Usually when I go to a club and don't pull (which is every time I've been) I don't care cos its nothing new and I've had fun anyway but its just worn out now.

On Friday night I went to a club with a friend and this is someone who all through school could not get girls and everyone looked down on.

We were drinking along and trying to dance our way into the groups and he at one point danced up to a girl and kissed her within seconds and then she promptly left.

Later on he dances into a group of girls, just dancing no talking (too loud for that) and within a minute goes in for a kiss and is then practically eating her face off for the rest of the night. I mean WTF?? He didn't even say anything he just danced up behind her got her attention and eventually she turned and snogged his face off.

HOW?!? The last time I kissed a girl was 2009

There are couples kissing all over this club and its like all these guys know some secret trick.

I sat down at this point and this guy came over and tried to get me back on the floor again (don't know why) then turns and goes up to a group of 4 girls starts grinding up against one and puts his hands on her waist, she turns and looks, carries on dancing, he kind of grabs her arm and starts daning with her and then kisses her and she kisses back.

all in under 30 seconds WHAT ARE THESE GUYS DOING?!?!

I just thought I'd copy his technique to the letter for the hell of it, soon as my hands are on this girls waist she looks like she's being raped and her friend throws this fvck off glare at me and they dissapear.

Usually I wouldn't care but this just depressed me and its just getting ridicolous, so what the hell are these people doing to be able to make out with some girl they havent spoken too in roughly 60 seconds???

from the way you are describing, it sounds like you are heavily attached to the outcome of each interaction, rather than just having fun in your own way and pulling girls into your 'party'.

if you go in slightly needy or reaction seeking then the girls will subconciously pick up on it and reject you.

the more you dont care what happens the better it will go.
as you get more rejections in the night, instead of getting upset, reframe the situation as you are just having fun. you will start to care less, and therefore do better.

i pretty much always get rejected at the start of the night for the first few sets.

try viewing it like a computer game. once you get blown out. you press restart adn try another. its fun.

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I guarantee it's not your planning, but instead your execution that is causing them to run away. The reason all those guys are able to get some action in just a few minutes is because their confidence is at 100% and they don't give a shit what happens. This confidence is both very obvious and very attractive to women, and the guys are able to execute it in a way that doesn't look creepy because they know it's not a big deal.

Conversely, I have a feeling you don't feel very confident when you put your hands on their waists. You probably do it awkwardly, slowly, and cautiously, right?

And think of it this way: you would love for a beautiful woman to come up to you and kiss you at random, right? Girls feel the same exact way, and that's why they don't resist when a confident and attractive guy does it to them. But it's the man's place to initiate and take control of the situation so that's why it never happens the other way around.