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USA Florida, I just graduated High School a month ago, So me and my "girl" have been dating for 3 months, and have been official for 1 2/5 months.
Situation:
So First I want to bring you in on what kinda girl I'm dealing with, this girl is independent, has a job, just got her car recently, and has been with older guys in the past that have their shit together, fresh outta high school Im trying to get a job, just got my learners lic. and going for the full lic. soon.
I was really looking forward for this to be an LTR. In the beginning we were really strong, going to each others Proms, texting every day, and then... school ended
At first all was well cause we could see each other after school, but now instead we just started seeing each other ONCE a week, cause of her freakin JOB, and on that time she had to BABYSIT her siblings, so we couldn't really see each other as much as wanted, and I couldn't really blame her.
Point is I told her that she needed to put in more effort or I'd break up with her, a bit more than a week, and the less effort by her happened again so I called her out...
So because of the fact that we've been seeing each other once a week with company 2x in a row, and the fact we've started fighting regularly I came to see her and talk to her on that and the fact that she started putting in less effort in again. So when I came to talk to her, long story short we ended up saying "basically":
GF: She started saying she had lost her "sparks" for me
Me: (Of course cause of all the time we haven't had together) I said to her, This happened once before, on our month anniversary 2 weeks ago, what if we could fix it like last time with a 1 on 1 where kino & kissing could be the cure again.
GF: And she said, Sure why not but even if that did fix it, witch I doubt cause, sure I'm attracted to you physically, but (this part killed me) -EMOTIONALLY- I'm just not there anymore. Anyways I also just feel like, I'm too busy for a relationship now, with collage coming & everything else...
We then decided to do that one final date, but then she said after that "she'll see" (if afterwards the date brings back the sparks or not ), so then I told her to not do me any favors, I said "if she felt like she did not like me anymore, then whats the point, that's defeating the final's date purpose already", so then I said "we'll just have to break up"
And just like that we mutually broke up.
GF: And then she said "I still like you though, I just don't see us in a relationship, I still want to see you now and then, talk to you maybe hang out in the future"
Me: "No, how could I just hang around as a friend, the wouldn't be fair to me beacuse looking into the past I would never progress into a new relationship"
Conclusion:
I've had to re-post this entire thing but, I would have said "I want her back, how do I get my gf back!". But now it's been a week, coming to reality... Whats my best bet guys to just forget about it? Move on to better chicks and such.
Also I wanna learn from this, so it doesn't happen to me again with another girl. How would I have not lost the Emotional Connection? Can some one explain it to me, like what should I have done to keep that connection? _________________ 
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