1.) Understanding how to build confidence and using that to build trust.
2.) Understanding how to build habits and using that to build attachment
3.) Understanding how to deal with feelings and using that to stave off awkwardness.
4.) Understanding that emotion is the driver of all people.
5.) Understanding when to compromise. Basically understanding when to fight reality and when not to by evaluating the strength of a woman's feelings on things.
6.) Understanding to asks lots of questions to understand what a girl likes and dislikes.
7.) Understanding to talk alot
8.) Understanding how to make a point.
9.) Understanding how to monitor a girls emotions and thoughts
10.) Staying Grounded- knowing how to make myself confident and to value myself.

Basically, everything comes down to your ability to communicate and to make the woman enjoy being with you so much that she can't help but want to be with you. At all times you want to monitor how the girl feels and what she says and thinks about you. ANd you want to be able to change her mind with an effective point .

Almost everything comes down to your most piece and your ability to affirm her into ecstacy. Give that girl some mental masturbation and she'll give you some real vagina.

Hard World

Dating is not easy and it requires you to be mentally solid. You have to have control of your emotions and you have to be confident. If you are desperate, if you are hurt you are going to behave poorly. If you are not confident when you get Amog, when your girl ignores you you are going to disintegrated under that pressure.

Every guy has an ego and the ego is there to help you deal with reality and to create new realities. However, the ego leads to poor behavior sometimes. The problem when this occurs people want to attack the ego to change the person. However, taking someone's pride, shattering their ego, to change their behavior is like cutting your headoff to stop a headache. Its the wrong move.

Fellas, you got to know yourself. If you are desperate. If you are hurt. If you are intimidated. You have to work with that reality. You have to use some ingenuity. Persuade the girl into being compassionate. Persuade the girl into playing the game the way you need played. The game is all about getting the other person to feel so strongly about you that they can't help but want you. That's all it is. You're an artist. Your looking for a way to get to that spot.

Staying Grounded

What is Humility? It's staying grounded, its staying grounded in what makes you Strong. Its staying grounded in the things that give you confidence, that motivate you and that provide you self-esteem. Then when you have that spiritual strength you develop good habits and your character pushes you to succeed. To many guys are just not grounded. THey come from domineering homes, their parents dominated them mentally and emotionally and they really have nothing of their own to ground themselves in. They have been dominated so they don't know how to strengthen themselves.

This causes a problem because to have a HB10, to have a hot babe you must be willing to do things that other people don't do. You have to find the ENERGY to DISTINGQUISH YOURSELF. And when you're not grounded you don't have the confidence or the self-esteem to approach these woman. You internalize shame and you are ashamed to even tell these women who your are. Its like your not good enough and everything you do is wrong. You have completely pysched yourself out. And the more shame and doubt you feel the more it builds because when you are doubting yourself it carries over into your game and it causes you to fail and the more you fail it just continues to reinforce negative feelings and then you are just stuck in a suck rot. You have to get grounded in what makes you strong.

Why? Why do we get knocked down? Why do we get knocked down??? To get back up stronger, to get back up stronger
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"They say I was the fighter that got knocked down the most, I also got up the most" (Floyd Patterson, youngest UNDISPUTED heavyweight champion)

Freedom: Not by Shame, Not by Fear but by choice.

When people diss you, ridicule you, disrepsect you, criticize you or hate on you it can make you hate yourself and you become ashamed of who you are. You become ashamed of who you are. When your ashamed you don't do things not because you chose to not do them but because it hurts too bad to think about, it hurts to bad to do, it hurts too bad emotionally. You just want to hide from people because your ashamed, your ashamed of being yourself. Everything you do feels like its wrong and bad....Ain't that an awful thing?

What you have to understand is this...Pride is that good feeling on the inside that pushes you to be all that you can be, to be free, to be happy and to stand firm as who you are. Thats all pride. Everything you do is right. You're good. Whatever you decide is right. Whatever you want to do is right. Your good. Your good. You're good. You're right. Not by shame, not by fear but by choice. Pride allows you to do that to do things because you chose to. Be proud of yourself.

I Don't Have a Heart. I am cold as Ice.




A player cannot be emotional. You must be charming. You must be charismatic. You affect other people emotionally, but you are not to be affected emotionally. If you have seen a James Bond movie he is very charming, but he is never charmed. The only emotion he feels is confidence. All players should be mentally consistent, mentally solid. All you feel is confidence all the time damn and that way you can be very cold to people. Lets say you have a HB10 you charm her and so she wants to hang with you. Then she disrespects you, many guys would allow this because they develop feelings. WHen you are cold you can check the bitch. And she may wonder how you can be so nice and so mean. Its quite a comibnation

It's easier to be a pua than to be an AFC as a pua wastes far less energy.

Lines are to break the ice, to replace awkwardness with positiveness.

Thought police- monitor how someone thinks of you and say. The friend zone comes from a failure to monitor thoughts and plant seeds. It takes something jarring to change how a person of you once they have developed certain expectations. The freeze out works partly because it makes you unfamiliar and the girl forgets what she began to think about you. This also the internal logic behind confessing your feelings that if she knew something far different it would change her mind.

Self-esteem- I am great. I want great things. I will do great things. I deserve great things.

My best tool for not beeing affected by AA is to "see through her makeup".

If you're a 7 and hit on a HB8, she's probably just a HB5 or HB6.
Nothing to be afraid of

The picture is soooo FUCKING gay.

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Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate

Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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Oh yeah? I think it's cooler than the otherside of the pillow in Alaska in the winter! Hater. Go project yourself loathing elsewhere

Fears:

1. Fear of inadequacy
2. Fear of losing hope
3. Fear of not getting what you want
4. Fear of emotional pain
5. Fear of social stigma

Remedies:

1. Trust your game(expect to win)
2. Know your value (know you're the shit and If a woman doesn't want you something is wrong with her)
3. Mental discipline ( have a good attitude emotionally)
4. Know your setting
5. Protect your insecurities

Behave Like a Mack

Everyone gets mad, everyone gets sad when the girl they like don't like doesn't want them, but can you behave like a mack regardless. If you want what other people don't have you must do what other people don't do.

Remember the goal of the game is to make the girl feel so good about you that she can't help but want you. You want her to expect great things from being with you. Getting upset and looking for sympathy will only work against this unless you have a good angle you can work.

You have to learn to run off your own energy. That's what affirmations are about, self-confidence.

You Have to Get Uncomfortable If You are Going to get out of Your Comfort Zone



If you guys don't learn anything else you have to learn that. You have to get uncomfortable if you are going to get out of your comfort zone. When you understand that you embrace the anxiety of approaching. You know the anxiety means that you are doing the right thing. The pain is good. The pain is good, because you are growing. The affirmations are simply to encourage you to get out of your comzort. The affirmations are simply to encourage you to take the pain, to embrace the pain. All you want is the ability to deal with it.

Also, you need an identity. That means you have to know what you are going to do when you talk to these girls. When you are under pressure people just tend to drift and do anything. You have to have a plan and know what you are going to do. Otherwise you will blow with the wind.

Know your value. This is how you deal with rejection. A person can take a shit on gold, you can take a shit on it, but it does not dimnish the value of the gold. You wipe that shit off and its still very valuable. Same way with girls. You know your value and these things don't hurt.

Don't chicken out, have some self-esteem. Go talk to the Dime. Talk to the HB10.

I tried all these affirmations/confidence builders/etc. and it simply was never enough to overcome all of my insecurities/confidence issues. I even followed the other rules of pickup and made myself look as good as possible when I went out. I actually got the the point where women were coming onto me on a fairly regular basis. Way more than any other point in my life.

But the ego boost would turn to dissapointment. Even in cases where a hot woman would come onto me I still bailed and I have no idea why. I definitely gave up a few sure things and never could close a deal. I think I would let her go before she could find a reason not to like me. Sad I know. I gave up pick-up a few months ago.

Note that all my opportunities came from women approaching me. I did not approach a single woman.

Now I'm getting a bit old for the bar/club game (38 now) and day game where there would be more women in my age range (or at least older than mid 20s) scares me even more than bar/club game.

How to Expand Your Comfort Zone

#1 Embrace discomfort, embrace pain and anxiety because you have to get uncomfortable to get out of your comfort zone. You want the pain because it means you're growing, you're improving. You want the pain because it is the pain of Growth; Growing pains.

#2 Use an affirmation to encourage yourself to face whats uncomfortable. Then gain positive experience, that you succeed when you face that uncomfortable thing. Repeatedly gain positive experience and then you will expect to succed. This positive expereince will cement your confidence.

#3 Use an affirmation to encourage yourself to face whats uncomfortable with a positive attiude (Enthusiasm). Keep facing whats uncomfortable with a positive attiude and you will develop a mental habit of feeling a certain way when facing that uncomfortable thing. This mental habit, mental discipline will make you tougher.

#4 Use an affirmation to encourage yourself to face whats uncomfortable. Keep facing whats uncomfortable and you will develop a behavioral habit and you will have the urge to face that thing that is uncomfortable.

#5 Develop a behavioral habit and a mental habit of enthusiasm when facing whats uncomfortable and you will find yourself loving it. You will feel like you need to do it.