Several years before I started learning the pick up arts, I carried girls' purses and bags and I still got laid. It wasn't a big deal to me. Now, not one girl is asking me to carry her purse. There was this situation a couple of weeks ago when an HB7 intentionally dropped her hankie on the road and then she asked me to pick it up. I stepped on her hankie, wiped the sole of my shoe on it, and gave her a dirty look. The result? She used to kino me a lot. Now, she no longer does that.

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I really dont know where it comes from, but in here the general idea grows that you cant be nice to a girl/woman or she will never kino you again and think of you as trash.

Common all of you 'advice giving expert PUA's'. Alpha does not mean being a jerk. I dont know what woman would still kino you after you disrespect her things, but i wouldnt call it high quality.

If the purse bother you that much, then for gods sake do like danzella and just say you dont want to. Period! In any other case, you dont mind being seen with a freaking purse.

All this crap that makes you look extra cool and extra badass actually makes you look like you try too hard or like a total asshole. Its embarrassing to read this kind of shit in a community where we are supposed to be experts in interacting with women. What i read here is stuff that might be used by low life scum on low life skanks who were lucky they could even buy a purse for once.

Common, being cool does not equal being alpha. Being a total dick does not equal alpha. Being nice towards a girl does not mean you are not alpha.

cheers

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I disagree with that logic by holding her purse it shows that she trust you and is comfortable with you it does not make you look like a pussy or lower your value if you hold her purse that's just my thought.

Like others have said though, it's a compliance/shit test, some of the posts on here were excellent, I absolutely LOVE the idea of turning and trying to sell the purse to people behind you, it's not that I'm bothered by holding the purse, it was more not wanting to fail her compliance test.

When we're learning PUA, we're taught to use compliance tests to gauge where you are in the pickup, start small "here, give me your hand" and build up "kiss my cheek" etc.. etc.. until you're fucking her.

I agree with this post, some of the advice given in this thread would look awful in certain situations.

If its obvious its a shit test then by all means go ahead and say no in a funny and confident way. But if its a normal interaction when she is asking you for a standard favor then you are going to look like you lack basic social skills.

Yeah, this a topic that is VERY situation heavy. Rather than seeing as a huge test, decide whether or not you want to hold the purse. Not everything is a mind game.

In my case, if this was some chick I just met, and she's asking me to hold her purse, I wouldn't do it. Probably spit out that "I'm allergic to purses" line. I like that. Now as Danzella said, maybe it's a compliance test. I think that's a good way of looking at it. Either way, I wouldn't do it, because I just don't want to hold some strange woman's purse!

Now if there was a girl I had bee with for a couple months, and she asks me to hold her purse while she digs around in a bag of stuff she just bought, then I probably would. Why? Because I don't mind doing it.

Stop always focusing on the girl. You have to also focus on yourself. In PU, I think sometimes we think of the girl as the source for everything. She's giving you shit tests, controlling you, trying to manipulate you, etc. This may be true sometimes, but if you always think like this, then you are giving the woman the power. You need to think more like Jon Favreau in Swingers, picturing the girl as the little bunny rabbit, and do what YOU want to do for no better than reason than YOU want to do it!

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If your stuck (just the two of you) and you have to hold her purse while she uses the toilet, I would open the nearest hb to me while she is away. Just in a joking way with some banter about the purse. When your girl comes back and sees she can't leave you for 5 mins even with her purse in your hands then your value is risen and you don't look like a jerk!

Or you could try, "hold my purse while I go to the loo"! You respond "only if you hold my cock when I go to the loo"

Last ones a joke by the way lol