| I thought I would share some of my adventures with you guys to get some feedback and for me to reflect on them.
Encounter 1: Attraction + Qualification
I was meeting some friends for dinner one evening. When I got to the restaurant, I noticed that there was a cute HB7 sitting with them.
First, I was talking to the whole group; then, as we was sitting next to me, we started having a private conversation. I believe I have build good attraction and qualified her during the dinner as I was getting lots of signs of attraction. Afterwards, the whole group went for a walk, and she was walking with me the whole time (another IOI). Finally, She even suggested to give me her number as I was asking for a male friend's number(I teased her a bit about that). We exchanged a few texts that night.
Encounter 2: Comfort + Friendly/Romantic touch
I didn't follow up with her until a week after when a mutual friend was having BBQ. I remember that she told me that she was coming to the BBQ when I met here so I textetd ger:
Me: how was your day?
Her: alright how was yours?
Me: Pretty busy, lots of meetings. Anyway, are you coming tomorrow to the BBQ?
Her: Yes I am!! I hope you are too.
Me: I don't know I am still considering it coz I am really busy with work, we'll see tomorrow
Her: Aww come on! It will be fun! You can come for the bbq and leave early to get your work done
Me: Fine, I will come for a bit!
Her: Haha yay!
[I was actually going to bbq since the beginning, I just wanted to see her reaction]
The BBQ: we spent most of time within the group having a normal conversation. However, I isolated her later. I refreshed the attraction and I got a few compliments from her, I demonstrated to her how to speed read people based on their body language, which she enjoyed. I qualified her based on very specific things about her (women love it when you pay attention to specific things). I also went into building rapport with and getting to know her, which I think went very well. On the physical level, I did some social touching: I used to touch her arm while talking, also as she was sitting on a chair in front of me, I put my leg in between hers and left there for a couple of minutes since she didn't mind
Salsa
After the bbq, I suggested to the group to come to a Salsa party with me (although I was the one who dances salsa) and she came along.
I taught her the basic steps and danced with her for like an hour or so, she was really enjoying it. Dancing gave me the opportunity to demonstrate value(teaching her) and to get physical with her but I didn't kiss her coz our friends where around (now I think I should have). At the end of the nigh, I kissed her on the cheeks and left. Later that night, she texted me to thank me for the fun night.
Date: Light show in the park
During the bbq I mentioned that I was going to a light show later that week, and she asked if she can come along. So We met on a Thursday night at the park. My goal was to escalate on the physical level. She sat a bit at a distance from me so I couldn't do any touching smoothly during the show. To recover, I wanted to go to a lounge afterwards, but she said she was tired(it was pretty late) and she had work the day after and wanted to go home. I offered to walk her home. I put my arm on her while walking, she didn't pull. She had her hands in her pockets while and she was really walking fast (I teased her on that and she said thats how she walks normally). Anyway, I tried to take her hands from her pockets and hold them a couple of times, but she thought I was grabbing her arm to ask to slow down and kept her hands in her pockets. It was awkward so I didn't repeat it. Once her, I didn't wanna go the weak move of trying to get a kiss at the end so I kissed her on the cheeks and left.
Mission failed! Since I thought I was doing pretty well on the emotional level, my goal which I failed to achieve that night, was to do more kino escalation. I am still wondering what mistakes I did make or how I could have got more physical smoothly.
Cheers.
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