Guys, girl in my area who i chat to every now and then on Facebook. I see her around town now and again and it's a case of, she finds me 'fit' and me likewise. And there's an attraction when we speak on FB. Loves being teased, and laughs at my jokes, etc. But it doesn't really lead to anything (though it can, and probably will) because i've not pushed it, as such.

I remember reading on here, you shouldn't ask a girl out. You should tell her. How would you guys go about it?

'listen, i'm going to blah blah, You're coming, right?'

With the plan being to nail her after receiving the IOI's, etc.

Learn from my mistake here. If you keep up what your doing, just chatting her up and "making her laugh" too long. All your ever gonna be is Pen Pals. That's it. All your really gonna do is be a entertainer for them and nothing else.

Think of abundance mentality. As if your talking to 10 other girls right now. You would not give a fuck and just ask her out right? Do exactly that. Right now, all your really doing is being afraid of rejection.

To ask her out. Invite her to an event like a friends birthday, join you for a hobby you enjoy and teach her that, if nothing else is going on, just set up a date at a fun spot, like bowling.

To increase your chances her getting to come out, keep the invite flirty, and don't ask. Keep the assumptive frame that she is coming out if she replies with a "maybe" or "she will try."

Example:


You: My good friends birthday this Saturday. Secret mission is the get the bday boy drunk by midnight. Roll through. (keeping the invite flirty)

Her: I got work in morning so If I am not to tired I will (she says maybe)

You: Sweet, is at Xtown and it start 10 sharp. We will make sure he doesn't remember his bday (assuming she is coming. Do not give her all the details yet. I purposely left out the exact address)

Her: Blah blah blah (whatever she says, don't reply back. If she doesn't reply, your can still get her to come out)


Next day few hours before the event.

You: Here is the address XXXXXXXXX. We got so much alcohol! Making a pit stop and picking up 2 bottle 7up or Sprite would be so awesome (Your still assuming she is comming, but your making her jump through hoops. In this case, is 2 bottle of 7 up which cost less then 3 $. No other guys do that)


This is pretty much a blueprint. I don't remember the exact texting word for word but I had a flaky girl show up doing this for my friends bday. Same concept for other things, even like going bar hopping. Is not gonna always work, but it should increase your odds. Don't be a retard and adapt to what your gonna do with her. For example, if your taking a girl bowling, you would not ask her to bring bottle of 7 up.

Cheers Ouch. I think she'd be up for it. Though i think she'd hold back because she's shy and 'wouldn't know what to say'. Which is why you game her i suppose. A bit of a wild dog after some alcohol though. Which would be a good start! Cheers

I should add, If your gonna do a date like bowling, dave and buster, try to have her meet you at your place.

Ok, so she was telling me how she's fed up being lonely and constantly in watching tele. So replied with....

Me: Then that's settled. I'm going out in a few weeks when i get back from holiday. I'll pick you up beforehand. Or, you can pop round for pre drinks.

Her: Oh will you? And how do you know i wanna come?...

Me: It's either that, or watching tele, right?

Her: Right

Now what? Think i played it alright? Or did i.....

Your fucked. She just realised what you are trying to do.The only comback option is to conpletely change the subject, dont message her today atall. Tomorrow open with a new topic.

Your fucked. She just realised what you are trying to do.The only comback option is to conpletely change the subject, dont message her today atall. Tomorrow open with a new topic.

And what is it i'm trying to do? Today was the first time we spoke in a week. I followed the post above. What is it i did wrong?

Thank you Tony. Could i hit you up on SPAM for quicker responces?

Super! Just added you. Replied to 'Right' with... 'Since i'm more fun than television, and a few other things, i'll see you on the 11th of next month..

To which she replied - Yes you will

Happy with that, though it could be a sarcastic responce.