A Confident "Alpha" Man owns his emotions, they do not own him.

A Confident Man doesn't worry about such things, this is the root of the problem.

If you understand attraction, courtship, you realize that some of these guys have SOMETHING going for them. They are attracted to them for a reason, why should one worry about something like a guy with a girl? Jealousy of a total stranger with millions of hot women is quite illogical, irrational and not the behavior of a Confident Man.

The issue is not that he shouldn't feel free to express his emotion, it is that something so ridiculous is effecting him emotionally. WHY? This is an issue, him letting his emotions own him to the point of doing outrageously douchie behavior (wrenching peoples game only makes you a douche bag to them) is not the behavior of a Confident Man.

Do you see what I am saying? It shouldn't be a why him. So much as a good for him, that's awesome that average Joes bag the chick here and there. (Which you did mention.) Who cares if she is with some guy you think is below you? Move on.

Nothing was confident about his mindset, behavior or character. None of this should have effected him, this is the problem. You are confusing understand freedom to express your emotions as confident when the issue really is the motivation for the emotion.

How can you game girls with this mindset? It's horrible to think you should be in this mindset when trying to grab girls, do you think a girl is going to like that? Na you need to be the attractive male and that is not the behavior of an attractive male. Just go out there and be attractive talk to the girl you want be with unless you are going for someone taken.

I'd have to agree that you should just join the social circle and work through a little of it.

Peace and Love

Vic

usually, i don't even go that far. i straight up act as if i'm genuinely interested in what the guys have to say (a little "man to man" convo.), the girls feel left out and come around all by themselves, butting into the convo. i then neg them for it to create a little spark like, "can't you see we're having a conversation, marion? gees" then she's like, "i'm not marion! i'm bianca!" i'm like, "ok, that's great." turn to the guy, "is she always this attention seeking?" she comes around again, this time opens me. then i start gaming her.

I'm not disagreeing with you, man. But I think you're so caught up in this "BE CONFIDENT BE ALPHA" headspace that you've entirely missed my point. Yes, him trying to tool another dude was definitely the wrong thing to do, but don't pretend you don't know what it's like to be frustrated. Being frustrated is what brought you here. Being tired of settling is what made you go out and better yourself. And seeing other guys have what you want is what inspired you to be "alpha."

I'm not telling him to stay home and cry about it, I'm telling him to take that frustration and use and redirect it so that he can go out and get what he wants. Which is (gasp, BIG REVEAL) him owning his emotions and making them work for him.

Saying "be confident" and "be alpha" is like telling a beginning weightlifter to "be strong". Obviously the guy has his own inner game issues to sort out, but the soap-box reaction and lack of empathy seemed too cheesy for me to let slide. Again, I don't disagree that he had the wrong headspace, but stop drinking the Kool Aid. You were there once too.

usually, i don't even go that far. i straight up act as if i'm genuinely interested in what the guys have to say (a little "man to man" convo.), the girls feel left out and come around all by themselves, butting into the convo. i then neg them for it to create a little spark like, "can't you see we're having a conversation, marion? gees" then she's like, "i'm not marion! i'm bianca!" i'm like, "ok, that's great." turn to the guy, "is she always this attention seeking?" she comes around again, this time opens me. then i start gaming her.

But sometimes it is a bit frustrating. And I actually enjoy the frustration associated with this game.

I think it's frustrating because rejection bothers guys. But optimally, I don't think it should.

I think most men (including me..) have gone through or are in a period where rejection or negative speech against your ego is terrifying. The thought of getting rejected can be as scary as being shot or stabbed. But it's NOT like being shot or stabbed. You're still alive and healthy afterwards, so it's really no big deal, you can move on and continue talking to other women.

And I think that's the point where a lot of guys get good, when they drop their ego, and realize being turned down is harmless. At least that's the way it worked for me. Once I stopped caring, I started picking up.

I'm no PUA teacher, but another primary recommendation I'd have is to make it FUN. If you aren't worried about rejection, you can start just getting joy from the interactions themselves, even if the woman you talk to doesn't care to fuck you. Fun is key, have lots of it. Fun Fun Fun!