Thanks for all your great postings and well done.

7/2 (edited sober edition...)

6/28

So I was quite drunk and have not kept up with my idea of gaming sober, but I will get there. This is an edited sober version of my drunk interactions this night.


So I come home early and expected to read "The Rules of the Game " by Neil Strauss. After reading a little I notice that I have completed a lot of the first few missions so I skip to ahead to some of the later missions. I already had a date before I bought the book so I thought I would just hit up the missions and work on my sticking points.

So the power is out at my apt because of some storm in the area and I started texting double D but I knew she would probably be with her so callled dude this weekend so I also called a different chic I had not talked to in a while and set up a possible date tomorrow and a meet up at a club so I assumed that was going to happen for sure.

I decided to walk to this local (Resturant / Bar)Bennigans at the corner that just opened up....

So I sat there and ordered my food and a couple of drinks while reading and thinking... I dont need these first five missions... I have done these already on my own....

As I read the stuff on approach anxiety, the bartender asked me what are you reading?

Me: The rules of the Game.

Her: What kind of game...dating....

Me: yup.... dating... (She smiles)

She walked away really busy and the conversation was cut short right there. She had a lot of customers at the bar and looked like she really wanted to engage me. She was about a HB6.5

So about 25 minutes pass and I just don't want to be in my apt. with no (Air Conditioning /electricity) so i am fine with my appetizer and alcohol. I live in Houston and its too damn hot to be in an apt in this weather.


I then feel a tap on my shoulder and low and behold , a girl I once had one-ites for (that I am over) and just got married walked up to me and said hi. With her husband. They sat next to me and we chatted and I just did my thing with the fluff talk. I also mentioned the PUA stuff and reading and that I think I am picking on the game being social. They seemed very interested and so I just keep talking about it because I am really enjoying this journey and they mentioned how they wanted to hook me up with this really cool blonde friend of theirs.


In between all this I mentioned about my goals...DHV practice and how I was practicing game and PUA mentality. And how some shit worked.... I dont think they took it seriously and even mentioned the cube....

I introduced my friends to the bartender and she said hit to them and said she would give me a shot for bringing my friends out. I was like cool.

One interaction I forgot to mention was when i was on my way outside the bartender had my drink and was walking up to me and asked if I wanted it inside or outside. She was kind of cute so I decided I set up a sexual frame just in case. I told her I would take it any where she wants to give it to me.

She lauged and followed me out side and gave me my drink.

We ended up meeting with the manager of the bar sitting outside. The friend I once had oneitise for that was married opened up the manager of the bar and her roomate. She needed some kind of sponser for her company and gamed the manager. I think I liked this girl a long time ago because I realized, she gamed anyone she came into contact with. With in minutes she was best friends with this girl, exchanging numbers and giving her high fives. Me and her husband were just sitting back smoking a cig and watching .....

I thought to my self that, damn... this is game... on the same sex... I need to learn from this! This bar manager told her she would do anything for her. And it was amazing so I just watched and tried to learn how she got along so well with and got people so committed to her.

She got this girl to support all kinds of shit for her company like drinks and shit and number closed her.

I noticed me and her husband were in the background of this conversation not doing anything for a good 3 minutes...


I pulled a seat right up and jumped in the conversation....


I had no idea what they were talking about but I turned the conversation around to what I wanted....


I asked questions about what I knew about. (the take over)

She was a 23 year old bar tender manager HB7 that was already fucked up. So compliments were good. I told her how I like how she took charge and thought that was cool. I totally changed the subject and started talking about how she got in to the marketing business and how she knew people.

The girl bought like three shots for all of us sitting there and we got a drink bought from her roommate.


She loved us and I was dipping in the conversation every two minutes with meaningless shit but just grabbing on too hook points that I could relate too. As soon as her room mate got up , I took the seat next to her. She was an HB7 but she was a powerful female with high status that talked a lot about how she dated guys that took her to different places and shit. I just mentioned I worked for a mortgage company that loves Happy Hours and that I might be able to bring business to her.

I also kept flirting with her and kept some real good eye contact and totally took over the frame from my female friend who kicked me in the leg during my conversation with the target. She knew I was running game. And I kicked her back to let her know to back off..This girl knew Tosh.2.0 , Mario Williams, and many other connections... and told me just to name drop her that she knew a lot of people and she did.... So .... BAM NC! Thats right....I didnt get it from my friend but from the target.... a few IOI's and it was on.... I left with my friends and she was tripping on my skills... game on brothers.... if I can do this then you can!!!!

I totally intercepted and scored a touch down! I felt like Deon Sanders after a pick six!


Game on!

Thanks man!

I didnt think that many people read this stuff.I appreciate you reading!

You are welcome and keep up the good work!

Reflection:

I am proud of myself for breaking out of my shell and progressing so far in a short amount of time. I did not expect to get a lay in my first 30 days of trying this stuff out. I really have changed how I act towards people and women socially. I am even being more social with my family.

Im really happy about where im at because 3 months ago I would not even imagine I would have this amount of confidence. Im not saying that I can approach HB9's or 8's at this time but I am close.

I have started the Style Life Challenge and signed up on the StyleLife website and hope to bring a little structure to my game. Although I have some game and I can talk to women, I need to have a clear objective and work towards my goals.

My kids have moved back to TX so I will be seeing them more often (every other weekend) so I will have to work my game around them.

I may take a week or two off from gaming and focus on some inner game, missions and time management because I will see my kids more often and want to continue my jiujitsu classes, but I am really starting to enjoy the game, so i am going to see where this journey takes me.

Real big focus in the next comming days will be Openers, Approaches, and Number closes. Although I dont have a problem carrying a converstation I think the idea of approaching is the hardest part.

I think during the week I am going to bring a different shirt and be an approach machine at the huge mall accross the street after work.

Keep it up! We are both on the same boat. I like the idea of the reflection piece for your field report and I too will incorporate this idea into my own field report.

Yeah, its a great way to look at what you have been through and look at where your at.

So I got on this Tele conference call with a guy called Nightwolf and Jersey Boy (I think that was his name...) that talked to us a little bit about night game. They had some really great advice and seemed really cool.

I decided I would try some of the stuff these guys talked about the next time I go to a club.

7/4

After my 7/3 teleconference I decided I would have a few drinks and get it out of my system so I could focus on sober game on my next outing. I didnt go out, I just had a six pack at home and a shot or two of some tequila I have at home.

When I woke in the morning with a hangover this day I realized it was my sister calling me and she asked if I wanted to hang out at her friends apt for food and fun by the pool. I said sure and jumped in the shower and got ready.

We got to the pool early and as time went by more and more women were swimming at the pool. Very attractive women. HB8's and one or two 9's. I was trying to eat and have a few drinks with family and not game this day but I thought I would just be pissed if I didnt try.....

In the Style Life academy there is this really cool self hypnosis audio clip that teaches you to say a word and touch a part of your body to evoke a certain emotion or "frame". Basically to get you in the mood for game. So I cant say I am 100% Im believing this but I say the word and sit for a little bit and look at this beautiful HB8 with a tattoo of some flowers on her should and cherryblossoms on her back...

I have a T shirt on and a swim shorts that dont match and my hair has dried up from the sun and looks like of funky... so I approach a four set. Tattoo girl, a HB9 Blond, and HB8 brunette.

Me: I have to ask you where you got your tattoo done. It looks really good.

Her: Im not from here Im from South Dakota and I got it done out there.

Me: Really, thats cool. I have been thinking about getting one so Im just curious since you have a really cool one.

At this point I catch some hook points about where she is from and finding a good tattoo artist and introduce my self to the rest of the set.

I asked how long they knew each other, and immeadately got a shit test from the HB8 Brunnett that said the blonde girl was her lover and I sat on the edge of the pool, faced the set and said: "awww thats cute" and then continued the converstation.

I asked did they share like one big apt. and the guy replied, that would be cool wouldnt it? I laughed and just played it cool.

So I fluff talked the whole group about tattoo's and art. The seemed really cool and they all had some kind of tattoo.

So I continued my converstaion with the hot tattoo girl and I asked her to do me a favor and lift up her shades becaue I wanted to see her eyes and she showed them to me and they were a light brown. Here friend HB8 or 9 Blonde jumped in the conversation and asked if I was hating on brown eyes. I was told her "No, its the exact opposite. I like them."

I pointed out that my eyes were Hazel and that my eye color changes a little depending on what I wear. She said she could tell the color of my eyes through here sun glasses. I took that as an IOI. Tattoo girl got up to get a drink so I fluff talked the Blonde and did some qualification and I think kino at the pool with a stranger needs to be carefully done. I touched her on the shoulder and she didnt say anything at first and we continued to talk but like 5 seconds after I released my hand from her shoulder she looked right where I touched her on the shoulder.

I immeadeatly turned my attention to tattoo girl and we had some more fluff talk and I notice she played with her hair several times during our conversation and she had gave compliance when I asked to see her nails (which had some glitter style going on) she put her hand in my hand kept it there for few seconds. And gave her a high five and interweaved our hands in the high five and she complied. I escalated Kino the whole time but couldnt figure where to go to extract so I NC's right after the last IOI. BAM! I think I could have KC but did not really have an extraction point at the small pool area.



This is by far the hottest girl I have ever number closed. Im not fat, skinny, or ripped and I have a little bit of stomach fat from all the beer but I would never to think I could NC a hot girl like this dressed the way I was. Good conversation skills go a long way. I find that if you compliment a womans interest's once you find out what they are, it builds attraction and allows you to make a connection. This might be something to think about in your next time out in the field. Find out her interest and just tell her "thats really cool!" or tell her you think thats "bad ass!".

Game on brothers!

You are improving very fast. Green lights all the way from now on.

When in doubt just hit the gas:)

Right on James...

Going out tomorrow. I'll post something Sunday. I feel like a basketball player on fire hitting 3's in a zone... I haven't been blown out for a while....I think I love this game haha!

7/8

Got invited to a friends house yesterday (Saturday) for steak, a couple of drinks and to go out. My wing man picked me up and we met up with a couple that we made friends with a couple of weeks ago.

So this friend of mine was supposed to be my wing man last time and did a horrible job. Im not saying he is a bad person, but just a horrible wingman. We had one drink and my friend chatted up the husband of this couple for hours... I just wanted to go out and sarge and this was really pissing me off.

We finally left their house and went to the club. I didnt have money to drink and my friend offered to pay for it before I rode with him. So I thought it was cool.

We got there and on my third drink my friend was telling me to slow down that he didnt want a 200$ tab. I was a little pissed. I let this ruin my frame. Also, there were like 20 older couples and we were outside where it was hot as hell. It was pretty early and I decided I was supposed try my game sober so I figured here was my chance. I switched to drinking water and kept going inside to cool off. As time went by my wing man stayed talking to the married couple outside. This is not where I wanted to be and I was very annoyed.

I finally got them to move inside and upstairs to hang out in the AC and just talk. There really wasnt anybody there so it was just the four of us and only a few HB8's came in to the place but they were all down stairs. I tried to get my friend to go with me but he made a bunch of excuses. I let his limiting beliefs become mine and I realized at this moment I used alcohol as a crutch to get over AA.

I said hi to a few women and flirted a little with body language but didnt do any approaches or really talk to any women. I stayed with my so called wingman and this couple that we met previously. Dont get me wrong. They were all nice people but sitting down in a club with single women around, I didnt want to sit down the whole night and talk to a couple and my wing man. This was not acceptable.

We left and got something to eat and my wingman kept talking to the husband for two hours at the restaurant we were at.


Then we took them home and he talked to the husband for another two hours and it was 6 in the morning. I told my wingman I wanted to go home... horrible wingman... I will not go out with this guy again.


As I think about this night I look at this as a learning experience. I realize my friend is cool but not a good wingman. I also realize I need to stop drinking for a little while to get over my AA without alcohol. I also realize there was a super cute waitress that gave me some IOI's that I did nothing about. Although the couple was nice I do not really have a desire to hang out with them again. My goal is to meet women when I go out and not to meet couples or chat up guys. Friends are cool but I have a lot of those already. Im into game....

What a boring night. I would have split early on (maybe a bad headache or flu).

If you go with a wing you both have to know what you are going out for.

A few beers and watch the game with the guys? or to nail some pussy?

7/22

This weekend that just passed I had my kids visit so game was out of the question. It was too hot outside to go anywhere so we stayed home and chilled out. On Sunday my kids left early afternoon and I felt sad when they left plus the power was out at my apartments again due to some bad weather earlier.

I took a nap and when I woke, I decided I was just going to go to the resturant bar where I got the bartenders number. When I walked up to the bar as I entered the room I noticed she was actually bartended that night. After she took my drink order and I sat down I asked her name and stared her in the eye and told her " You dont rember me do you?"

She laughed and then I talked to her about how we met. She mentioned how we chatted by text a little but nothing after that. She seemed disappointed that I didnt follow up with anything... like a date or something... (I should have).

At this point I really wasnt trying to run game or anything. I just wanted to have a drink and wait til my power was on in my apt.

Different people kept comming up and sitting in my area and I kept chatting with different people just being friendly. And one guy actually bought me a long island ice tea. As the night progressed I think I unknowingly built up social proof, as I was saying high and talking to everyone at my side of the bar, including the bar tender. Some cute waitresses kept walking by and joining the conversations we were having. At one point the bartender was giving me some good IOI's. She kept grabbing her earrings and fidgeting a lot when we would talk. (Her hair was up so I think she would have played with her hair if it was down) She also kept mentioning how she got off at midnight and under her voice metioned if I could handle going out after midnight. I mentioned I had to work but im thinkning I should have just went for it. I really just wanted to drink.

So this HB8 Blond would walk by and chat and flirt a little but had a BF. Then this little Asian girl HB7 (both waitresses) came by and started chatting with me as well. I dont smoke often but the blonde said she would give me one and that I could smoke with her outside. The Asain girl joined.

This Asian girl qualified herslef to me for a good 30 minutes. I didnt even try to get her to do this. She mentioned how her friend was a stripper and how she gave an ex BF money to go out. She basically told me a story of how she lived in an apt. with a guy and had orgy's... I was like damn.. we just met. I had no reason to run game. I just let her speak. I mentioned I had a son just to see her reaction and she mentioned she had an ex with a son and she said she would go out and buy his kid stuff and that they called her momma. As the night progressed, we had a little more fluff talk and I found out she was under 21 so I assumed 19 or 20 and a group of her 19 year old freinds were sitting outside with us. I was surrounded by young women. Not all hot but still....

The bartender actually came outside and asked me if I needed anything. I was like whoa... im all right. I think she might have been a little jealous. Turned out that they were about to ask me to buy them alchohol and I was conisdering it but thought to myself .... I need to go to sleep, I got to go to work. So I tried to NC the asian girl but she kept mentioning she couldnt do that but she would respond to email for sure. I figured she has some dude that she doesnt want me to know about. (she kept mentioning how women are better players). I was like cool. So I email closed.

I went back to the bartender and took one last shot and told her I would text her later and I did but she never responded. She told me to go back if my power was out but it was on when I went back home.

I was trying to figure out logistics if I hung out with the bartender. (I dont have a car) I think I should have hung out with the young girls and got them drunk at my place. They probably didnt think I am 34 because of my baby face...no one asked my age so I didnt tell them. LOL

Game on!

7/19

Bartender responded to my text yesterday and we had a long chat by tetxt. Kind of like what you would have with a GF... it was kind of nice. She was trying to get me too go back yesterday but I decided not to. I have been eating poorly and drinking a bit much. I noticed I have gained a couple of lbs so Im going to chill out with the drinking and eat a little better.

I know my game is a lot better at a lower wieght so I think i'll work on that. This is some outer game stuff that have been working on almost everyday, like hygene, getting really neat with my clothes, ect.... Losing a little wieght will only help but I know I still got some game where im at physically. Just an fyi - Crest Whitening strips are bad ass.. I used to smoke a lot and drink a lot of coffee (which I dont do now) and my teeth are whiter than ever. It really helps to have a white smile and clean teeth. It makes me feel confident when I approach also. I think outer game and inner game kind of go together.


Tonight I plan to go to my jiu jitsu class and then sarge solo at a near by club. Im really nervous and know I shouldnt be but I havent been to a club in a while, much less by myself. If anything I will just make a few approaches and do it all sober and see how it goes.

Just to let you guys know, on previous social gatherings I have really had to listen to some affirmations that I recorded on my cell phone and pumped myself up to some player hip hip songs for like a good 15-20 minutes which really puts me in a good state to be social with women. One song is 50-cent P.I.M.P, Big Pun - Still not a player, and Charlie Boy - I look good!

Plan is to check out logistics as far as taking a cab home, and riding there on the bus.

I plan to go direct or situational on my approaches and if they dont work too well then I will go indirect. I seem to be pretty good with direct and situational but we'll see how it goes. I may just check it out if its not really good and a cock fest and get to know the bartenders. I usually have good luck with them.

Game on!

My goal was to approach my ass off this week. Im proud because I did just that.

7/19
I went to a club Thursday near where I live to see If I can game solo. This club was super ghetto. I mean it was really bad. Im talking gold teeth, gold necklaces that hung to the floor, tennis shoes, wife beaters, and guys wearing T-Shirts. Cock fest times 5. I was dressed for a nice club. I felt so out of place. There were only very unattractive women there. I had one drink and decided I would leave. Right when I was about to leave there were three super hot women that walked in. I know I should have approached, but didnt. I just felt too out of place. I dont think I'll let that happen again. So I left and and saw a late showing of the SPAM movie. It was awesome BTW.

7/20

So I have been texting a lot with the Bartender mgr. She told me to stop by the bar after work. She said she might not be there but I was willing to go any way. I was hungry and felt like having a drink after the horrible night at the ghetto club. I figured if I saw her, It would be cool and if not I would get some food and a little buzz. So I sent texts to a couple of friends to see if any one wanted to hang but couldnt get a hold of any one. I wasnt looking to sarge. I just figued it would be cool to hang out a little with some friends. I even sent a text to double D but she didnt respond. I dont think i'll get that lay anymore, but im not worried about it. Too many other women out there. So I got there and the bartender "John" seen me there before and was really cool. It was pretty cool to go a place where they know you. It could be some great social proof but I just like the place, location and food. I drank two vodka and redbulls because I was feeling tired due to the late night watching SPAM and then going to work. (only 3 hours of sleep) So no women and couldnt get any one to hang but met some great wing men Saturday and I think some good things are going to happen. I went home after eating and a few drink and decided to work on my text game. Got no reply from two other girls I texted but plenty of texting with Bartender girl. She really wants to meet and hang out and I was considering inviting her to this meet up I was going to do Saturday but i'll get into that later. Sadly no game this day. I really need a car...


7/21

So today I am host to a day game meet up and decided at the last minute to go to this PUB crawl at night. I was determined to get a crap load of approaches and sarge my ass off since I might get my kids next weekend. Twelve people RSVP'd but only two guys showed up. You really get to know who's serious about game on days like this. So we met up a the mall and talked a little bit about game and played the "Go" game. We did about 5-6 approaches each but I can tell we had a hard time stopping moving targets.

First approach:

So the guys were parking their cars and I had an energy drink right before I got there (second of the day) with no food in my system. So I decide to go to taco bell. So Im waiting for my order and see this cute girl sitting down. I can tell she is waiting for her order so I decide to do my first approach.

Me: I like your shoes, their all sparkely! (she had super bedazzled sandles on)
Take note I didnt neg because she was cute but not super hot so I didnt want to take a chance on that. Im just focusing on approaching.

Her: oh thank you! Smiles and looks at me.

Me: You got a pretty smile, are you single?

Her: No (shows me her ring which was covered)

Me: Well theres no harm in taking a compliment.

Im smiling this whole time and so is she, so even though she was taken I still had a good interaction.

Note to self - Do not drink Monster's before you do game. I get a little fidgety sometimes if the girl is really hot. I can hide it with hand gestures sometimes but its harder when you amped up on energy drinks.

Approach 2:

We decided to go up to hired guns once we talked a little and decided on this game plan. This was our way of warming up before we approached targets in the mall so we talked to different women that were working. Keep in mind this meet up was about approaching and not anything else.

So I get a "Go" to approach this Indian girl at a stand for these fake ciggerate items. I tried her items and I tried hard to fluff talk but I think there was a language barrier and she seemed to not understand what I was saying. I told her she was pretty but I did not get a good reaction. Not sure what was going on but I think she was in a bad mood. I asked if she was single and she said no. Not much to say here so I ejected.

Approach 3:

A very cute girl walked by and I sped up my pace and walked a little past her, stuck my hand out and used a direct opener.

Me: Excuse me, you are the prettiest girl I have seen all day and I have got to know your name. I would slap myself later if I didnt ask.

Her: Smiles - Thank you! That is so sweet. My name is .....

whats your name?

Me: Chris! Are you single?

Her: No. I have a boyfriend.

Me: Well okay, nice meeting you. You have a good day.
Ejected after this....


After a talk with with Nightwolf, who gave some great advice, I found out you should never ask if they are single. But again it was all about approaching.

Approach 4:

There was an animal adoption thing going on in the mall and two really hot girls were looking at dogs.

I used a situational opener and asked this girl if she was adopting a dog and how it works. She turned to me and I was blown away with how hot she was. She talked about adoption and it was a good deal and that there was another dog if I wanted. She said her friend was adopting the dog. We fluff talked a bit and I was a little fidgety with my body language and had good eye contact and built a little rapport through conversation but I dont think I took enough time to build attraction. I asked her if she was single and she was like "yes" which blew me away because she was super hot. She mentioned a pool party and that it was hot outside. I couldnt even believe I was in this conversation so I couldnt even think of DHV routines or much accept fluff talk. I decided to number close but she decided to take mine and said she would text me when she was going to be out in a different side of town. I was probably a little overly excited about this and agreed and gave her my number.

Looking back I know I could have done this a different way. I didnt work hard enough to build attraction. I went straight into rapport which is cool but a little more work and I truly think I could have gotten the number.

I think there is one more approach I did... but nothing notable. My boys I went sarging with did great. We all sarged and learned a lot. I'll post another report tomorrow about last nights pub crawl (bar hopping with a group). I did so many approaches (cold and warm) I dont think I can write about every single one.

My wing and I owned the group and the host organizer kept coming up to us saying "theres my boys". Im sure they noticed we talked to only the women in the group. Opened sets of women outside the group. Ive got too much to talk about on the PUB crawl to add in this post.

Game on Brothers!