I am currently researching a story for my next play about men who are obsessed with their Oneitis:

My interest is in how this obsession took over your life and how you overcame it and what positive results overcoming it brought you.

Post your stories here or PM me.

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Oneitis is all based upon your perspective of the girl. If you Put the pussy on a pedestal and have worshipping thoughts about her you well obseess over her. If you think "bitches ain't shit"....then its just another bitch. Its all about your attitude.

yes, i understand that. i'm interested in hearing anyone who's experienced this phenomenon and how they overcame it in a positive way.

Then you understand I practice what I preach and preach what I practice.

I have this issue.

Haven't fully overcome it quite yet but I met a new girl tonight and she has kept my mind off the other one.

I am no player, I admit it had ruled my thoughts for quite some time.

The best way to overcome it is to meet new girls/potential mates. Thats the easiest solution.

cool. I'm specifically interested in any stories any has had where their life was turned inside out and led them completely off the rails only for them to overcome and have a happy ending to their tale.

I'm interested in the details. Perhaps you were a stand-up, well respected person who suddenly found themselves inexplicably caught up in this whirlwind of obsession that led you to do crazy, uncharacteristic things...only for you to find your way back and find true happiness...

oneitis is when a beta male, who can't get many women, meets a very attractive female and without really knowing her starts projecting imagined qualities and attributes he thinks she must have on her, allowing his obsession to grow regardless of what she's really like.

this already makes him unattractive to her because he's not a challenge, she's already "got him", he's not genuinely interested in getting to know her but rather to still his need for female approval and his ego needing the "perfect 10" to be all his. it's a perversion.

if a man loves a woman, really loves a women (and i'm not talking monogamy or whatever, that's that guy's own business), it's not oneitis. it's possible to love a women and still have sex with many women. if it's love, it's NEVER a one way street. if it's a one way street, it's oneitis

if it's oneitis, realize she's not anything like you imagined anyway. she is just another female, no matter how you turn her. she is not better than any other. in fact, she's probably worse than many you will meet. if she does not love you back, YOU DON'T REALLY LOVE HER. YOU ARE JUST ALLOWING YOURSELF TO BE WEAK AND DELUSIONAL. PERIOD. NOW GO MEET SOME WOMEN!

1.) Its not always imaginary qualities. If you have dinner with a supermodel the temptation to want her will be there for everyman and the temptation to delude yourself will be there just by looking at her. Sometimes I don't even look at beautiful women when I talk to them just to avoid getting "charmed."

2.) By becoming obsessed with the woman you remove fear. The woman knows she can have you and the fear of losing you can never be used to get her. Negs play on the fear of inadequacy. You can't neg her because she'll know your full of shit.

On the flipside, if the girl has been abused or has been cheated on she may not want a challenge.

1.) i know what you mean. the qualities are not always imaginary. in my opinion, any "obsession" always has an imaginary aspect to it, none the less. it's not "healthy", so it can't be rooted in pure subjectivity. nothing is that good, no woman. i'm not meaning to say i'm not obsessed with anything. it's human nature. collecting, working, money, women are all things often obsessed about. but then it's more about what it means to YOU, less about what it is.

that's interesting. i think most women have been "cheated on" (hopefully not abused). i don't know many (except the abused ones, perhaps) that don't take the bait of challenge. they love it, even if they want to hate it.

yes, i understand all that. thank you. i'm just looking for people to share their experiences of this phenomenon.

you sound well-versed with one-itis, perhaps you have an experience you'd care to share?

I turned into a major whore! The day we broke up I went and had sex with her best friends little sister for a three day weekend, and then an old friend from highschool that I had the hots for back in the day. About 20 girls later I found a "replacement player" and spent 5 months exploring "Freaky" before I realized that the Onitis was no longer in my thoughts. Now I'm in a LTR with a bi-sexual girl and get to play with a new girl a couple times a month.

Ironically, the girl that is in my "dreams" is the Onitis! You just have to let it slowly die i guess.


Peace...

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Things settling?

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

Hey RR, yeah, things became easier once I acknowledged I was obsessed. That way it became the obsession that needed to be dealt with rather than the girl.

Writing a story about it also helps.

the only way oneitis works... is to jack off to a fantasy... LOL

I hear you man.


RR

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

seems to have done the trick. i dont have oneitis anymore...

that angel who was once atop a pedestal is now one very ordinary looking girl on the other side of the office.