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Lionheart9999
PostPosted: Fri Jul 13, 2012 3:10 pm 
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Had a date today, girl agreed to meet at a time, but then texts me and says she won't be around then, and asks if we can do a few hours earlier.

As a general rule, is it good to put up with this behavior and make concessions, or stay firm to the original time?

It is a quick coffee thing.
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It highly depends. I'm dealing with a girl right now who keeps changing plans and times. She is very busy on one hand, but on the other I will move on if she keeps this up (she's changed plans twice). If she changes again I'm gonna move on.

But if you feel this girl has attraction, and genuinely wants to meet up but had to change plans, go with it. Not the end of the world.
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She does have attraction, I think this is one of those scenarios where if I give in to HER time, I'm letting her call the shots right?

This is our first meeting outside of where we met
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If she needs to change the meetup time and you can make it, then go. If you can't, just tell her. It's just coffee, not like you have a plane to catch, right? Be flexible but don't bend over backwards.
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if she flakes once, gives a good reason in advance and is proactive on rescheduling, by all means go with the flow. if you wanna give a "busy" image of yourself, say the proposed alternative does not work and give an alternative yourself.

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What you can do is punish her. If you were going to meet for coffee at X time, and she changes it, agree but say "OK, but the coffee is on you ;)" or something like that. But this also depends what type of a girl she is. If she's bitchy and you believe she'll throw a fit, don't do this.

I would still go to see what'll happen. As long as you have a strong frame when you meet her things should be good.
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I just don't want to let her be in control here fellas.

What about suggesting a half hour to an hour later then she said, so it is still my choice? Meeting in the middle?
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But then again it's only a few hours. It's not like she rescheduled it to a whole nother day. I say if this is the first time it's happened then let it slide. If it has happened before then do punish her in some way.
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But then again it's only a few hours. It's not like she rescheduled it to a whole nother day. I say if this is the first time it's happened then let it slide. If it has happened before then do punish her in some way.
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But then again it's only a few hours. It's not like she rescheduled it to a whole nother day. I say if this is the first time it's happened then let it slide. If it has happened before then do punish her in some way.
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I just don't want to let her be in control here fellas.

What about suggesting a half hour to an hour later then she said, so it is still my choice? Meeting in the middle?
Why do you feel you need to be in control here? Just agree to meet her at the new time.
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lol i think some of you guys are taking the 'i need to lead at all costs' thing a little too far. as well as the 'dont supplicate'. i mean, she wants to meet you earlier than you agreed to. so whats the problem?

obv you cant have her constantly changing plans and flaking on you and shit. but if she just wants to meet up a little earlier, i dont see why you cant just accommodate that. unless you legit cant make it. but youve got a girl youre interested in who agreed to meet up with you, so just go do it and have fun. stop overthinking.
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