Usually when I go to a club and don't pull (which is every time I've been) I don't care cos its nothing new and I've had fun anyway but its just worn out now.

On Friday night I went to a club with a friend and this is someone who all through school could not get girls and everyone looked down on.

We were drinking along and trying to dance our way into the groups and he at one point danced up to a girl and kissed her within seconds and then she promptly left.

Later on he dances into a group of girls, just dancing no talking (too loud for that) and within a minute goes in for a kiss and is then practically eating her face off for the rest of the night. I mean WTF?? He didn't even say anything he just danced up behind her got her attention and eventually she turned and snogged his face off.

HOW?!? The last time I kissed a girl was 2009

There are couples kissing all over this club and its like all these guys know some secret trick.

I sat down at this point and this guy came over and tried to get me back on the floor again (don't know why) then turns and goes up to a group of 4 girls starts grinding up against one and puts his hands on her waist, she turns and looks, carries on dancing, he kind of grabs her arm and starts daning with her and then kisses her and she kisses back.

all in under 30 seconds WHAT ARE THESE GUYS DOING?!?!

I just thought I'd copy his technique to the letter for the hell of it, soon as my hands are on this girls waist she looks like she's being raped and her friend throws this fvck off glare at me and they dissapear.

Usually I wouldn't care but this just depressed me and its just getting ridicolous, so what the hell are these people doing to be able to make out with some girl they havent spoken too in roughly 60 seconds???

sounds like you might have been in the wrong mindset when you went out to the club that night, and after seeing other guys do it maybe lost a little self confidence? Keep your head up and your confidence level up (girls sense this shit). Try and make the move more you, I know that sound awkward but, your not all those other guys why try and mimic them? Keep your style original and confidence level up and keep trying!

The way you used 'pull' to mean kiss I presume your from the UK.


This kind of thing happens a lot here, but it literally is a lucky combination of timing looks and overall presence/confidence. But what does it achieve? it's usually a sloppy drunk saliva switch for short term validation for both parties. And let's face in these contexts the girl is usually below avg and wasted. And it almost never in my experience + friends' experience leads to lays.

It's what everyone here in the Uk (students) seems to do but it's a big hype for fools gold. Meet girls at the bar, outside smoking area or quieter areas. It will be hard at first but then you'll learn how to 'game' properly leading to more choice, more sober chicks and when you actually get better a much greater chance of both kissing and pulling her out the club/solid # close.

I used to do the run around lunging at any girl trying to get a 'pull' my success rate if you can even call it that was like 1 in 3 nights. I switched to actually meeting girls and escalating from there, I had a brief drought in kisses but then when I got better it became at least a kiss on most nights.
Here are some uk field reports of mine look toward the end.
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Good luck

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