Hey All,

Any insight into how to reignite interest from a woman? Just read all of Stormy's post (11-vt34530.html?postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=150) and the shock and awe method. Shit got weird with a girl I wanna slay, I am trying to bring her back into my frame/reality but she seems hesitant. This is after her being all over me and trying to fuck, but I wasn't feeling it so we didn't. I embarrassed her in front of some friends later too..whoops!

Any tips on how to get her to drop her defense and get into my zone?

THANKS!!!

she showed interest, you rejected her, and now you want her?

you've acted like a woman

Dont need an opinion I need some strategies of attack!

Well I don't think she has lost interest in you, I think she is just uncomfortable and insecure. Rejecting women sexually kind of short-circuits their brain and they don't know how to respond to it. It makes them very insecure about their attractiveness and makes them question if they had BO, bad breath, a booger in their nose, something in their teeth, etc.

As the man, women will take your lead. So if you act weird about it, she will too. Your best bet is to act like you don't care what happened. Invite her to hang out casually and observe her behavior. If she is showing interest again, make a move. If she is acting cold ask her why.

More tips: http://romancecheater.com/dont-be-afrai ... hip-drama/

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I like that right there! I should probably add some details...

I work with her and got HAMMERED at a work happy hour and was all over her, which was lets just say, not appropriate, haha. She freaked out after that, said she didn't want drama at work and it would be weird and that we shouldn't do it. Been cold for 3 weeks now. I hit up this past weekend via text and she actually responded positively, albeit a bit reserved-we didnt hang. I am getting the neutral SPAM in the office, the disinterested vibe. She's either made up her mind and and over it or pushing pretty hard against her emotions! And I'm just chilling out, being friendly.

That probably changes things haha!

bump

Usually I'd just say move on.

BUT, in this situation the knowledge that you two work together and are seeing each other a lot is actually playing in your favour since you can pick whatever frame you want to go by (one that will make her attracted to you).

Unless you did something completely against her values that she could never forgive about she will change her mind about you so many times that it's all up to you.

I don't know her personality and what she is attracted to, you might want to consider a mature frame projecting "I did not intend to embarrass you in and would like to stay quite cold and calm" or a playful frame with the mindset of "Why are you so serious? Calm down and have some fun".


Yours,
Oxy

Well I am not sure what would qualify as totally breaking her moral code. Tell me if you think this would break a code: Getting really drunk, grinding on her in front of her co-worker friends (like 4 of them) when that wasn't really appropriate for the vibe, and then--because I was in the dark on how she was handling our little romance-- getting upset because she was, in my drunken mind, flirting all over one of our co-worker's friend. I much later after she left the bar sent her a lewd text about fucking her brains out. Totally out of character. I apologized in the morning for it all via text as I was away the weekend--no response.

Anyways, at work I am totally cool and chill. She very very very rarely speaks to me directly and only indirectly if a group conversation begins. Whenever that does happen, she always looks at me a lot. I take that as a good sign; however, her demeanor is cold and it's as if she is afraid now and putting up a wall to me: avoiding me directly yet seems to tentatively listen and want to be around me indirectly. I don't want to be direct at work as I think it would be slightly tasteless, but I don't know how to break the wall--I texted her last weekend and she seemed to respond positively but we didn't hang out. Not too keen on doing that again this weekend. There is a work party Saturday we're going to. See how that goes!

Everyone should read/listen to Eckhart Tolle.

because shes a co-worker and you have to deal with her every day, the worst thing you can do is continue to chase her and get nowhere. the more she rejects you the worse itll be. so what id say is:

1. immediately stop chasing her. make no sexual advances at all.

2. try to advance the friendship first. stay on friendly terms. text her funny shit occasionally. talk to her at work. invite her out with a group of people. whatever. get back on friendship terms. it seems like youve already started doing this so thats a good thing.

3. let her see you interacting positively with other girls. the best way to do this is to make other girls laugh at work. obv tons of other ways too.

4. continue to game other girls. duh. that way she wont be the only thing on your plate and you wont end up with the dreaded 1itis.

those are the big ones. now obviously if you get the opportunity to fuck her at any point you should do it. especially if you two end up drunk and/or alone somewhere. but dont force it and let it just happen naturally if the opportunity arises.

imo you can definitely re-attract her but its gonna take some work. shes obv still likes you on some level so start with that and go from there. keep us posted.

Thanks for the post!

Update: Didn't end up going to the co-worker party on Sat night--ended up chilling with some other girls and what not:) The party was turning into something a little exclusive so I wasn't into it.

The girl and I didn't talk over the weekend but I sent her a witty pic/text on Sunday because I had work to do at the office. Got a response but I wasn't looking for convo so that was it.

At work now. 0 interaction. Not bothering me at all. 1 Group convo--I am chill and I feel her trying to not look at me; could be bad or good... Looked up and caught her looking at me. Locked eyes for a sec and she looked away. She said something to try to get me to say something to her today (I.e. "huh?" or "what?") while I was talking to a friend about something. I didn't answer her as she was totally not involved.

That's it for an update!

So it has been going smoothly; she is on vacation right now, but we are talking again, outside of work. By that I mean texting. Anyways I have a question:

How from here can I escalate? If I believe there is still something going on, I am unsure how to play my hand as I am definitely not going to do anything overt at work. Any advice?

bump

Can a brotha get a reply??!

BUMP!

You're coming on really strong. Keep in mind: you work with this girl. Some would call that shitting where you eat, but it doesn't have to be if you are careful about it.

Your best bet right now it to be busy. You're giving her this attention; don't think she doesn't notice it. The best thing to do right now is to withdraw a little bit and see if she notices.

Don't be rude or dismissive with her at work, but you're a busy guy and you've got a lot of things to do.

In doing this, you're either going to get the best of her curiosity and draw her in or you'll meet someone else. Win-win.

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