My relationship with my g/f has been on the rocks lately, so I've been looking around for a new girl. We usually go out dancing tango every week and are part of a moderately sized social circle. There's this girl Stephanie that I think is pretty cool, and she's HB8 and I know she likes me, and I was thinking that she would be real LTR material. But I found out recently that she had a fling with, and is maybe still sleeping with this guy Chuck. Chuck is a total man-whore, I think one of the reasons he teaches dance is so that he can nail new girls as they start coming to class. He doesn't really have any standards, and has always cheats on his girlfriends, etc.

Now I don't blame Chuck for his behavior, after all, he's a natural at what we're all trying to learn here. But for some reason after learning about him and Steph I see her in a different light now. Like I don't really think of her as LTR material any more. I haven't had my feelings change over something like this before for other women, even ones I know have hooked up with Chuck in the past. I don't know why it's bothering me so much with this one girl. Has anyone else had experience like this? What do you think if a girl sleeps with a raging man-whore? Is that any different from a guy sleeping with a hot slutty girl?

Well, I'm not being judgemental of him, I'm just using man-whore as a descriptive term. I think of a man-whore as someone who has no discretion about who he will fuck. I remember hearing a story from his ex about one girl he cheated on her with and that girl was totally ugly and unattractive. And he said he did her because "she was there." Personally, there are girls that I just won't stick it in, no matter how easy they may be. Fatties and uggo's mostly. It's just that I don't have the interest seeing those girls naked.

You do realise, women have a desire to fuck? So good luck finding a girl who hasn't fucked someone else before you!

This isn't a problem, it's reality. Technically speaking a successful PUA is multiple peoples "left-overs", which is why it's not a healthy mindset to get shitty about which girl slept with who.

@O.P.

You're pretty set on the fact that this does matter to you. Maybe it's time to ask yourself why you feel uncomfortable with knowing that this girl is fucking that guy? And whether this kind of attitude is really going to get you where you want to go?

If there is a history of resentment, competition, envy, or whatever, between OP and Chuck, then by all means it makes sense that Stephanie would lose points. And if she loses enough points she does not get laid. Obvious.

Otherwise, almost any girl will be someone's "leftover".

My right hand has fingered J last night, so technically it's J's leftover and I cannot even jerk off. [/i]

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No you guys misunderstand. I generally don't care about a girl's sexual history. My girlfriend and I have talked about our past sexual experiences, and it doesn't bother me.

Also, Chuck is a friend of mine. He's really fun to hang out with. And when I think about banging some of other girls that I know he's been with, it doesn't bother me.

It's just this one girl. And it only bothers me because she was with him. I'm not "set" on this bothering me; I'd rather it didn't. But I didn't choose to have it bother me, I was just noticing how I felt about it.

I don't know why.

You carnt change a hoe into a housewife heard this saying alot an its a complete load of rubbish if your a pua an your girl has been around then its your job to keep
her from sleeping with other guys

I hardly ever bother talking about girls exs or who they have slept with whats the point because im sure most womens numbers are alot higher than we all think anyway.

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hmm yeah that could be. My impression of her was that she was a bit of a prude. I've known her for the better part of a year so this was a bit of a shock. It shouldn't be; women all just seem to love Chuck so I really shouldn't be surprised.

some girls will spontaneously provide more information than you would ever care to know. it's a form of shit test. been there done that.
you pass by showing you're not judgmental and not affected by any potential comparison

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"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

The only thing one should care about when it comes to a girl and sex is if she has an STD or not. Who she fucks really shouldn't matter. There are maybe a few exceptions but overall it shouldn't matter.

What are the exceptions? Is it the same for you if you're just casually hooking up with a girl, or thinking more about a long term commitment?

The only way that you'll never be bothered with situations like these in the future is to fuck better than Chuck. One study says that 80% of women don't have vaginal orgasms with their sexual partners.

To belong to the Top 1 percent and be the cream of the crop that girls will desire more than Chuck, give girls not one, or two, or three vaginal orgasms for every cum that you make. Give her at least six vaginal orgasms per round. To start up her vaginal orgasms, you should give her at least two clitoral orgasms first. It's not about how many sexual positions that you can do but how much variety of vaginal orgasms can you give her for every position.

To learn some of my Orgasmic Rhythm techniques, check this out: 2-vt133228.html?postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=15

The Top 3 biggest mistakes men make when it comes to sex are:

• 1. Not knowing what a woman's orgasm looks like.
  
  2. Shifting to too many sexual positions without making the girl orgasm in one position.
  
  3. Not knowing where to hit the right spots and sustain hitting and intensifying the pressure in those spots.

When you have the knowledge that majority of women seldom have ONE vaginal orgasm with their sexual partners and you have badass skills in giving women multiple VAGINAL orgasms, you can no longer be bothered with such thoughts.

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whore be whore, have STD check.

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Then we are all whores and sluts, how much will vary from one person to another. Best to check your self now.

What exceptions there maybe is if she has slept with a family member, or a good or close friend. What one is looking for relationship wise has no bearing here. Yes some girls are better suited for a LTR compared to a one nighter.

why in particular does this bother you?

do you think you have a bit of a madonna whore-complex going on?
(can't love her if you think she is a whore, whores are just for sex and don't deserve love)

at some point you are going to have to realize, this is all in your head, every girl wants to have sex, and their standards do not nessicarily reflect how attractive you are, or that you are better or worse then some other guy, if a girl likes to get around, she will get around, if a girl doesn't like to get around she won't get around, but often times most girls are pretty good about keeping their sexcapades private for fear of being judged, just as how you are judging this girl right now, and you can bet that most attractive girls by the time they have hit 30 have had quite a lot of sex, if you judge them or how you judge them for that is your own issue, if you like a girl then you like her, if you don't, then you don't, girls are no different in this respect (except often they have to hide their sexuality for fear of this right here that you are posting about), alot of guys have an issue with the madonna whore-complex, every girl likes to get down man, get used to it, fact of life, she could seem like the purest goody good girl and paint that picture for you to get you into her, meanwhile she blows a new dude and gets down on the weekly, while you could meet the most obnoxious bad girl going around blatently hitting on guys making out with them in public, but only sleeps with one new guy a year, it's all in your head, just smoke and mirrors

it just boils down to, do you like her, or do you not like her

if you got a bit of a complex going on and you don't like her, that's no big deal, but you will be missing out on a lot of sex when you find that sexuality is a bad thing in women, usually a girl won't even let you see that side of her until she feels that you won't judge her, after a while you realize every girl has a bit of good girl and bad girl in her, it just depends on how you dig it out and how they feel around you