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just creeped out 2 more girls lol.
woke up after taking a sleeping pill, was still in a sleepy haze and didnt have anything to do so went to the mall and stopped a HB8, brown girl very cute
me:excuse me can i tell you something very quickly, i saw you walking there and thought you looked very nice
her: oh thanks
me: are you by any chance an art student or something
her: uhm no, i work here and im on my dinner break
me: oh you probably work in a clothing store
her: no actually its jewelrys
me: oh ok......so when do you get off
her: in a couple hours
me: do you want to meet up for coffe or something sometime
her; no(grinning)
me: well thanks anyway
lol its so creepy just reading it back, i didnt build any comfort and didnt do any more assumptions so why should she say anything else but no. in my defense i was pretty much sleepwalking but still i really need help with this. i just suck at conversation, i dont even get approach anxiety anymore, its not nerves its just stupidity or inexperience or something lol. does anyone have any advice on how i could have kept the convo going there?
then later i stopped an asian HB7 and after my opener "you look really nice"
she angrily said "well im not interested!" lol i dont know if i just came off creepy or is shes asian and just not accustomed to this but i decided to call it quits for the day. enough to creep out 2 girls in 1 day
that's good that you are approaching and making conversation. i am not dating, but i get conversations with women in coffee shops two or three times a month if I try. i smile and say how are you? or just talk to them like you did. BUT i don't push for date or ask for their number. i don't close because it ruins the conversation and makes it creepy. if you ask, wait for an answer, and just observe them and let them decide whether or not to continue the conversation - give them the freedom to walk away, they will feel more at ease around you. you have to be ready to lose them before you can get a conversation with them in my opinion.
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me: are you by any chance an art student or something
her: uhm no, i work here and im on my dinner break
I usually stop after this and don't ask anything more. I don't turn away, but wait and observe them. If she does not say anything, or ask you anything, don't keep pushing for a number or a date. Don't talk anymore. Just smile and nod and after a pause go back to what you were doing. Leave it at that - flirtation. That might make you more seductive.