Hello All,

Right field report from last night. I visited a night club with a few friends and made some approaches. Whilst I had been drinking I managed to control myself so I was by no means drunk. So already a slight progression from my reliance on alcohol.

First approach, was a girl on the dance floor not only was she stunning but she was taller than me so I have to admit slightly intimidating. But I managed to open her and actually find some common ground, she was a bit younger than me so I tried to play on this in a cocky funny kind of way sort "shame you are too young for me" ect. Actually went down well and had a good conversation but really ended up going no where.

Second approach, was in the smoking area. I am sure people know this but it's worth saying again, smoking areas are awesome places to meet girls even if you are a non-smoker such as myself. Began talking to this girl, again had a fair bit in common with her and I was getting on very well. Even starting to build some kind, as I had my hands on her hips. But the guy who was talking to her friend left and so her friend sort of dragged her away. I did try to re-approach her inside but I was sort of stuck as to what to say.

So conclusions on the first approaches were a definite lack of ability to take the next step and even attempt some kind of closing. In hindsight particularly with the 2nd girl I could have got her number as she walked away with her friend.

Final approach, Ok so at this point in the night I was beyond caring and basically went for the apocalypse approach. It was with a women who clearly was looking for it and she herself was approaching most guys. However, she wasn't as easy as I first thought and whilst a lay may have been on the cards she was not worth the groundwork nor could I be bothered as it was about 5am. We had a bit of a dance ect and parted ways when it was clear she would involve some level of work.

Overall relatively happy with my progress but I definitely need to progress into some kind of close. Even a failed attempt would be progress.

Other questions

I wanted an opinion on whether it is a good idea to try to infer that you are a ladys man to girls. Obviously I don't mean saying I have banged a million girls but should you try to give the impression that you are getting a lot of female attention. Why I want to know is because people at work don't particularly know me outside of work so I could potentially build an impression that I am good with girls or at least getting some attention. Do you think this a good/bad idea? And I don't exactly mean lie but give an impression of success.

Second question, Hobbit, if you are still reading, what is your personal approach/philosophy to pick up? I am very interested to hear.

Thanks all

Hobbit, so you would say you are not a guy that approaches strangers? Probably the best way to meet someone you will have a long term relationship with is your way.

OK, but is it good to play on these assumptions or would a girl be put off if she thought you were promiscuous? Guess it depends on the individual and how it is done.

OK thanks for your help hobbit. I hope you don't think just because I choose not follow some of your advice I don't appreciate your help.

So did you go through an initial stage where you went out to approach? I no this really doesn't matter to my game I am just curious.

Right progress report, fair bit to tell since my last post.

Winging

So went out to a local bar with a friend, he is not into pickup (I mean this side of pick up, he tries to chat up girls like any guy does). So he began talking to this girl and she had a friend, it was clear the friend would lead the girl he was talking to distraction so I stepped in and began talking to the friend. She was attractive but it was unfortunate she had a boyfriend (who wasn't there). Either way I carried on talking to her so my friend could get the close. Good fun and it made me feel all warm inside to do a selfless act.

Also as I had no chance of a close I took the opportunity to ask her questions about pick up stuff, as a lot of people recommend. Firstly, she did give some good advice although some of it was very nieve as in "just be yourself". But it was interesting and I did learn from her. It is also an interesting conversation and it kept her engaged.

Day/long game

Right so I tried asking this girl out on a date which if you have read my previous posts is unusual as I tend to only do night game.

So I have asked this girl for drinks and she seems very keen yet she is very flakey on nailing down a time ect. I am sort of taking is a lack of genuine intention to go out with me but at the same time I realised I don't really know this girl that well. I have spoken to her a bit but no more than a few conversations, so my plan going forward is to get to know her a bit better without friend zoning myself and then pushing for drinks. She has asked if I have a girlfriend which I am clinging onto as an IOI and I have been flirty with her. I don't think all is lost.

I hope to have more updates soon.