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PostPosted: Sat Jul 28, 2012 5:53 am 
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Ok guys.
So for my summer job i work groundskeeping for my local school board, basically drive to schools and cut grass.
Anyways every morning we go for coffee before we go cut.

And sometimes at this coffee shop there is city workers who also stop by this coffee shop for coffee (They are students).

Anyways, there is this girl in this bunch of city workers (6) she is 1 of 2 girls.
She is very cute. She isnt a 10 or anything like that but she is a good looking girl to me. Her job is to pull weeds / plat flowers at the gardens around the city (I like this because it shows she isnt the average girly girl waitress etc).

So today i was walking from the coffee shop to our work truck across the parking lot , parked right neear there work trucks. And anyways there crew of 6 was talking in a circle as i was walking across. When she noticed me walking across, she just looked at me basically the whole time. (What does this mean?). Its not like i was wearing neon or had funny hair.

The main thing out of this is that i think i want to approach her and take her out on a date or go for a coffee (after work hours). Id ask for her name and number? or Just name and then ask to add on fbook?
I noticed that she occasionally goes into the mcdonalds for coffee by herself while the rest of her crew goes to the coffee shop. Or either way i think i could talk to her alone somehow somewhere during there coffee break. I think i could approach her. But how ? And i think i would be a little afraid/ nervous..

Please send tips guys!


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PostPosted: Sat Jul 28, 2012 9:23 pm 
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Don't do the Facebook shit. I just want to get that out of the way first and foremost. Asking a girl for her name to do the Facebook shit takes just as big of balls as it does to ask for her number, except you have a significantly lesser chance of success of things taking off on Facebook.

So, you haven't spoken to her yet, right? I'm also assuming you want to take a more conservative approach to this situation since you said you're afraid/nervous, which is perfectly understandable. Next time you see her alone, just go up to her and ask her about her work. "Hey, you work for XXXX, right?" and go from there. Introduce yourself, suggest that you two get lunch the next day, and get her number.


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PostPosted: Sun Jul 29, 2012 5:52 am 
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Thanks for the response Snarg, i really appreciate it.

Ok i will not do anything with facebook. I will just ask for her number.

And i have never spoken to her yet. I really like the approach suggestion! I will have to use it on monday if i see her! (And yes i am nervous/afraid)

When i seen her on Friday she was having a conversation with her 6 co workers in the parking lot. But when she noticed me walking a across, she just watched me for a solid 3-4 seconds. Does this mean anything? Could this mean she is interested in me?

i love this site. Its making me feel alot more confident and wanting to take action!


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PostPosted: Sun Jul 29, 2012 1:51 pm 
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There's no way of knowing if she's interested until you approach her. That's the biggest hurdle to overcome with this kind of thing - you'll never be 100% sure a girl is interested in you, so it really just boils down to sucking it up and going for it. The thing is, most women aren't going to be rude even if they aren't interested. Literally, the worst thing that can happen is she'll say something like "I'm really sorry but I have a boyfriend" when you ask for her number. Nothing awkward or painful about that, I promise.


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PostPosted: Sun Jul 29, 2012 4:57 pm 
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Thanks again for the response Snarg!

You are really making me feel comfortable/relaxed with approaching her.
This is just weird for me, i dont think i know anyone who would approach a random girl on the street like this, everyone i know meets girls through other people. I think this will be a huge confidence booster for me to even approach other women and other people.

The one thing that makes me never approach a girl is the bf thing. But i just need to realize that there is nothing awkward or painful about hearing that. And i shoudl rather think of it as just gaining experience with speaking to random ppl on the street.

And thanks again Snarg! Words cannot describe how much i appreciate your responses!


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PostPosted: Sun Jul 29, 2012 8:33 pm 
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Maybe she's aching for you to approach her and every day thinks to herself "is this the day he makes a move, cmon,cmon" it's the mans job to approach not the womans, it's your duty as a man to do it.


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PostPosted: Mon Jul 30, 2012 12:59 am 
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Ya i hope so Melodical.
And ya , i wish women would approach, but things dont come easy; you got to work for it. (This is prob my main problem lol, but after reading the forum i have learned alot. And i will deff be doing alot of approaching in the future instead of being a pussy lol)


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PostPosted: Mon Jul 30, 2012 8:17 pm 
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Woke up today and first thing i thought was im not going to be able to do this.
Then after that brief moment of talking nonsense i told myself i can and will do this.

Anyways went to the coffee shop td and they werent there; i guess they took there coffee break at a different time. Waited around a bit to see if theyd show but nothing. I did see her though, she was working at one of the center median gardens near the coffee shop.

I plan to update the thread until i speak to her.
It motivates me to talk to her (even though i already really want to), so u guys can see the results.

Hopefully she is at the coffee shop tomorrow! Then i will make my move!
:)

If anyone has any tips or questions please post!


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