i think she might be still deeply inloved with her ex... she keeps on posting songs on facebook when the common motif is: "i miss you, it's hard without you"
it's interrupting me cause i don't understand now why she wanted to be with me and maybe i was just her shallow rebound.. i'm a funny guy that she likes and likes being with but she feels deep feelings to her ex the fact that she was with me altough she knew im going to leave in a week for more than 3 months, and the fact that as a singer she is used to express her feelings through music all of that help this feeling... and maybe im just illusionating and she wants me as her next bf altough she is still ofc has feeling to her boyfriend which is natural and that's why i have to back-off a bit and let her miss me and understand my importance in her life...
which option do you tend to believe?

btw, would i come off as needy if i ask her to meet now in such a short notice including the fact she might say she has to learn early tomorrow?

ok so i analysed the situation and understood something which i think is very cruciel for my future moves after reading this eye-lightning post : i should be in a giving mentallity in order to emotonially connect her, and missing someone is a feeling she has from her ex so it would only harm the situation to not contact her now for some days.. she needs me cause i make her happy and i make her luagh and i amuse her and i take her out of the moody situation that she is going through, whether it's because of her ex or because she has a big and hard exam that takes her energy...
and as a conclusion from the qouted above post i understood that i don't feel that she is giving to me something special but i enjoy making her smile...
and that's way i decided im going to intiate the convo with her tomorrow noon with texting her "we should go out and eat something tonight as you're having busy days with your exam and i know i can make you luagh and be more happy, im busy till 10PM but i'll pick you up then and we'll go grab smt to eat, cool?"

what do you guys think? my neediness alarm is on now but i think it's the best thing i can do for her and that's my only goal - to make her happy and i don't think it will seem needy cause i don't NEED nothing from her honestly... if she would flake i might find it annoying but anyway i won't have time for her since then till sunday which is only 3 days before i leave so i'll take that risk to win her big-time.

ok so i'll make a summary of the mainly negative events that happend during the last week since we were together...
i texted her immpulsivly the morning after we met which was a mistake that i did because i felt i have to exploit every second that i have until i leave to emotonially connect her... she rejected it kindly with a true reason but i was'nt really getting the vibe she wanted to give me and three days later i asked her out saying that i have some free time and i can make her happy during her exam studies... she then responded with a big-big flake saying that she really enjoyed the time with me but im leaving for a very long time and she is not looking for a commiting or un-comitting relationship SPAM, she said that when we met on saturday she thought we're going out as friends and she saw it was'nt the purpose... she keeps complimenting me all over the message and saying the in other circumstances she would give it a shot but she is sorry cause she still thinks of her ex and she hopes i'll respect and understand that and we'll keep on talking any way...
i replied to this text after an hour saying that everything is good monkey-girl and ofc i was'nt looking for any kind of relationship a week before im leaving for that long period of time.. i told her that i just went with the flow (hebrew slang) and i felt i did'nt need anything from her and i just enjoyed making her smile.. i then used darkone's advice and told her that i really think she's cute and i would be glad to date her when i'll be back but till then god is big (hebrew slang) and i think she needs to recover and be a bit single...
she finished the convo saying she absoulotly agrees and she is happy that i understand her and that i'll see and see the world and as i said "god is big" and she'll recover "don't worry for me" and enjoy till then and we'll talk...

five days since then till today i have'nt contacted when i was getting a somewhat logic but probably lame advice from my dad that i should tell her pretty directly that i have some free time and with a time-restraint meet with her for a last convo before i leave to say goodbye.. i said : "monkey girl, i have an free hour and a half so im jumping to your house to say goodbye" and two hours afterwards she called me and said she saw the message only now because she is coming back from work i told her that i wanted to say goodbye cause im leaving and i won't have any other free time for that and she said well i don't think i'll have time either i made her luagh a bit but the convo was weaker than normally, maybe because she was tired after work and maybe because she don't want anything to do with me... anyway what do you think i should do? texting her again tomorrow would come off needy as hell so you think i should just let it go and don't think about her anymore cause i failed my mission to emotionally connect her and apperantly that's what she exactly wants to avoid in any case... should i just let it go till im leaving on wednesday and use the fact that i would be busy just to not contact her so she would miss me ? or is it just going to make her forget me and this is a dead end? am i the only pessimistic guy here?

help would be very very appreciated!

you need to get her into physical contact with you. The texting and phone game is cool, but for a girl who just broke up with her boyfriend, she may be broken or hurt and looking for a way to escape. It just depends on your assessment of the situation.

So i would try and invite her out some where, maybe to your place for food and game night, or movie night. Something like this. Ask her what her favorite movie is then let her know you own it, and then go from there. This way you can physically escalate, or emotionally. Remember women connect through words and metaphoric language. So if you want to connect with a girl emotionally ask those questions and start conversations that triggers those emotions.

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idoba,

I'd suggest meeting other women now... It sucks, but it's reality.

You can pine over this chick and get nothing, or you can meet another chick and fuck her.

Best,

RR

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ok so iv'e arrived back from my "euro trip" last week and i consider calling her as i also found out randomly that probably her sister was in the same class with my brother at high school 10 years ago.. would it be just sand grinding and a waste of time or maybe as i told her that i will talk to her when i come back and we'll see what's going on 2 months ago and maybe it worth a try?

help...?