Hey everyone,
I'm currently located in the suburbs of Philadelphia. I'm 39 years young, never married. I first learned of the game in 2005 when I picked up a copy of Strauss's book. I loved that book and the ideas and story fascinated me. Like most of us, I'd always wondered why I never had the "luck" other guys had. Finally I found something that made sense and decoded what what going on in social interactions with women. I was hooked. At the time I had a girlfriend that I was living with for about 5 years and was hooking up on the side with a beautiful woman who was in the process of tearing my heart to shreds. I learned a ton from the experience (like not to cheat, just not good policy for me) and that in order to have a relationship like i wanted, I needed to grow into more of a man....and i needed to grow a lot. The long term relationship ended, and so did the one with the girl I was cheating with. To deal with the pain of losing both, I went out and just tried to get with every girl I could. I met with guys in the community in where I was living and went out a few times to clubs and did the whole approach tons of girls thing. I learned a lot for sure about body language, etc. I had some successes but realized that no matter how many women I hooked up with or how much I went out, that the only way things were going to get better was if I changed myself. I went through a few year period of introspection without a lot of change/growth. I left the office job I hated and moved to the beach and dreamed of a new life. I played a lot of golf, spent all my savings, and didn't do much growing or dating. I was not feeling good about myself at all. Then in 2010 I met a girl at friends wedding and I was really into her. She was crazy about me....and I was about her. We jumped in with both feet and I moved to NYC to live w her. Huge mistake (as you all know I'm sure). After that I was really devastated and to help cope, I dove back into the community. I listened to and watched every piece of material I could get my hands on. I was determined not to fall and get burned again because of my percieved lack of abundace or lack of boundries, etc. I started dating and really had a good vibe going for a bit. I was enjoying playing around because I could truly care less about these women.....you know how you feel just after you've had your heart broke. That was fun and I really was making progress "getting it". Really getting the feeling inside that a man has to have to be successful with women. Soon I started dating one woman who was so into me I just decided to go with it for a while. It had been sometime since I'd had a girl this into me. And to be honest I wasn't that into her so it was safe and comfortable. We dated for a year and she grew on me, we got close. We had great sex and a good friendship. I still wasn't totally thrilled by her looks but I was trying to be a less shallow guy and see where it goes. Well not to long ago I was floored to find out she was fooling around on ME. So here I am back again, determined to make progress. I do NOT define myself by this backstory but it is relevant to why I am here. I have a lot to do. My goals now are getting financially stable, finding good guys who get this stuff to hang out with, getting back to excellent physical health and continuing to learn about myself and how to keep improving my skills with women. As far as where i am now, I feel like I need a break from women for a few weeks. Im studying inner game and working on feeling good about myself. At some point in the near future I will get back out but not just yet. I love to play golf and go to concerts. Feel free to hit me up and I look forward to contributing to you and your goals in any way I can. And if there is any guys looking for help out/teach in my area, i'm all ears. I'd very much welcome a mentor type person. I will soon be going to the meetup group of PUA men in my area.