Been seeing a girl exclusively since new years and i have been playing her quite cold recently she rings me every day and she is the one who always initiates contact. She got upset about this recently because one day she didn't ring me and i never rung her and she was upset that we didn't speak for a day and that i never call. Any way a couple of weeks ago we went out and i got drunk and i kept going out side for fags she got really pissed off because i was not with her etc. We got into an argument and i left her and went to a party. She text me the next day saying "I wish we would stop arguing when we go out its getting unbearable. call me when you want to talk. going to sleep soon x" I didn't reply then i got this message then next day "could you tell me why your ignoring me?" followed an hour later by this "I'm really sorry if I upset you it wasn't my intention. I know I can be difficult at times. I do suffer from depression and it affects my mood. I realise all this arguing is damaging and it's something I need to work on. You know how much I love you and it's breaking my heart not talking to you. Please call me so we can work this out. Love ... xxx"

I rung her and we sorted it out. We arranged to go on a tripple date this weekend and i notified her two days before saying i wanted to watch the boxing so would be out a bit late but was still coming she wasn't happy at all but said it was ok. I got there after the boxing and she was really drunk she said she wanted to see if i would watch the boxing or come meet her blah blah blah. she was in a horrible mood with me, later in the night she tried to chat up my friend to piss me off for like 20mins i ignored her and just chatted to her friend i then said "your trying to make me jealous" to which she denied in a joking way. I then went back to hers in the taxi which is rather far from me and she just said you can't come in and paid for the taxi fair to which i had to pay extra to get back home. I just asked her if she was kidding and she just went inside. I then get a text from her today saying "i know i'm making you unhappy. We need to talk x"

Advice guys i want to keep this girl and i know i obviously need to show her more attention but don't want to fall into any traps. I didn't call her today i just couldn't i was to angry and thought i might make it worse if i did. But need to sort this out quickly so advice asap please.

Thanks

Salut Dan! First you need to know what you really want, and make sure that she fits in your standars. If you really want her, i feel sorry about this, but you need to turn off that "Jerk mode". She is asking for attention and for some reason you are not giving it to her. I'm going to tell you what I would do:

I would call her and explain that I was upset and that was the reason I did not call. Also I would explain, what I don't like about her, and what she could do to be a better GF. Some people say that you have to accept the person in the way they are, but honestly we have to fix some stuffs in order to get along with our partner.

I would go into "Nice guy" mode. If you want to keep her, let her know. Because right now she is thinking that you are not doing your part. I know girls like jerks and all of that, and you know your GF better than us, but it seems like she needs attention from you and she does not know how to ask for it, that is why is making this drama, about we have to talk... Remeber girls dont think logically, they think my emotion and if you explain the roots of your actions she would understand.

Make sure that you really want to keep her, please dont sweet talk her and you are not feeling her, that messed me up a lot. I used to sweet talk all the girls and they were expecting more than what I could offer.

Bonne chance Dan!!

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OK think ill go with something close to that. Any more help will be much appreciated i'm going to ring her later today.

I will only add that if you don't want to talk to her everyday, (and quite honestly, who would want to talk to their gf everyday? That's where the term "ball and chain" comes from) then just tell her.

any human being I assume

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