Hey guys, so I've been progressing slowly but surely. There was a point a few weeks ago where I was very congruent and went quite "direct" in my approach without apologies. I remember it well, that feeling of being natural and just full force honesty in my intent, be it verbal or non-verbal. I wouldn't take shit from girls, etc.

Recently though, I've been try-hard. I can get a few numbers, but I feel I am just trying too hard when I talk to the girl, therefore the power shifts from me to her. Maybe it's because I was just fucking tired today, but still, I want to be able to be congruent and not take girls' shit.

I can keep a conversation going well, if I feel a good vibe I can build sexual tension then and there, but when for example the girl is giving me a little shit, shit testing me a bit, or just teasing, sometimes I waiver - as in I react. In that moment it doesn't matter too much; I don't react negatively, but if I can't think of something witty to say, I just react to her comment in a comedic way, I try to turn it comedic by sometimes "acting hurt" by what she said, sarcastically. But I feel this is try-hard. Falling into her frame?

I just want to be able to go up to her and be like BAM! Not take any of her shit, be honest in my intent, be unapologetic, have full frame control and of course unaffected by her shit tests. I can do this to an extent, some days I am just feeling it more than others, but still.

I'm not sure exactly what I'm asking, but possibly; how do I just become completely grounded within my own reality without wavering at all, keeping my frame in tact? If a girl is showing a lot of interest and is naturally quite submissive, it is easier, but it's those very grounded, almost alpha girls that are still causing me to stumble. I try a little too hard to "win them over".

Any advice appreciated!

Read what you posted because what advice you need is in it. Also instead of trying just do.