I'm 19 and I have a girlfriend of 18 years old.
I have a couple of practical questions. My girlfriend has never masturbated before, barely touched herself sexually. After some practice I can now fairly easily give her orgasms with my tongue / fingers. She squirts every time --- I'm inclined to say that not every girl squirts so easily but I don't have the experience.
Why is it that she doesn't like to touch herself? She's very open minded about sex and has told me about a lot of her fantasies. She has a very sweet and innocent appearence and likes to keep it that way, but in the bedroom she lets it all go (this is due to me being explicitly non-judgmental/encouraging, I think). She says she just doesn't feel the urge to masturbate. It strikes me as unusual, because she has a very high sex drive otherwise. I have encouraged her to masturbate in front of me, which she tried, but she said she didn't like it. ("it's like tickling yourself, it doesn't work")
Could it be shame? I hardly think so. Maybe she doesn't feel sexy doing it? Hardly think so either, I told her how it turns me on and few instances while she was masturbating I kissed her all over telling her how hot she was --- didn't work for her.
I'm not too concerned seeing as our sex is absolutely great. I just think that it might help her achieve orgasm more easily and better learn what she likes, which would increase the bedroom fun even more.
There are a lot of books on the subject and I going to buy her one. I was thinking of this one:
http://www.amazon.com/For-Yourself-Fulf ... 0451202007
or this one:
http://www.amazon.com/Because-It-Feels- ... pd_sim_b_4
Especially the latter seems to be well received.
Do you guys know a book that would be of interest?
Thanks in advance,
GreenGranted