Hi people,

Never thought it will happen to me as I am usually very careful with regards to relationship. I got to meet this new girl over the past 2 weeks or so and started chatting and talking to her. She is a foreigner so she's new to the country. I actually ask her out on one of the weekend to do some hiking and also for a dinner/ supper date. Found out during the day that she had recently got attached to a local guy around 1 mth ago and they are going on a holiday in 2 mths time. She didn't tell me anything about the new bf in our previous conversations and I couldn't read any clues that were pointing to that. In fact, during our outing, I don't see her acting as if she is in a relationship (like talking about bf). It is as if the bf did not bother to show her around or bring her around on activities that couple will do during their honeymoon period.

I know some may not agree with me but I feel like pursuing my relationship with her further. I feel that we have great chemistry and comparing to her new 1 mth old bf, I win hands down on all aspects. The biggest issue is that we met at the wrong time. If I met her one mth earlier, I believe I will be the one with her instead.

Should I continue asking her out ? I know that a 1 mth old relationship is not that strong but they do like each other enough to go on a holiday together. I don't even think they dated for long prior to that, maybe only 1 -2 weeks?

So I have friends who tell me to go for her and also some who tell me to back out. I want to be the nice guy but I also know nice guys normally finish last.

If I am going to continue my current course of action, my ultimatum will be by the time if she leave for the o/s holiday.

Did she friendzone you?

That's important....

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Peruse as though the other dude does not exist!

as far as "Nice Guy"

my advice is this: It's
great that you're nice (to an extent), but have some
backbone. Don't be a spine donor all your life. When
your girl is out of line, say something. Don't let her
walk all over you. Occasionally, be a "bad" boy (being
bad doesn't translate to abusive or criminal). Say "No"
to her sometimes. Raise your voice and be heard. Say
something dirty/sexy to her occasionally. Drink a few
too many beers and piss out in public. Smack her ass.
Don't ever use the word NICE to describe things,
especially sex (okay, that may be a personal pet peeve).
Have an interest in at LEAST one sport (or pretend to).
Drive 5-10 miles over the speed limit once in awhile.
Run an old lady off the road just for kicks (yeah, I'm
kidding about this one... just ride her bumper for a few
miles). Be aggressive during sex. Take off those damn
white socks and Jesus sandals. Grow a goatee for a few
weeks. Shave your balls. Stray from your routine and
shake things up.

BE A MAN FOR GOD'S SAKE... and the women will fall at
your feet.


If that doesn't work MOVE THE FUCK ON!

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I am not too sure about this but I did drop IOIs on her. Its my first time out with her.

The dinner really went very well but she may have friendzone me initially as she just got newly attached. Not sure whether did her impression change after the day.

for me it's so natural and obvious to smack my GF's ass (and even grope her boobs) - does that need to be suggested

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nice guys don't get laid
"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

Caveman out of it, or be the buddy.

Good luck.


RR

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.