Hi folks,
Ok, so I headed out sarging for the first time since becoming a PUA last night, and I thought I would share some of my experiences and techniques that I found helpful with you guys.
Work's been keeping me pretty busy of late, and with most of my uni friends gone for the summer and a disappointing lack of community presence here in Cambridge, I found myself on a fine Saturday evening with little to do.
And so it was that I decided, somewhat reluctantly, to sarge one of the clubs here alone. The idea of peacocking confuses me, in that I can't decide whether the DHV of looking like you can pull off a crazy look without giving a shit is honestly worth the DLV of looking like an inmate at some sort of mental institution. Think I might try subtle peacocking with perhaps a silver necklace in the future, but I decided to go without this time. I went for a black and white look, with black jeans and black leather shoes, and a white T-shirt with a formal black shirt over the top, buttoned up as far as my sternum. It was a good look, if I do say so myself.
I figured that my best chance to survive solo in night game was to befriend a number of different groups, then merge them together as though I knew them both in order to build social value. Consequently, I arrived early when the crowds were sparse. The only occupied table housed three teenagers: a young couple, and the girl's somewhat stereotypical gay best friend. Not exactly a target-rich environment, but I would need the social proof later.
In preparing for this moment, I realised that strutting across an empty club to make small talk with a bunch of kids would be perceived as strange, if not outright creepy. I knew that to be labelled as a creeper so early might kill my night, so I brought out my most trusted wingman, my phone, and held it to my ear as if making a phone call, which brought me within approach range when I 'hung up'. Looking back, I would heartily recommend the fake call technique any time you need to buy time between sets, before you are noticed and social value begins to drop.
Being new to the game, I decided to run some tried & tested openers rather than my own material, for now. I opened the 3 set with Style's Jealous Girlfriend, with the friend in question being the recipient of my fake phone call, obviously.
I got a nice conversation going, and then DHV'd by showing the group a pretty cool magic trick I had learned some months prior to discovering PU. I turned to leave, but they called me back. I was in.
Later, a hen party arrived in fancy dress, which would prove to be an absolute gold mine for observational openers with both this group, and many other sets. The first girl I approached in this group, an 8 from Zimbabwe, was dressed as a Greek goddess, and she honestly looked like one that night. I opened her simply by expressing a playful curiosity about her outfit and those of the others in the party. Though she had taken my eye, I feigned disinterest in her, and instead had her introduce me to the rest of her party. I would later merge this group with my teenagers, who did me the favour of describing the effect I had shown them earlier - impressing the second group with my magic skills without me needing to draw a single card.
Most of the girls in the hen party were already married, but I playfully recruited three of them to be my wing-girls, helping me to win the affections of my Zimbabwean friend. They helpfully located her and brought her to me, where I ran some standard PUA DHV routines, including Style's Lying Game, which won me a free drink. I had reached the hook point, and brought her to the dancefloor. Though I am no salsa king, I did learn a few steps last week which I used and abused to a very satisfying effect. I got the IOIs, and I should have gone for the kiss there and then, but I was playing too long a game, and it would cost me.
When we returned to the rest of my girl's party, she learned that she had to go and drive a friend home who had drank too much (as both she and I were the only sober ones present). I wouldn't see her again that night, but I did get a number close and have been texting her back and forth this morning. I'm not sure if I will follow this up, as she seems like a nice, good girl, and I feel that the player in me will hurt her if I let her become attached. I regret that I didn't try for the kiss goodnight however.
By this point, it was getting late, and I was tired and hoarse from all of the chatting. I decided to leave, but on my way out I noticed some drunken men falling over one another singing along to 'Mr. Brightside'. Fortunately for me, I noticed a cute brunette, maybe a 7, laughing at them. I laughed too, and used them as an observational opener. She responded well, so I asked her to dance and showed her the same moves I had practiced earlier. We finished and she thanked me for the dance, giving me a little of the doggy dinner-bowl look. I told her I had to leave, but asked if I might have a kiss goodnight. She responded enthusiastically.
I had said that I needed to leave, so I did so. Looking back though, I curse my inflexibility for not staying with her a while - perhaps I could have brought her back with me. Ah well, it was a learning experience and I had enjoyed myself. I returned to my room around half 2, and, satisfied, fell asleep alone.
Here are some tips that I learned that might help anyone starting out:
1. Take a salsa dance lesson. Seriously. That hour of your time will pay massive dividends. You can neg girls on not being able to follow your lead, or compliment them if they can. Besides, women seem to love a good spin. And as long as you don't overdo it, they shouldn't notice that you only have 2-3 moves!
2. Memorise a few openers and routines. I think these would be more effective if you create them yourself, but at the beginning some of the existing ones seem to work very well. I personally would recommened pretty much any of Style's routines, described in the Game.
3. Your phone is your friend. Nice excuse to eject yourself from a set if all is not well, and can also buy you valuable time between sets.
4. If you see a chance, take it. The window of opportunity might close unexpectedly before your grandiose schemes can come to fruition.
That's all folks. I hope this ridiculously long post is of help to anyone starting out now, and in the same boat as I am. I would be grateful for any feedback from any of you knowledgeable PUAs out there as to what I could have done better, and what needs to improve. Also, if anyone is in and around the London/Cambridge scene and feels like winging with me sometime, please do get in touch, either in reply or by PM.
Cheers everyone, and happy hunting.
- Darkfield.
CHAT
. (P.S. i'm 20 as of tuesday)