Hello Community,
I'm 20 years old. I'm from and currently study in the Netherlands.
My youth wasn't an easy one. I've been bullied for years and can't even remember if I ever had a normal time on my previous schools. It all started at the primary school. I was the one that got picked on every single time, without an obvious reason. It wasn't easy and even the teachers said they couldn't protect me anymore.
Luckely there is a thing called time, and it passes. I finally got into high school. However, I was an uncertain boy and kids notice that. I had a rough time again: No friends, nobody to talk to. Except for the last year. I finally managed to get things a bit straight and found people that I could at least talk to and have fun with.
Now, that year was the first good one I had. I got more certain of myself and the silence was broken. Finally I could have a bit of a normal life.
For 2 years now I've been going to college. I have a life that's normal and a cool inner circle. I'm not shy anymore and I have 0 problems talking to random people. College formed me in a good way. However, I'm still a bit shy in doing a lot of things, like escalation and I keep having issues with feeling uncertain.
But, now the reason why I actually am on this forums: I have no problems going for the first steps. I have a fun conversation, it all goes well... But at this point, I do not know what to do, if she has any interest or how to escalate. Friends usually say afterwards when a girl was showing interest, but I cannot read it in any way.
Another problem I keep having is that I am a typical Mr. Nice Guy. I've had this issue for quite a while now. I know it's a problem and still I want everyone to like me. I don't do things which makes people to may not like me, and if I do I'm nervous for hours about how they may think of me.
I hope this community can help me overcome both issues, since I think they're related.
Anyways, thanks for reading my post. I hope you can help me
CHAT