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Ok, since I believe this one got wiped, let me post it again.
Zip, guys at times have cut-off points regarding who they will date, fuck, be seen with, etc. These cut-off points have to do with many different factors. Age, religion, maturity, education, kids/no kids, income level, status level, and other things. In other words, some guys actually have standards, lol. And some guys just go overboard and are unreasonable with their standards too.
So, would you say that women are stricter or more flexible with their standards? And, would you say that women share the same "types" of standards? Or are they completely different standards?
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This is a great question. And one that I'm particularly interested in as well.
My wife and I can't agree on who chose who. She thinks I chose her, and I think she chose me.
Perhaps we chose each other. What's most amazing is that we did so while I was in my mid-30's and she was in her early 30's.
Everything seemed so easy, so unlike just a few short years earlier. Just doesn't seem like that for many younger people today who are putting off committed relationships later and later. They hop, skip and jump around with multiple and often different people so much it seems to border on the bizarre from an adult perspective. I know this used to really frustrate me when I was attempting to evaluate girls as relationship material in my younger days.
Due in part to my early marriage and divorce, I gave up just trying to bed chicks with no commitment or evaluation period in my early 20's (partly due to the STD/AIDS epidemics in the '80's, and had some trouble finding women that felt this way as well). At the time it seemed most women that were my age just didn't seem to want anything other than a casual sexual relationship with a guy or multiple guys and even girls in some cases, while attempting to climb the social and career ladder for all it was worth. And my observation was that most of these sexual liaisons (for lack of a better word) had very little real underpinning.
I used to call it, have sex first, relationship second. Which seemed sort of counter-intuitive to me having been in a real relationship at an early age and having tasted real responsibility for another person.
Now I know many young people don't feel like they need to be saddled with a committed relationship absent the absolute best circumstance possible, and for many of them they don't need to be. Their opportunities outside of a committed relationship today, especially at younger ages are far better than they are inside of one, and certainly with the help of their parents (who are often more affluent and older than in the past) they don't need a partner to make it economically as they once did.
My theory is the age of committed relationships is creeping upward with every generation. And this is causing a conflict with biology among other things. I know my wife and I see more and more couples in their 30's that cannot conceive because they weren't ready to settle down, wanted to continue the indiscretions of youth into their late 20's, or didn't want to have children until later in life. Or in the worst cases their reproductive organs were harmed in some way by such promiscuous behavior. For instance, human papillomavirus (HPV) and other STD's that can cause infertility.
I read somewhere that a womans prime ages for reproduction are from 17-24 or so. So every year beyond these ages causes a decrease in the probability of a healthy child, or one at all.
Zip, as a young woman is this something that concerns you? Or is it something you just don't think about at this stage of your life? And do you think this causes men to view you and other women of these age groups differently, from a relationship perspective, than they would otherwise or than they have in the past?
CHAT
I only ask this to see what you say, in each of the cases, I saw the IOIs and knew the deal. I just wanted your opinion.
