things that would make you happy. You're unhappy because you're comfortable. You're comfortable enough to be miserable. Its not poor people that complain about depression its often rich people.

I hear guys whining about not anxiety, but the truth is they don't approach girls because they are more comfortable not approaching . Its more comfortable

Fear is your friend. The pain of loneliness. The pain of seeing someone else with who you want. Think about that. Think about how much you hate that. Think use your fear of that to motivate you to act.

Few people are willing to succeed or die trying. Everyone wants to live, its a very strong instinct...to survive, to be comfortable. Its such a strong instinct that as long as the option is there, people will pick it. The instinct to avoid humiliation is also very strong. You never think I'm goign to get this girl or embarass myself trying. I'm going to get her or embarass myself trying. Im going to get her or embarass myself trying. No one thinks of that...but if you did that you would be all in, all your energy would be fully invested. There would be no way out. Getting the girl is the only way out. Winning is the only escape. Victory is the Escape.

Approach anxiety------> a feeling of discomfort, sometimes unbearable, about approaching people.

Where does it come from?

Focusing on how people will react to what you say. ( Note: if you expect people to react well to you then you're fine)

It comes from worrying about what other people will do and not what you are going to do. (Note: If you have negative experience or inexperience with socializing then that causes anxiety)

How to overcome it?

1.) Affirmations/Mindset (the positive thoughts when repeated changes the negative feeling. The more compelling the positive thoughts are the easier it is to change the negative feeling.)
2.) Positive Experience(Success)
3.) Dressing up (to replace your awkward feeling with a good feeling that comes from dressing up)
4.) Going out with positive people( their positivity can help you replace
5.) Focus on what you're going to do, instead of worrying about the unknown (what someone else will do)