I didn't find a sex section here.

Anyway, I'm not really a pro in bed and would like to know how to make her ridiculously turned on and then orgasm. Any techniques? links?

let's see. foreplay. lots of it. talk dirty to her. be dominant. pull her hair and bite her.
go down on her. tongue and fingers. try different styles. you will know what works best.
then bang her hard.

just a quick intro to the topic. there's so much more to be said.

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With my target demo, I've seen the following trend:

- Most like it hard. Look in a junkyard, I've never seen a pussy in a junkyard. I don't think you can break one. If you go too hard/deep; she will tell you.


- Keep a steady rythmn. Most will reach orgasm with a steady rythmn, either deep, slow and long... or hard and furious - DON'T stop when she's close. Help her through. Your back may hurt later - but her release will make you feel like a fucking champion.


- Eat her properly. Until you learn how to lick, what pressure to use, what part of the tongue, where her goodie spots are, when/how to use fingers in conjunction with your tongue -- lick the alphabet on her clitoris (gently and increase pressure if she responds and needs more intensity). If you're not sure where the clitoris is... consider it 'under the hood'. At the top of her pussy, where the lips join, just underneath it....


- Learn fingering skills. Fingering her and eating her out work WELL when you need to slow down to not cum. A small percentage of women have the propensity to squirt (be prepared, I keep thick towels at my bed when I know I'm getting Western...), help them. I read the Lesbian Kama Sutra to learn how to make a woman squirt after hearing rumors about it years ago... Quick description: With her on her back, you're on your knees at her side. Insert the middle and ring fingers all the way in, and lift the fingertips slightly. There is a small area of skin internally on her that isn't quite as smooth as the rest back there...this is the G-spot. Woman have described their G-spots as "up the stairs, back bedroom, upper window". It's real. With your fingers, move them in and out, lift them slightly and scrape the G-spot gently with your smooth fingertips (no nails!). You can also put your other hand over her stomach and touch the palm of your hand with your inserted fingers with only her skin separating your hands. You will feel the cervix (small soft cone-shaped deal a little further back). Watch her reactions... either stimulating the fingers around the cervix, or in front and above may work - women are different. Ask them if you have to. If you're fucking her properly, you can ask during and you won't feel like an idiot. All you're doing is learning about her body and how to pleasure her better... it's not "AFC"... It's not "DLV"... It's learning what it takes to get this woman off - and if that's NOT your point: don't fuck her.


- Find out if she likes dirty talk. Experiment a little. See how she responds. Some women love it when a man truly KNOWS when to TAKE her. When I can cold read that... I'll hit it hard from behind, pull her hair back and say "Who's pussy am I fucking?"... It's powerful. I'll say "Damn I wish you could see this... my cock sliding inside of you is so fucking hot..."...


- Change up:

-- Put one leg up when you're hitting it doggie. Push down slightly on her lower back, put your right hand on her left ass cheek as it will slightly change your angle of insertion. Tell her to back into it a while and be her cheerleader as she fucks you.

-- Put her on hands/knees on the bed - you stand on the side of the bed and hit it doggie as you stand and she kneels. Put one of her legs out to the side and on the bed and continue to hit it with deep, full, consistent strokes.

-- When in missionary, keep her on her back, you get on your knees, lift her ass slightly and pull it closer. Push down on her thighs (pushing them towards her chest) and piston-fuck her. Have her rub her clit. Maintain direct eye-contact. At the last second when you're almost fully inside, rock your hips slightly down and forward to ensure you're inside her the furthest you can go (if she isn't too petite). Having that full insertion at the end illicits a squeal in some cases...

-- When she's on top, tell her to ride it. Tell her to make that dick her own. Tell her how hot she looks. Pinch her nipples gently. Pull her down, kiss her deeply, grab her ass and jackhammer for a while.

-- Stop mid-stream on occasion and just change position. Growl on occasion as well. It's a gutteral instinct (anmialistic implanting) and she'll like it... Ask forgiveness moreso than permission (unless attempting to play the back nine). Fuck her missionary, then pull out, and move up and put your cock in her mouth.

-- Learn how to touch a woman's breasts. If they're really big - IGNORE them at the beginning. MOST guys will attack them - be different.

-- If you're well endowed... the greatest DHV you can give yourself is bringing her off several times BEFORE you ever fuck her.

-- READ voraciously. The 'net has GREAT fetish stories. I'm not selling "fucking goats" as a home game, mind you... I'm suggesting D/S stories (for example) offer great ideas, techniques, and a new nuance to fucking that you may not have considered. I consider myself an 'erotic geek'. If there is ANYTHING I can read, watch, discuss in order to make me a better lover - I'll do it.

For me.... I want her to know without a doubt that when she's done - she KNOWS she was fucked - well. I want her sore the following day. Literally sore... And - not only will she thank me, she'll want a repeat...


Hope that helps...

RR

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All of the above is great. Also, practice makes perfect. And try to get out of your head, don't get too focused on the mechanics and really enjoy it. Otherwise it will feel cold and robotic to her.

RR - have you read that 50 Shades of Grey that is doing the rounds? Just about every woman I know is reading it and I have to say, I have been tempted just to see what the fuss is about (and pick up some tips lol)

To be honest, I've avoided it on purpose. I'm aware of the overall theme, but not the finite detail - on purpose: plausible denaibility - I'm not lying when I say I've not read it....

Women talk about it all the time - I act as if it's not that interesting until THEY push the sexuality further... then we discuss it... Very erotic in nature.... BUT - you can ease into talks of D/S, and pull back at the same time using the book as an example of what not to do... "They have contracts in the book? Wow, yeah that's too much. I love to play - but I don't need that shit..." or... "We can ramp this up if you're really turned on by it..." or... "I'm not into hurting, humiliating or insulting.. but I'll spank that ass."....

So... I won't read it, but I'll use it as a way to segue into me fucking her faster...



RR

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Yeah, I've not read it, but women I talk to all go crazy over it. I like what you said about using what you need, talking about the contracts being over the top etc. I'm gonna steal that haha

The reason it is in my head is I was out with a girl a couple of weeks ago who told me she loved the book before I really know what it was - date wasn't really going too well, I wasn't really feeling it (plesant enought but nothing there really), and when we came to say goodbye I went for the kiss and got it, then tried pulling her hair and she just about came there in the street. The harder I pulled the more she loved it. Since then I have used it as a bit of a routine (but most of the time they bring it up) and it is easy to escalate from. Just wondered if reading it would give anything else that would help.

But to be honest I do know a guy who read it and he said its like it was written by a 12 year old, so don't think I have the patience for it anyway

Go for the kiss earlier in the evening. Then you'll never wonder 'if' you'll get the goodnight kiss.

If you've already kissed her during the date - escalation past the goodnight kiss is far more likely...




RR

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Nice - have to say I have only ever gone for the kiss at the end of the date. I'll try that next time. Then try it again until I have it mastered lol.

Cheers.

Ya, I heard from a few people that spelling the alphabet with your tongue works really well.

When it comes to sex, you must keep in mind her having an orgasm is purely cerebral, you can't get her to cum until you own her mind. A woman can have an orgasm by imagining something is happening to them. At the same time a woman doesn't need to focus on being aroused to have sex, a woman can be thinking about doing laundry, getting homework done, or anything else.

If you were to take a basic look at the NLP systems you are going to want to put her in the feel system. This means getting her to focus on how good it feels. She shouldn't be hearing or seeing stuff but feeling how good the stimulation is for her. Rather than worrying about getting a woman to orgasm focus on getting her to focus on the pleasurable sensation you are giving her.

This is a big reason foreplay is so big for women, getting a woman in the mood for sex is just as big as knowing what to do. If you know what to do in bed but have to wait for her to be in the mood you are doing something wrong.

Pay attention to all of a woman's erotic zones during foreplay: Breasts, Midsection, Ass, Hips, Neck, Thighs. Hair pulling is also a must learn if you haven't learned, almost every woman loves her hair pulled if you do it right.

The Vagina is an obvious erotic zone but playing around it without touching it can be a great tease for a woman making her tense up.

Foreplay starts at the pick up.... You should start building sexual tension at pick up. As kino escalates your hands should be moving to far more erotic areas.

Warped Mindless wrote up a Great Sexual escalation blog right here http://realnaturalseduction.wordpress.c ... ion-guide/

When it comes to actual sex really it's reactionary to how much she is enjoying it. A woman may want you to rail her hard and 3 minutes later want you to go soft. It really is moment to moment, you need to react to her and what she needs at this moment. Going slow, or fast, deep or not. All is moment to moment, if she is becoming more aroused by your action repeat, maybe pause for a tease and repeat. That really is it, being in complete control. If you are having trouble reading arousal you can read my arousal blog here http://scienceofnaturalgame.com/2012/04 ... roduction/ My arousal video from Does She Like Me? is also on there.

Your hands should move all around her body while you are having sex with her. Your hand should be on her hips, neck, pull her hair, everything, hit all of the erotic zones you can. I will often bite a girls tit during orgasm she can handle up to 50% more pain and believe it or not it's a really good pain for her, she enjoys the extra stimulation.

You need to learn the anatomy of a woman, no the clit, the anus, g-spot, the vagina, the labia, etc. Learn it, know your way around her anatomy and you will already be head and shoulders above most men. Here is a decent little write up I found for you http://www.luckymojo.com/faqs/altsex/vulva.html

I have 4 write ups on sex on my blog: How to Lick a Clit, A Woman's Cerebral Orgasm (start with this one if you do) , Female Erotic Zones, and Anchoring to Orgasm (Prerequisites for this one). I don't want to advertise my blog by linking but they are in the menus up top if you click on my blog in my signature. EVERYTHING IS FREE OF COURSE GUYS.


Peace and Love

Vic

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