So, here's the plot.
Me and my gf of 10 months, broke up last month. We dated for 3 months and then I had to move so we had a LDR for next 7 months. Then I started acting AFC, attraction died and she dumped me. So i picked myself up, ignored her, froze her out and started to move on. But then I missed her and msgd her asking how's she doing three weeks after break up. So we started talking again and she confessed that she still loves me and I did too, so I told her I do too, but she cant have me anymore and she said yeah maybe she doesnt deserve me anymore. So we flirted back and forth for two weeks. Then she decides to dump her rebound for me and we both agreed that we're really good together, which we were.
So now she broke up with that guy. I've been acting rather alpha but last night I fell off the wagon, I asked her that we should get official on facebook and she said she needs time to do that because that guy and her broke up just 2 days back. She asked for a week or so I said okay but then after she fell asleep, I texted her that I need to talk to her in the morning so ping me after you're up and that I'm not really willing to wait any longer to make it official. And that if we're to go official, we're doing it now. That text, I'm pretty sure she has read because It is marked as read...

So i understand it was a little needy of me to ask for that. How do i recover after she pings me in the morning? if she doesnt ping me, I'll be freezing her out for a few days for being flaky. But if she does ping. I have something along the lines of.....I dont really care anymore, you dont wanna go official right now? fine by me! but I'm not sure how long am I willing to wait and certainly not as long as you're expecting me to! and I know, I was a little bossy last night but hey, some qualities from the bedroom are bound to jump out ;P


what do you guys think?

My man...live your life. Find another girl.

Thanks for the reply. So she pinged this morning and said....we've fought enough already...now this! I told her idc about fb stuff anymore, all I care about is declaring that we're together so I could get all the other chicks off my back xD then she said, she doesnt wanna hurt her ex....I said if you care more about hurting him than saving our relationship, then we gotta talk!

Hearing that, she had, hopefully, a moment of clarity and immediately proceeded with declaring it on fb, I rewarded this with a kiss and a "thats my sweet sugar" compliment hence hopefully approving this good behaviour. She hid it from the tool ex but I dont even care about that. I believe I managed to not look needy/insecure and dealt with it in a mature manner. Would love some input from you guys....might help someone who might ever get stuck in my position.
Cheers!

You looked like a pussy.

You DEFINED the very essence of AFC.

So... you have a "title" on FB? You're a couple? And that solves what, exactly? Your ego gets stroked?

So... if she has that 'status change' on her profile, she's no longer capable of fucking another dude? Get a clue.

Here's hard truth: She could change her profile while giving head to a dude and you would have NO IDEA.

What do you do? You fucking trust her or you don't. It's that simple.

Titles are just that. They don't mean shit. Men like you are SERIOUSLY one of the reasons I changed MY game to adjust for that. The over-sensitivity and pathetic neediness make women lose attraction. I start off with "I don't want titles. I'm not a boyfriend, I'm a grown-ass man - and I don't want to be called a man-friend... But - I'm in to you. I dig you... and I like where this is going...let's just relax and enjoy one another. If 'it' is there, we'll know it. If not, we'll shake hands, I'll wish you well and we move on."

Think about being the woman hearing that above as opposed to "Whaa whaaa change your profile, I'm needing a pat on the back that you and I are "official" on a fucking website!"....Dude, seriously, you want that on there to throw out a major "fuck you" to the dude that was banging her on the rebound.

Rise above it.

Also... you're freezing out a LDR? Not true - you're justifying her fucking other dudes in her mind. Man the fuck up and don't act like a chick. WOMEN are the ones that usually obsess over shit like that - why are you?

RR

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I appreciate the criticism. Thanks.

We've all been there man.

Patting ourselves on the back and saying "It's OK" won't help - getting kicked in the balls, getting back up and getting back out there is what will help.

Respect,

RR

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