Hi all

I'm new to this forum and something happened to me last week..

I'm on my late twenties, I'm short and I was far from being the "popular" guy at school and college (I was basically the nerd). I never had a girlfriend unfortunately. Nowadays I work as a software/computer engineer so basically I dont see much girls at work.I started to read this PUA stuff some months ago. I bought new clothes, try to change a little my appearance and start improving my game.
Two weeks ago I went to a bar with some friends (friends who are also afraid to talk to girls), and we made kind of a bet. So I went to talk to a couple of girls and I got my first number ever from a girl that was there.

Now the bad part...

We exchanged numbers and emails and she added me to her facebook list. She have 800/900 friends and lots of comments, likes photos etc and I have only about 100 friends, only 25/30 are girls and very few comments and photos there.

When we meet for the first time after that night at the bar, she started a "facebook massacre"during the first 20 minutes asking questions like: "Why dont you have friends?" "Why dont you have girls at your facebook list?" etc and she started calling me weird and not social. I told her that I dont care about facebook and I got nervous. I guess she felt like I was a loser and she was not interested anymore. So the rest of the date was small talk and she didnt talk to me again since then.

I'm learning how to Get Girls and how to talk to them, but I cant hide the fact that I'm still a loser and I dont have many friends right now..Do you think that your facebook activity is very important because it represents your "social level" or something like that, or its not a big deal?

Help me please
Kami

I personally don't have a facebook. A girl one time accused me of being "Weird" I basically told her "do you skydive?"

She said "what the fuck ...no."

"I said. I do. You're fucking weird. You're a loser."

"See how that works both ways? *laugh*"

She didn't fucking talk after that until I banged the shit out of her

exactly what he said

personally i dont think she thought u was a loser because of how many friends you have on facebook or how unpopular u was before, but more than likely how you handled it. You said it urself, u got nervous, she definitely must of saw you being nervous and was turned off by it.
just work on your inner game. You can't say shit like this to urself thinking ur a loser, because thats more than likely the message you pass across to the HB's ur trying to get.

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I do know 1 thing though, bitches they come they go

You have to put things together before you start acting like these guys tell you to act.
In fact; Jack there pretty much nailed it, but he`s giving you advanced advice when you`ve actually never had a gf.

My first recommendation to you it`s to find and comprehend the fundamentals on pick up. You should start reading the principles behind this art.

Now, taking the risk of messing up with this advice, I strongly recommend you to read The Game of Strauss if you haven`t yet, to understand what`s this all about.

PUA can be focused like skydiving or surfing or any other risky activities, you are there to live the moment, to cath the wave, Strauss makes some nice statements about this arts wich I find accurate, some are pretty fucked up.

In order to understand that you shouldn`t give a fuck about what a girl thinks about your facebook, you first have to understand why you should give a fuck?
And it`s more of in life in general, you have to internalize the fact that you don`t NEED facebook, you don`t NEED some random girl`s validation, etc.

Hope this brings some light to open your eyes =)

You definitely need to work on your inner game -- you can use not having a lot of FB friends to your advantage. Some girls think it's hot that a guy stays away from social media, you can play it off like you're too busy for that/have a life outside of FB. Next time don't be so nervous and maybe joke around saying, "Yeah, I suck at maintaining my FB... got overwhelmed with all the friend requests and decided to hang out with them in real life instead." make it seem like she's the weirdo for being so FB obsessed.