have been seeing this girl casually for a couple of months now as well as others (which she is aware of and has never minded as she is a bit of a player herself) and she described our arrangement as being fuck buddies. all has been well for couple of months, she comes to my place, we drink, we talk, share amusing stories about other people we are seeing and then we fuck, she stays over and i run her home before my work.

This suited me down to the ground and her as well until 5 days ago when i was supposed to pick her up but basically i fell asleep on my couch after work cos i was shattered from being up all night the night before. i was supposed to pick her up at 10pm but didnt wake up til 3am at which po int i txt her saying sorry i crashed out and i know ill have to make it up to you etc etc. as i say this was 5 days ago and i havnt heard bk from her. im thinking of sending her a wee txt tonight but dont know where to go with this, i dont wana say sorry again but i dont know if acting like nothing has happened is the way to go either. i think the reason she isnt talking is because she thinks i ditched her for another girl that night as she knows im a bit of a player. should i just not txt her at all and hope she txts me? its not the be all and end all to see this girl again but she is great fun and i do like her company so i do wana resume our arrangement, thoughts please folks! btw it may be worth adding she is VERY popular with guys as she is stunning and she is a bit spoiled so i can understand her being pretty moody about this although she has never acted spoiled or bitchy towards me before.

HELP!

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noone seems to post solutions anymore, they jus read the post, yeah cheers guys

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I think you have to apolgize, this situation is totally your fault. Why don't you call her?

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Tell the truth, you like her as more than just a FB don't you? Why would this be such a big deal otherwise?

Thats what I was thinking... I would act like nothings happened. If she acts pissed apologize once if she doesnt bite... move on.

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"Every woman's a whore in the right situation"
"They're all selling it for something"
"She's sluttier than you think she is"

You should try texting her again, but don't make yourself seem needy. You've already apologized once, so this time just be honest and ask her if everything is okay between you two. Alternatively you could just talk to her the way you usually would and if she seems off with you (assuming she replies) then confront her about it and ask her why she's so upset - hopefully she'll open up and you can talk about it, explaining that it was a genuine mistake on your behalf and that you'll make it up to her.

Honesty and integrity my friend are two charismata women appreciate. I would call her, be honest with her and try to explain and make yourself clear that you didn't avoid her. Say you are sorry once more. If she doesn't accept your apology then you say this is as much as I can do to let you know I am sorry and tell her goodbye. If she is a smart girl she will realize that you were sincere and probably will seek you out after a few days...

Whatever the case, right is right and wrong is wrong and in your situation the right thing to do is apologise with sincerity and dignity (no begging) and from there on karma will help you out

Personally, I wouldn't text again. I'd rather call her, and a apologise for stood'n her up the other night (cause you were clearly in the wrong here my dude) and then arrange another meet up. If she's still pissed sbout the other night she'll let you know... she'll either agree to hanging with you again or she won't, either way you'll know. Plus i think she also kinda likes you, that shit about her being a player may be true but, come on bro why would you flaking on her for one nite freak her out like this, when she knows you're a player yourself?

(P.S I once flaked on a girl, then invited her out again. She agreed, then flaked last minute just to get me back for flaking on her.)
Anyway I hope you save your FB!
D.P

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thanks guys.

firstly i do like her a fair bit but paradoxically i would never trust her and i have no desire to get in a relationship with anyone, never mind her. i like my life too much to make myself unhappy with a relationship.

secondly i think we are all good in the hood. basically i txt her last night kinda takin the piss out of her for sulking and not getting bk to me and then said 'dont cheat yourself, treat yourself' to keep things lighthearted. she txt bk this afternoon being fun n askin when she can see me again. so yeah things should be ok. i will watch out for her flakin/standing me up tho to be honest dusty i would be kinda amused if she did that, as long as it was a one of to 'get me back' lol

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