Are you understanding this?

Humans have instincts and they come in the form of habits and feelings. When you develop a habit you develop an urge to do something. However you can also have a feeling counteracting that urge. You want to go all in, be totally focus. You want a habit to talk to girls and you want your feelings to talk to girls. Otherwise, you will be fighting yourself to do it or much worse you will no have the strength within to talk to her and you will get embarassed because you think you should and that just hurts your confidence more.

This understanding of feelings and habits is really applicable to everything in life and can be used with learning anything new.


In many ways humans are just like animals in the way that instincts affect them however, people have reason and reason can help you overcome your instincts. However, reasons also helps you to get down on yourself when your instincts are stopping you from doing something.

Working on your inner man with affirmations is a challenge. It takes trust and patience. Its like building a house with a blind fold on. Its like working a car with a blind fold on. You can't use your eyes. You have to use other senses. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k95OdAKtNg4

The most powerful affirmations are your day to day self-talk

Fix your day to day self-talk first. That on its own is enough to change your game

That also includes your internal images

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However, thats going to take you to first be aware of what you are thinking and saying and which things are hindering you.

Also, this change will also take patience and to not get FRUSTRATED.

The affirmations are all about changing the way you feel about doing things. You want to get out of your comfort zone, and you have to get out of your comfort zone however you don't want to push to far to fast.

Confidence & Desire that is how you overcome fear. (Simplified)

Confidence expects to win. Toughness expects to endure. You build confidence by affirming yourself then you solidify confidence with successful experiences.

You build toughness by affirming yourself with the desire to face things. Then you face tougher things. Then you solidify desire with the habit of facing things.

You want confidence and desire because when you are confident you expect to win therefore you take chances to win because you are convinced you will win. You don't want to just be tough.

When you suspect you will be nervous practicing what you will say and do will allow you to do it even if you are nervous. However, you must keep your mindset of confidence and desire or pressure can break you down.

When you approach girls you can't have be weak willed, meaning you can't just have enough confidence and desire to try; you have to have a spirit strong enough to go until you succeed no matter how hard or you will give up win she looks at you wrong.

~You must expect to succeed and by willing to pay the cost whatever they may be to win. Confidence and desire are developed.~

You project how you feel about yourself unto the things that you do. So if you feel good you project those good feelings on what you are doing and you want to do it. So that's why we cherish pride, that good feeling in your chest.

I don't like talking to many people because I don't want anyone discouraging/disheartening me from doing the things that I want to do.

Jump on That Ass




You can't approach a woman wishy washy. Just like when a man gets in a fight like boxing or MMa they don't in a fight wishy washy, they jump on their man. They can't wait to get to them. They through punches in bunches , they are hungry for the fight. Hungry. similar way with a girl, jump on that ass. Have your words ready. Fire them quickly. Don't stop to admire your work. One line after another line. No hesisitant, you to hungry to hesitate. Jump on that ass. This is why you need supreme confidence and fervent desire.

Is She a Bitch?



As I have said many times, confidence removes fear and desire makes you face fear. We want confidence because confidence makes everthing easier. When you expect good things you naturally want to do something. However, sometimes you will expect hardship and misery, but you still may want to do something. Do youthink the woman is a bitch with a mean attitude and that insults people with a extreme bitch shield, but she is still very attractive and you want her? Well, that's going to take some desire; that's going to take some toughness to pursue. That's going to take you wanting it so bad that you don't care what cost must be paid. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IqEqgEXHYkM
You are going to have to want it so bad that you don't care.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ia4UjRTKBaY

Do you know what makes you a pro at this game? Do you know? Its not your skill? What makes you the pro is the certainty that your heart won't fail you. The certainty that your heart won't fail you. That you won't be intimidated by a girl's beauty, that you won't care about public humiliation, that you won't fold under the pressure of an AMog, that you won't fold under the pressure of a crippling insult. You want it so bad that you don't care. You won't fold under the pressure of rejection and give in to depressing thoughts. YOU DON'T CARE!!!!!!

Everyone wants confidence so that they can get rid of their anxiety. However, how about the ability to accept anxiety... The desire to accept pressure and the habit of confronted fear and discomfort. Think about that....

Make way for the BadGuy: You not good, you just don't have the guts to be who you want to be

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yky4QtRX ... ure=fvwrel

Sometimes, its not feelings that stop you but a pure pyschological barrier, just the thought that other people will look down on you for what you are doing. If you are hated then it does not really matter, you can just do what you want to do and people will still hate you. However, if people don't hate you sometimes folks just don't want to sacrifice their neutrality.

Regardless if you think Scarface is right or wrong or if you think any of these gangsters are right or wrong...they were willing to be the bad guy. They were willing to be hated to be what they wanted to be. are you?

Nothing is truly dreadful, not even death. Its all about your perspective of the thing. Your perspective effects how you feel about it. This is why verbal abuse is worse than physical abuse. A punch in a face is nothing if your not afraid of it or made distraught by it. However, if you feel like its dreadful, dreadfully embarassing then you want nothing to do with it. And even worse so if you expect something dreadful. Nothing is dreadful, nothing. However, girls can feel dreadful sometimes.

Stand Up Guy

Stand Up Guy- "The allusion is to someone who would be prepared to stand up and fight on your side if called on, i.e. one who, in the words of the earlier (late 19th century) phrase, would 'stand up and be counted."


Do you have a PUA identity? Do you win or lose the man that you are? Or do you blow in the wind gaming one girl one way and gaming other girls another way? Is your backbone as secure as the waves of the sea?

When you have found your formula that works, use it on everyone the same.

When people don't like you and you don't care, that's integrity.

Discouragement

This game we play is not any fun if you are getting rejected, it's heartaching and nerve racking. In fact, although there are a lot of things we do to maintain confidence and composure sometimes you will be placed in situations that will leave you hurt. Generally, hurt feelings come from a lack of confidence and poor mental discipline. What do I mean by that? From your experience beliefs get impressed upon your subconscious and that causes negative feelings. Additionally, just the habit of being in confident will lead to negative feelings under pressure. However, how do you respond when this girl you were really excited about doesn't call you back, or some girl flirts with you then hooks up with other guys or your girlfriend cheats on you? You and you alone have to be responsible for your feelings, but this hard if you have been raised to look for sympathy or to pity yourself or don't have confidence in that situation.

I'm nice to guys on here that lack confidence because compassion is important and it is counter-productive to place demands on people when they fon't have the confidence to meet them. In the final analysis, if you don't love yourself who is going to love you? there's to much self-loathing. Self- loathing sees yourself in a negative light, self-love sees yourself in a positive light. It is your choice how you see yourself.

Development

People love accountability because when you are held accountable when you get broken down you don't look for sympathy. However, holding someone accountable when they don't have the fortitude to meet a demand they will be scarred emotionally and in many ways thAt scar will affect.

In many ways your mind is your worst enemy. You get to excited when girls give you attention and when things go negatively everything seems dreadful. This is all emotional and all comes from being immature emotionally.

I talk about affirmations, and it's like developing a child. It's like training a child. You give that child affirmations that they can do well in school and when they actually do well that belief is cemented. And when kids go through adversity and you affirm them and they get in the habit mentally of feeling a certain way in certain circumstances and that habit solidifies that fortitude. This game will test you mentall so you must be mentally developed or you may have a breakdown...it happened to mystery.

Solid mentally

The opposite of insecurity Is being solid mentally, that means you don't give in to pressure and do not disintegrate under stress. That's the goal of affirmations and experience and good mental habits , its to become solid mentally. Most helpful way to become solid is to talk to someone who is solid mentally to encourage you thru the hard times.

Are you the THE SHIT?




"You don't have to tell me you feeling me. I hear what I'm saying I know you feeling me"

The game is not a gimmick. The game is not a routine. The game is a life style of being the shit. You heard me. It is a lifestyle of being the shit. When you approach a woman you don't have anxiety and rejection does not bother you because you know you are THE SHIT. If a woman turns you down you don't think whats wrong with me you think whats wrong with her because you are sharp, because you are on point. You are the shit.

Think about this when Kobe steps on the court he doesn't think he can drive past his man or that he make a fadeaway, he knows its going in. He knows its going to happen. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v36v6mPj ... ure=fvwrel Let's say you got a good singer like mariah carey when she sings she knows people are going to like, she knows because she is good. Just like if you go take a test and you know your shit, you don't need to wait on the teacher to hand the test back to know you made an A. You know you were good.

When you approach a girl its the same way. You can tell when what your doing sounds good and looks good, you can tell. You can tell when you are making a good impression. You kno because you know, you know whats impressive.

What does a player that is the shit look like, how does he sound? His outfits are sharp and attention grabbing, he is groomed (hair and face), he smells good (deoderant and cologne), his lines come out like lighting with no hesistation its like what he is saying is his religion, his posture is commanding, he knows what is going to happen before it happens. and he is supremely confident.

You guys are worried about the wrong thing. You guys want to chase women and get numbers and get her home. Value yourself as a man, build your value then make an impression. Make an impression and the bitch will follow you all over the damn club. She will blow up your phone. She'll beg to give you head and swallow. She will buy you shit. She will brag about you to her friends. Why because you w ill be the shit in her eyes?

The problem is this though a lot of people do not value them selfs and are comfortable putting the pussy on a pedestal and chasing it. Secondly, a lot of people have been "brainfucked" by envious and self-loathing people; that meansyou are tight and you are the shit, but other people have put you down and devalued you to the point that you can't see it you are not confident because you don't know your value.

There's thinking you are the shit in order to believe it to achieve it and then there is thinking you are the shit because you are the shit.

Being the shit is a lifestyle. WHen you are good you know it. You can hear what you're saying, you can see it. It looks good and you can pat yourself on the back. You don't need someone to say I like you, you think they should and if they don't you think whats wrong with them.


And one last thing,

NICE GUYS DON"T FINISH LAST. GUYS THAT AREN't NICE ENOUGH FINISH LAST. WHATS THAT MEAN? THE GOAL OF THE GAME IS TO MAKE A WOMAN FEEL SOOO GOOD ABOUT YOU THAT SHE CAN'T HELP BUT WON'T YOU.