I am reading this forum from time to time sometimes finding really useful information!

What makes a women act really good in bed? From my own experience all the women I have had and have are equally awesome in bed. They do/did all the stuff I show I wanted and also stuff I didn't show.

The thing is as I read forums, talk to friends, I find it often that a chick doesn't do a thing or two, doesn't want that, doesn't do that, that's ugly, that's nasty, that's uncomfortable. Now I would like to know is this a coincidence that I have met such wonderful girls or is my theory true that women not acts, but reacts to men's behaviour and so if I am simply awesome, she will do everything for her own and my pleasure ?

hey mate,

in my experience, what you think is correct: women react to you. You are supposed to dominate while being able to connect emotionally. Lead them into an experience.

On the other hand, there are women out there who simply dont seem to know how to react to it. Sexually inert without any feeling for passion. That is why i always need to know more about the lady before we have sex. Its not foolproof, but i dont make those mistakes anymore like fucking a real life doll or ending up with a girl that falls madly in love with you just because you had a one night stand (sort of cling-ons).

So basically, what makes a woman a pornstar: i would say the way she reacts to you. For me personally, it would be a reaction that makes me feel like i am the best lover she has ever had. The weird fact is, some years ago, i actually went to a hooker. She screamed like there was no tomorrow, but i knew she didnt feel it. I knew she faked it. I had hoped for a super experience, and i was very disappointed. So i think the reaction should be genuine.

cheers!

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Sucker love I always find,
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LD, thanks for your valuable input!

As we both agree - women react and yes, you're right I feel the best lover on earth and emotional connection may be the key here I believe.

I like to engage deep emotional connection quite quickly so the result may be emotional connection + reaction from my experience then. Another question arises - does other men find it difficult to do so? I mean engage emotional connection and lead a women to the sexual paradise.

well, after talking about sex to a lot of women, i might conclude that most men dont seem to be able to give them a decent sexual experience. I dont know if its true or not, but why would they lie?

As for as i know, the problem lies in the fact that there is no connection at all (except for the physical) or the lack of fire in bed.

_________________
"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

From the male side - how can there be no spark when you really like a woman.

well,
i didnt mean that there is no spark. it takes more then a spark for good sex. i wouldnt even say more then a sparkt, it just takes something else then a spark. The spark, or those feelings of love etc, they can be very helpful for good sex. But, against common believe, they aren not necessary.

Most men know what lust is, but they dont seem to know how to deal with it. What i mean is a stereotypical scenario that goes like: both get naked, he plays with her clit a bit, thumps it in a couple of times, reaches an orgasm and that was it. Time spent: 10 mins. Experience for the woman was like: being hit by a miniature freight train on a sensitive spot.

i must admit, i find it hard to describe. When i talk about a deep emotional connection, then that could be emotions because of two people who love each other or that could be two people who understand the concept of lust and passion, who understand that those are great emotions and can be very deepening and connection as well, without the 'i want to be with you forever'-love thing or it could mean a combination of the previous two. most men understand the first connection, the love connection, but still fail at sex. However, in the woman's perception, it might look like good sex, because of the emotion. However, they usually dont know better .

_________________
"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

Thanks, LD. Your responses and thoughts are great and really with deep understanding.
This really doesn't sound like a fullfilling experience for both. What I find missing I believe is playfullness in this case. From your scenario it doesn't seem that both men and women do an exiting thing - they're not open to each other, int his case I believe men goes to the straight plan: get her wet touching her clit, lick her boobs, kiss her, enter her, finish it and dress up.

From my own experience, as you mentioned, LD, it's the best sex when one is in a relationship. Actually it's so good that I find myself not interested in other women at all. I give all that energy and power focused like a laser beam to the one girl who deserves that by being awesome women around me.

There are two things you need to do:

1# Lead, Being the alpha male, and telling her what you want turns her on! when a women has a high interest level (90-100%) she wants to please you. You are like brad pitt, or george clooney in her eyes, when a women's interest level is high she literally adores you!

2# Comfort! If you want a girl to swallow your man juice, If you expect her to allow you to stick you tongue, finger or penis around or in her ass lol, if you expect her to allow you to take pictures or makes videos, then she better feel like the most beautiful women in the world when she is with you! and there needs to be trust! no women is going to share those kinds of things if she does not trust and feel comfortable with you! this is why one night stands usually suck unless the girl is a super whore! because women are not yet comfortable enough to do all the kinky shit!

Great answer, dark one. I totally agree with your first assumption as I think in the same exact way. I also agree with the second.

So if there's a couple of 2 years. 2 BIG YEARS. And oral sex, anal sex, for the girl is something nasty/ugly/disgusting/not acceptable, can it be blamed only on her perspective or she's really not that interested ? I myself, through my eyes, do not see a thing why oral sex can be unacceptable from both women side and from mine. Of course if it's ready there(clean and hygiene). But from my environment I know couples where for example girl does not do oral. It's an interesting topic for me, as I have not faced this issue myself, especially in a LTR.

So the my sub question is - if in a LTR where couple seems to look quite happy(I mean not really having fountains of happiness but happy) girls doesn't ejoy oral sex, anal sex and only likes a few sex poses, is there an issue, or we can see "she's just like that, everyone's different"?

I am sorry, but i dont agree with some of the content in this block of text. You are right, trust is a must. I didnt mention that. But you cant make a connection with a woman without trust. Comfort comes with the connection. I might have just said it wrong.

But i certainly do not agree with the girl must be a whore in order to have great one night stands. For me, this means you miss some understanding in female sexuality, with all due respect. Real quality women know how to respond to real sexual men, and the fact that it would be a one night stand does not affect the experience. or should not affect the experience.

cheers

_________________
"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

Most girls will not let you do anal or give blow jobs ect, in a one night stand! If they do then that's a red flag! and yes they are probably whores. If she is willing to suck your dick after knowing you for 3 hours how many other guys has she done the same thing to recently? there is a difference between being sexually open, and being a whore....If you are dating a girl for a few weeks and she is cool swallowing your load, receiving anal ect ect, that's fine, she is probably a sexually liberal person so w.e, but if the girl is doing it the night she meets you then I sure as hell would not be dating her!

Let me ask a question? If you knew that your gf had a one night stand with a guy the night before you met her, swallowed his load, let him have anal sex, and do w.e he wanted, would you not question her integrity a little?

p.s this is why I am not a big fan of one night stands, to many risks! I would rather have a a few fuck budies who are honest and we both know we have been checked for std's, or date an hb 8 to 10 who is great in bed, one night stands are usually girls you don't want to see again.

yeah ok, i see your point. I misunderstood what you were saying. My bad!

With your: 'there is a difference between sexually open and being a slut' phrase, we go the same direction in manner of thinking. You see a one night stand as somebody you met and have sex with like within a very short timespan. for me, if i get to know somebody, and we talked and i have a good feeling with this person and we have sex just this once, i would still call it a one night stand, even if the sex was during the day .

cheers!

_________________
"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you