| Compliance defined:
Gain compliance is your way to ensure she's on board, in agreement, into you... etc....
Maverick from PUA Lingo says this: "Compliance can be used as a way to gauge the level of attraction or comfort that a woman feels for you. Generally, the more willing that a woman is to comply with your requests, the more attracted she is to you.
In a relationship, the person who is able to get the most compliance often has the most power in a relationship. Thus, in a work setting, a manager has a lot of power because he or she is able to get others to comply with the requests. In pickup, the more alpha and dominant characteristics a man can display, the more likely he is to get compliance.
Compliance can be a good way to set precedence in an interaction, and get a woman used to the idea of doing what you say. This can be accomplished with a yes-ladder of gradually increasing requests, which slowly builds up her compliance threshold.
Women also often use compliance tests to try to shift the power dynamic in their favor."
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There are 3 differing compliance types. Physical compliance, Logistical compliance and emotional/verbal compliance.
Physical: obviously kino escalation falls under this. Starting off with a high-5, thumb wrestling, back-handed playful slaps to begin - as it builds an air of comfort, that you're friends and you're treating her as you would a friend. She's allowing it - she is complying. Then, as the time progresses, the touch escalates. You're implanting that this is OK to do, you're both comfortable and smiling - and the advancement of your touch is espected, wanted and enjoyed.
Logistical: The way points in a set that offers you the opportunity to get the girl to leave WITH you. Initially, you need to obviously open that set, feel the roles in the set, understand the group dynamic and then lock in (puts you as the social center of their group). As an example - if you're in a set, start a story and lean back against a wall; as they come forward to listen - they're logistically complying to you. You've owned the set. From there, calibrate and see if you can move the target IN or OUT of the venue. When you're ready to bounce with her - ensure you've dropped where you're planning on leaving to earlier on, and it won't be a shock to her. It'll be a natural progression....
Emotional/verbal compliance: Who leads the set? Who leads the interraction? If you're doubting or unsure - it's not you. Are her words in congruence with her emoions? Does her body language lie to you as opposed to what she is saying? If you're feeling a disconnect, you're not where you need to be to escalate further. Tonality of your voice, emotions you share back are all common events in a relationship. You can use that 'mindset' and guage where she is. Well-placed boiler-platecomments about feelings/emotions can illicit a response from her that is chocked-full of information.
Use compliance tests to steer her where you want the relationshgip to go (bed, couch, long-term, whatever...). It's your ability to show YOU are in control, it's natural and either she A) complies and is awarded with your company (and you - hers), or B) there is no compliance and you bounce set and start over. Either way - you don't wait incessantly for 'something' to happen. You make it happen.
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