HABIT SIX: SYNERGIZE (And a field report on how I used it)

NOTES: I will not lie, at first I could only understand Synergy in the business sense, as I understand the idea of open and honest communication when it comes to how to deal with certain work projects.

To Synergize, as I understand it, is about having open and creative communication with input of all parties to create a win/win situation for everyone. It involves a high level of trust, and a high level of cooperation to achieve, and the only way to achieve it is through the proper use of Habit 4 & 5.

in any case, while I trying to put all these habits into play in the art of seduction, this one kinda stomped me, as I really didn't understand how it could be applied. This weekend however it kinda clicked and I got it.

FIELD REPORT: The Club.

I know I posted that I want to do Day game, but I was at the club for my friend's birthday.

In any case, one of my friends brought their best friends, a cute girl, to the birthday party. Now we've meet in the past, but I've always been a little shy, she is really cute.

In any case, I started up a conversation with her (Habit 1, be proactive) about my tattoo. (Our mutual friend is a Tattoo artist).

Me: So do you have any tattoos? (This is a qualification by me).

Her: I do, but in a secret location (She passes two of my qualifications she is playful, and she has tattoos).

Conversation goes on (Looking back I could have carried this conversation down a rather seductive path, but honestly I was thinking about tattoos).

Her: So I hear you are taking dance (Qualification by her), __ told me you were trying to teach her swing.

Me: Yeah, jitterbug (Passed. If I was talking out of my ass about dance would she would have known).

Her: So where do you take dance at?

Me: @ name of dance studio.

Her: Oh my dad use to teach there in New york city! He taught me all sorts of things. (Passes another qualification of mine, she has to like dance).

At this point she goes on about her dad, and how we was a dancer for some time. (This is Habit 4, win/win, she wanted to talk about her dad, and I wanted to talk dance).

At some point in the conservation I said

me: I can really see you are passionate about your father. (Habit 5, seek to understand).

and she went even further about her father. (Habit 4 + Habit 5 = Habit 6: Synergy!)

THE COCK BLOCK

I have a friend, who god bless, can sometimes just miss the whole point of what I am trying to do.

He very rudely interrupted me and the cute girls conversation with something so unrelated to what we were talking about it literally forced me to say this:

Me: "Bro, what the fuck does anything you just said, have to do with ___'s dad?"

The dude was stunned when I said that, and me and the girl went back into conversation. However the bro just stood there, making it a little bit awkward, and I really wasn't sure what to do.

In any case, me and the girl went onto the floor and dance, and my shoe got stuck to the floor and came off (not going to lie, the floor was really sticky form all the spilled beer and kinda killed my dancing mood).

Over all this was a really insightful weekend.

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And hard, that out of hell leads up to light." - John Milton's Paradise lost.

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DAY GAME

Well I wanted to give Day Game a try. And I will be honest, it was a bit of a nervous experience.

Location: Horse Track.

SET 1: 3 Girls sitting.

Me: Excuse me miss, I saw you sitting here and I just wanted you know that you have a really bad ass hat. (She has a Gothic Lolita hat).

Her: Oh thank you. (Big ass smile).

I ejected from the convo though due to shear nervousness.

SET 2: Tattoo girl.

Me: Excuse me miss, may I take a look of your tattoos.

Her: oh Sure!

Me: Awesome. I go tattoo conventions so I love looking at them.

Her: Do you have any?

Me: Yes, I have the last supper on my back.

Her: Awesome.

At this point her friends came back and I excused myself.

SET 3: Blond Girl.

Me: Excuse me miss, I saw you coming down the stairs and I wanted to tell you that you are very beautiful.

Her: Oh Thank you.

Oh this set I could tell I was talking too fast, and I could feel that this was a 'dead' set.

SET 4: Girl in Sun Dress.

I actaully though this was my best set.

Me. Excuse me miss, I saw you from accross the room, and I has to come over and tell you that your are very pretty.

Her: Oh Thank you.

Me: My name is Ilium, what is yours?

Hers: __

Me: So how did you get into Horse racing?

Her: Oh my husband is a huge fan.

(Won't lie, this really through me off.)

Afterword I excused myself.

FINAL NOTES: Over all I feel that I could do much better, but I did have fun.

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And hard, that out of hell leads up to light." - John Milton's Paradise lost.

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HABIT 7: SHARPEN THE SAW.

Well we are at the final habit, number 7! Habit number seven is simply this, we must take some time to rejuvenate ourselves. The best way to look at it is to think of our being like a machine, and that you should take the time to do maintenance on yourself to prevent burnout/breakdown.

There are four dimensions to a person. The following is each of those dimensions, and suggestions on what to do for 'maintenance' on them.

PHYSICAL: Do exercise, have a hobby that releases stress, Have a good nutrition plan (This one I feel is the most important, for if you eat like shit, you will look/feel like shit).

MENTAL: Read a book (Like seven Habits!), Visualize your goal, plan ahead, Keep and write in a journal (Like this one!).

SPIRITUAL: Meditate and think about if you are staying congruent with your values or not.

SOCIAL/EMOTIONAL: Go out, meet people, and connect (Emotionally) with them.

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FINAL THOUGHTS: I really liked this book a lot, and I can honestly say I have discovered some of my flaws, reaffirmed some of my beliefs, and understand a little bit better why some social interactions in the past have gone well, and why some have not. Here are some personal note on me and the habits.

Habit 1 (Be Proactive): When I was younger I remembered (we have all heard this) being told:"that someday you will just 'meet' someone and fall in love", or "just let things happen naturally." This is bullshit advice because it goes against Habit one. (On a minor note gents, if you ever hear someone give that advice to another person be a man and say "Yo, bullshit advice, don't listen to that. Go after what you want). I pretty sure if you just go after what you want, win or fail, you will be a better person than if you just 'wait' for something that might not come.

Habit 2 (Begin with the end in Mind): I would honestly have to say this is my best habit, only because I have a real picture in my mind of what it is I am after in life (getting there is a bit of a different story). In terms of Seduction I can think of three really important aspects that this applies to, first Qualifications (The Qualities you want the women in your life to have), second is the goals with seduction (I want a relationship, ONS, four girlfriends at the same time, etc.), and last is Logistics (Where you are going to fuck that girl once you got her into you).

Habit 3 (Put First things First): Not going to lie, need a little work on this one. Some times I just don't want to do what I know I need to do. The reasons for this range from laziness, to fear, to just plain ignorance at times.

Habit 4 (Think win/win): This was the most eye opening chapter, only because at first I didn't understand how to apply it, or how it even applied to me in my social interactions. However thinking back to past relationships, both romantic and social, I can see myself getting walked on (Lose/win), and also I can remember me really jamming it into some people's ass sideways so I could get my way (Win/lose). It wasn't until recently I understood how this actaully works.

Habit 5 (First seek to understand, than to be understood): I have all always done this habit naturally. To be honest before reading this book, I always thought me seeking to understand the emotional context behind what people say, was a weakness, but I understand it in now one of my greatest strengths.

Habit 6 (Synergy): For the longest time I couldn't understand why some of my conversations I could just rock somebodies world, and others I maybe said five words and it would be awkward as fuck. But now understanding that for two people to have synergy in a conversation you must first have Habit 4 (Which I need to work on, a lot) and Habit 5 (Which I use to think as a weakness) I understand a bit better.

Habit 7 (Sharpen the saw): Of the four human dimensions, I feel the hardest for me to 'sharpen' will be the spiritual aspect of it. I really don't take the time to just isolate myself from the world, and let my mind wander.

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THINGS TO WORK ON FOR SEDUCTION

Recently I got a P.M. from a respectable member of the forum on three things they want me to work on in my interactions with women.

They are (I am paraphrasing a lot here):

1st: Always ask for the number.

2nd: Always try for the kiss.

3rd: Always offer the girl a chance to hang out with you alone.

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And hard, that out of hell leads up to light." - John Milton's Paradise lost.

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DAY GAME!

Yesterday, I went back to the horse track to do a few more approaches, and I won't do set by set I wanted to jot down some notes and observations I noticed.

First, due to my love for tattoos, any girl who has them I can approach no matter how ugly or beautiful they are. I think it is because of they fact it is a link that we share between us, and it is one the items on my list of qualifications.

Second, I seem to get a better response when I add a little 'zest' to my compliment. Example is I told a girl yesterday "Miss, that is a bad ass dress you got on there." (And it was, should have seen this thing!). Probably got the best response for compliment in a while. So next time I see a girl I think is beautiful I am going to say "Miss, I saw you across the room, and I had to come over and tell you, that you look ass kickingly beautiful." And I am going to see if I get a positive response, or a negative response.

Third, I sometime over look things. When I approached a set of girls, the one I opened seemed to have less interest in me there, vs the one who I was not talking too, as she kept trying, for lack of better terms, try to get my attention. Actually thinking back she was cute than the girl I was talking too, but again tattoo thing.

Four, I have a questions for any Day gamers that reading this: Can you re-open a set? Like if you bump into them again later? Because I wanted too, but I wasn't really sure if it was a good idea or not.

NOTE: I am currently watching the Day Game Blue Print. I am not going to make public my notes on that, only go to reefer to things I am doing in field reports.

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I once read on this forum that seduction is what happens when a girl emotionally invest in you, and you sexually escalate on the girl. I thought it was the most simplest, yet brilliant way to understand what seduction really is, that I have ever read. Over the last two months I've really been putting focus on getting the girl to emotionally invest in you, now I want to start working on the sexually escalation part of that formula. (There is two other parts I want to work on as well, inner game, and lifestyle [this is how I view value by the way]).

Right now, I want to use a post by our very own Chief, on sexual escalation. sexual-attraction-explained-in-depth-vt40419.html

That Link well serve as the basis of how I view and approach sexual attraction.

In any Case, I am going to go into my field reports for the weekend.


FIELD REPORT

Friday: Friday I went to a pool party. It was me, my wing/best friend, another really chilled guy, and two extremely beautiful women (one whom I interacted in a earlier post, and the other girl is another wing of mine, yes she likes girls as well as guys).

In any case, while usually I wouldn't consider me being at a party with friends a field report, I did have an new realization Friday night I wanted to jot down in my notes. What I realized is that there is a certain sexual tension, no matter how small, between men and women (We've all read this, but someone telling you this, and you realizing and feeling this for yourself are two different things).

As we were all playing in the pool, me and my female wing began whacking each other with the foam noodles, in a very playful but violent manor. In fact me whacking her in the face with the noodle, only made her more determine to battle me, and back and worth we went. Eventually the whole pool turned into a arena.

Basically how I view it, a girl and guy battling each other with foam noodles, is a way to relieve sexual tension.

Saturday: Saturday I ended up at the strip club, now while I have always wanted to fuck a stripper, if only out of pure vanity, I am aware that at this time, this type of game is far out of my reach, however wanting to make it my mission to understand sexual tension and be totally comfortable with it, this is the place to be. I had a lot of fun, I truly enjoy, in fact LOVE, talking to women in a sexually charged banter, even if they are only doing it for money.

Over all, I enjoy when I put myself into a sexual state, my whole being fills up carnal desires, and I become very animalistic (I don't care about anything anymore, I just want to fuck).

DAY GAME REPORT!

Now onto a serious Field report. I went to the Horse track again, however my A.A. levels were really high today. However, I saw this set of girls today, and I found both of them equally beautiful, and sexy. So I approached.

Me: "Excuse me ladies, I saw you from over there and I had to come on over and tell you both... that you are both ass kickingly beautiful."

Both of them started to laugh, and blush, and both of them had that "Omg, did someone really just say this to me." Look.

Me: "My name is _, what is yours?"

Girl 1: "My name is __"

Girl 2: "Um"

Me: This is one is a shy one." (talking about and to girl 2)

At this point girl 2 actaully started talking and controlling the conversation a bit more.

Girl 2: "So what horse are you going to bet on for the next race?"

Me: "Horse 9"

Won't lie, at this point I was like, where do I take this interaction now? So I decided to pardon myself.

Overall, I feel what I need to learn is how to keep a conversation going until I can spike some emotional topic with them that I can get them to invest. (I find the part of girl emotionally investing in me really easy, it is getting the initial trust, and sexually escalating I find difficult).

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LIST OF QUALIFICATIONS

A lot of teachers and guru's in the community suggest that one take the time to write out a list of qualities that you would like your 'dream girl' to have. These qualities will act as your conversation topics, and for me personally (though sometimes I forget to do this), when a girl demonstrates one of these qualities, you show interest in the girl for having that quality.

While I have had a list for a while now, I went back to it the other day and revised it, and decided to make it public.

1. Sexual adventurousness
2. Playfulness.
3. Positive Attitude.
4. A desire to grow
5. Liberal thinker
6. Dances
7. Likes Ice cream
8. Gymnast/dancer body style.
9. Has a good heart.
10. An Active Lifestyle
11. A dream.
12. Puts effort into herself
13. Is not Clingy/needy
14. Is emotional
15. Has tattoos
16. Is nurturing
17. Has a good social circle
18. Is Eccentric
19. Has integrity
20. High Energy

Quality 1: Sexual Adventurous

You know, sex is important in a relationship. Rather it be a one night stand, or someone you marry, Sex is a vital part. I personally don't think guys really put a lot of thought into if a girl is sexually compatible for them. What do I mean? Well ask yourself, what if your darkest, wildest sex fantasy, and ask yourself, would this girl be down with it? As I stated a few post earlier, one of my two end game goals is to have a whole spectrum of different sexual experiences. If I end up in a romantic relationship with a girl, she has to be willing to explore that with me.

Quality 2: Playfulness.

Playfulness is an amazing quality for a girl to have. Nothing like having a stick in the mud to ruin your whole night. To get a better idea of what I am looking for, read the above post about the Friday night pool party. That is a real world example of what I am looking for.

Quality 3: Positive Attitude.

The reason I find that having a positive attitude is such a good quality to have is because a lot of girls I've met have this “Life kinda sucks” attitude. So often do I hear girls, along with guys, bitch how their lives sucks, they are stuck in a shitty relationship, how they want a different job, but they don't go out any do anything to try to change their situation. So I find it really refreshing when despite all the bullshit they have going on in their lives they still keep the positive attitude of “I am going to make it!”

Quality 4: A Desire to grow.

For me personally, I get really turned on when a girl is on a mission to improve herself. Something about the fact that she is taking the time and effort to make her self and her life better is a real deal maker for me. This is just one of things that is so easy to find out about a person, all I have to do is talk to them and find out what is going on in their lives.

Quality 5: Liberal thinker

I have a saying, more like a personally promise to myself, “Let people come as they are, and leave as they want.” I am a very open minded person. Actually my wing that is a girl is bi-sexual, as well as my guy wing. I have a number of different friends each with a different sexual, religious, and racial back ground. So the one thing I demand, and yes I demand it, for anyone that choose to spend their time with me is that they be open minded. They don't have to agree with the other person, but I have no tolerance for blind hatred.

Quality 6: Can Dance

I Dance, and I love dancing. I want to be with a girl that likes dancing. It is important for people to have hobbies in my opinion, to have passion, and the fact I have a passion that requires a girl to perform, I think is a God send, and one of the best things I have going for me.

Quality 7: Ice Cream.

I love Ice Cream, to the point it is my diets greatest foe. In fact, I am pretty sure that if I run into a dead wall in a conversation, I could just say "You know what, I love ice cream, especially Vanilla. What about you?" (I am going to try that next time I get a dead wall next time in my conversation and see where it goes.)

Quality 8: Gymnast/dancer body style.

You know, the first rule of seduction for me is that you must be sexually attractive to your target. You know what, I don't really like blondes (Though occasionally I might find one I like), and I kinda like girls that look like they could actaully gain a few lbs.

Quality 9: Has a good heart.

One thing that always gets to me is when a girl does her best to make a difference in the world. I have always found it to be an extraordinary attractive quality. I think the two girls I have ever had the biggest crush on, both did charity work, something about the fact they cared so much for someone they didn't even know, I often found inspirational.

Quality 10: Has an active lifestyle

I personally live a really active lifestyle, I study dance, I go horse track, workout 4x a week, and go out clubbing every weekend. For me I need someone who likes going out and doing things, even if I'm not interested in all the things that she does. The one person I will not allow myself to be in a relationship with is someone who sits home all day and does nothing, because we tend to pick up habits, good or bad, from the people we spend the most time with.

Quality 11: Has a Dream (Passion/Ambition)

At time I've meet people who have this whole “This is all I will ever accomplish” Vibe to themselves, they are gloomy, down on themselves, and not a whole lot of fun to be around (This quality ties into my first one, but not always). I find one of the problem is that the person has no goal, no dream about the type of person they could become. However when you meet a person who does have a dream, you will know it. They will be talking about their jobs, where they want to live five years from now, all the things they want to do, I find it actually really easy to have a deep conversation with a person who has a plan for their life.

Quality 12: Puts effort into herself.

You know what makes an average looking girl into a beautiful looking girl? The amount and time they put into themselves. We guys might bitch about the amount of time it takes a girl to get ready, but you know what, the next time you see a girl who took and extra 20 minutes (and often it is more) to get ready walking out of her house looking like something off a modeling magazine, remember she might not have looked that good if she hadn't taken that extra 20 minutes.

This is actually how I opened, the best example I have is when I was in high end bar, and this woman with long blond hair had a ruby red dress on with a dozen red roses, that matched her dress, intertwined into her hair. I was speechless. Never mind she was in her 50s, and had 30 years on me. She was at that moment the most gorgeous women in that bar, hands down. Every guy was looking at her, and everyone knew it. So, I went up to her and opened

Me: “Ma'am, you are the most gorgeous women in this bar tonight, and I have to ask you how the hell did you get those roses into your hair like that?”

After that she went into detail how it was done, and we had awesome conversation.

Quality 13: Is not needy/clingy

I don't don't really need to go into this much, all I can say is that women don't like when I act needy or clingy and I certainly don't like it when they act that way as well.

Quality 14: Is emotional

I know a lot of guys complain on how they hate when girls get all emotional, and puppy eye and what not, but guess what I FUCKING LOVE IT. I love when girl gets all emotional and girl like on me, it feels great, it makes me want to be even more of a man when a girl wants to acts like a girl.

Quality 15: Body art.

If a girl has tattoos, piercings, or blue/pink hair, I can't help but think "This girl is sexy as hell." Honestly I think it the hottest things a girl can do to herself.

Quality 16: Is nurturing

There is nothing worse than being with a person that is a drain on you. I've seen some women that just run down their man until there is nothing left of them. I feel that if I am in a relationship with a girl, that girl needs to support me in whatever I do, unless I am doing something really fucking stupid.

Quality 17: Has a good social circle

Now I love meeting people, and I love introducing people to other people, so I would like, but not require, the girls I am with to have good social circles. However, I am aware that sometime you find a gem in a pile of junk (Social circle wise), so sometimes it is better not to bring in their other friends.

Quality 18: Is Eccentric

Not going to lie, when the girl is a little strange and acts outside of social norms, kinda a turn on. Maybe it is because I am often called Eccentric, and would like someone's personality to be compatible with mine, but yeah.

Quality 19: Has integrity

For me this means two things, first I'd hope that the girl I interact has few own list of qualities she is looking for in a man (This is how I view shit test, a girls way of qualifying a guy), and that she have some ethics and morals when dealing with people.

Quality 20: High energy.

I am a high energy person, I love talking, I love meeting people, I love doing new things, dancing, working out, etc, and really I want to be with someone who can keep up. I know a lot of people who just sit at home playing video games, nothing wrong with that on occasion, and let their whole lives pass them by. Not me, I want to be active and be with an active person.

Well that concludes my list of qualifications. Now I am fully aware that no girl will ever have all 20 (Though you never know), however this gives me a basis for what I am looking for in a girl, and what I find attractive in a girl's personality.

This should be my Last non-field report post for a few weeks (Rest of July really).

Things I am going to work on for the next three weeks.
1. Getting numbers.
2. Going for the kiss.
3. Giving the the girl the option to spend time with me alone.
4. Using my list of qualifications to get the girl to emotional invest in me (along with the other things I've learned), and repaying that investment with sexual attraction/escalation.
5. Using the Seven Habits to be more effective in seduction.

Non seduction goal

1. Now that the 4th of July is over, I want to lose 15 lbs in 90-100 days.
2. Start saving money for the next set of tattoos I will be getting in September.

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FIELD REPORT

Sometime social groups are best way to meet women. Now, I've known this girl for a while, and we've partied together here and there, but she is not really on my top 10 girls to invite out and party with me list, and sexually yeah she turns me on, but I've never really wanted to pursue the opportunity to fuck her, not really sure why. So last night I was at a club for a birthday party, and she was there.

So anyways, my one buddies, a natural (if you seen Manwhore, just like him), was there, and conversation went like this:

Manwhore clone: Ilium, we going to get you some pussy for tonight.

Me: Oh you know I'm up for anything.

Mahwhore clone: Girl, you going to help me get Ilium some pussy?

Girl: Hell yeah! I'd love to help Ilium get some pussy.

(Now to me, this translate that the girl is not sexually interested in me, but she is down for helping me get laid. This is a win/win friendship here people!)

So anyways, nothing really happens (There be some drama that happened a little later, not going to post what, just man drama).

(a little later.)

Girl: Hey lets do a sexy picture together.

Me: Okee dokie

(Picture gets taken)

Girl: Ilium we need to go out sometime.

(Now remember I just came to the true realization that other day that there is always sexual tension between men and women friends, even if it is just minor).

Me: So lets go on a play date.

Girl: Yeah, I want to go on a play date with you, here is my work schedule.

Conclusion: I don't really know where this will lead. On one had I have a belief that leads me to believe she is not sexually interested in me, on the other hand I have a belief that she might be. What should I do? Go on the mother fucking play date and see where it leads too. If I escalate and crash and burn, well belief one was correct, if I get a lay, belief two was correct.

ME WINGING

Now, I've never really considered me a great wing man, but if needed I do it.

Now Manwhore Clone was chatting up some cute girl, and doing really well.

Manwhore Clone: You like boating?

Tiny girl: Yeah I love going on boats. You have one?

Manwhore Clone: Well I don't have a boat, but some of my friends do.

Ting girl (Talking to me now): Do you have a boat?

(Now I don't lie to women, but lords know there is no rule saying I have to answer her question either).

Me: (I simple break eye contact and look away.)

Tiny girl: You do have a boat!

Me: (I just shrug)

Manwhore clone: See my friend has a boat, you should come out party with us on it."

Tiny girl: Well I have a boyfriend.

Manwhore clone: Bring him with!

(This made me laugh).

At this point the birthday girl grabbed me, for a round of shots. Not really sure how it ended for my buddy as he disappeared later on.
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Next moves:

1. Set up a play date with the girl.
2. Keep working on my goals I listed last post.
3. Find out what happened to Manwhore clone.

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How do you get to the seduction phrase?

Hi Style.

The way I view seduction, is not a phase based process, like how some material goes comfort phase, attraction phase, rapport phase, seduction phase. I view seduction simply like:

Seduction is when you repay a girl's emotional investment in you, with sexual escalation.

A lot of theory and what I have studied, and the notes I've posted have to do with emotional investment. As for Sexual escalation, Chief's post of sexual Attraction, sexual-attraction-explained-in-depth-vt40419.html I feel has a lot to offer on the subject and mentality of sexual escalation, him (Chief), and warped mindless I feel are both the best posters on the sexual escalation aspect, and their post would serve you well.

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13 Week Diet plan.

I use to be on a strict diet, but over the last few months I fell of the wagon so to speak, and am having a hard time getting back on it. I decided that I am going to do what I originally did, (ease into my strict diet, rather than jump into a strict super diet.) and get my self back on tract.

I am going to post my 13 weeks to a healthier diet, in my Journal, so A. If anyone wants to join me they can, and B, I keep track of my notes for future reference. This diet plan is of my own design, though I did do some research, and got great ideas. Anyways here goes week one.

WEEK ONE OF DIET: For the first week, There are Four Things, That need to be accomplished (3 of which should take you no more than 15 minutes to get all three of them done).

1. Go online and print out a picture of the body you want. Take a pen, and write below the picture "If you cheat on your diet, you will never have this body." Stick that picture in your wallet, and any time you want to cheat, pull it out and look at it.

2. Write down how many lbs you want to lose, or weight you want to get to. 'I want to get to 185 lbs (lose about 15 lbs).

3. Find a workout program. (I don't really care which one.) I am not pro-body builder, or workout guru, so as far as I am concern, any workout program is better than no workout program.

4. From this day forward, Don't drink calories. No pop, no juice, no cool-aid, or any liquid that has calories in it. (Note: I have a hard time eating solids in the morning, so I do have a glass of milk as it own meal, but at best, just 1, and only one glass. Also this doesn't include post workout drinks. Rest of the day is water.) I once read that 20% (again not a nutrionist, so I can only go by what I read) of are calories come form what we drink. By no longer drinking calories, we cut out 20% of our calories out of our diet. Also I read that drinking nothing but ice cold water all day, will on average burn 125 calories (Body by Science, by john little and Doug McDuff).

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And hard, that out of hell leads up to light." - John Milton's Paradise lost.

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FIELD REPORT: THE CLUB

I did not do well at all in the club last night. Pretty much shot my confidence way, the fuck down even though I was able to regain some of it later. My approach is usually the same:

I either offer my hand to the girl to dance, or I go up to them and ask if they would like to dance. Last night no bites. There are two things I did learn however: One I did get a "Wow!" From a girl who saw me doing Cuban motion http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1nqODdzqBM4 I am going to practice and use that a little more.

The other thing I learned that Non verbal communication, so much better in the night club than verbal. One girl I just put my back against her's and we started dancing. It was going well until her one friend pulled her away, but oh well.

Like I said not really a good night, a bit disappointing to be completely honest.

Right now I don't really want to read any material on Night game/Dance game, due to me still trying to implement what I learned in seven habits, and there being some other issues I want to work on myself first (Being better socially, and ego). I feel if I read 'too much', what happened six months ago with me getting an information overload, and just quieting will happen again.

I did make some headway on one of my other goals however: 1. I want to create a personal image in where my presence will enlighten and enrich everyone I choose to surround myself with.

Right now I am trying to build an entourage, and my first step in doing this is I want to find Eight solid guys. Why? Because guys force other guys to improve, or you get shit about it if you don't. Also, it always ends up with my drunk friends fighting other people's drunks friends, so...

So really I have one of two things I am currently looking for in the guys in my entourage.

1. You are good socially.
2. You look like you can throw someone through a window.

Someone I was introduced to last night, looks like he can through someone through a window, and he was chilled as fuck. So I going to invite him to the club parties I throw over the next month, and make sure he plays nicely with the others. If this work out, I'll have four of the eight guys I'm looking for, (Than I'll move to the next step of building my entourage, women.)

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"Long is the way
And hard, that out of hell leads up to light." - John Milton's Paradise lost.

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DIET AND FITNESS WEEK 2.

Well, I started my new workout program for the next 6 weeks (I rotate through two programs), and I have not drank any calories over the last week. So I went to the gym and weighed myself

LBS: 189.

I was 196 about two weeks ago, however it has been over 100 degrees here, and I've been working long hours, and not been able to eat as often as I want, so this does not surprise me totally. I'm still going to aim for 185, and then I'll re-evaluate if I need to lower my weight some more or not.

Here is my next two items of my to do list this week (Which technically started yesterday).

1. I am no longer going to eat any deep fried, or breaded foods (Pizza puffs, corn dogs, Italian beefs, French fries, etc).

2. I am going to start taking a multivitamin, and some omega-3 supplements.

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Seduction goals.

I am currently setting up some stuff for this weekend.

1. I am trying to get a girl from a few post ago to go on a 'play date.' with me on Friday.

2. On Saturday I am going to an event where two other girls I am interested in are going to be at. Not really sure how I am going to play that one out.

So I am hoping that I make some progress with one of the three girls this weekend.

3. On Sunday I am going to be doing some more Day game, and I am going to try to get a number.

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And hard, that out of hell leads up to light." - John Milton's Paradise lost.

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FIELD REPORT

So Last night I went to the event I was planning on going, and sure enough one of the girls I was interested in was there. So we got out seats, and I started talking to her. At, the time she was starving so she started going and getting buckets of popcorn. Which I too began to eat.

Me: "You know what _, I think I am going to start calling you popcorn."

Popcorn: "Ha-ha, yeah I am really hungry, is there anywhere around here I can go eat." (Chance to isolate? Lets find out)

Me: "Yeah I could go for something to eat also. The place across the street serves food, also the place two blocks over does as well."

Popcorn:"Yeah, but I want fast food."

Me:"In that case we would have to drive to _ Street."

Popcorn: "Oh that is far, I wanted somewhere I could walk."

(At this point I am out of ideas to suggest, so.... I change gears.)

Me: So, Did have you started up school again?

Popcorn: No, but I am planning on to.

Me: What do you want to study?

Popcorn: Marine biologist.

Me: So you going to be swimming with dolphins, and sharks, and shit!

Popcorn: Yeah I love sharks.

Me: So is that why you want to be a marine biologist because you love sharks, or is there some other reason?

Popcorn: Well I Love the ocean, I just feel most at home near the water.

(Now this is what I wanted to say next "You know popcorn, I think it is awesome that you are passionate about the ocean life. I think is sexy when people have passions and ambitions.)

What really happened was this...

Her: I need a cigarette

Outside we go.... and looking back on it, I totally fucking blundered the me and her out side the bar. For 30 minutes I was trying to isolate her with fail, and then we went on the whole marine biologist subject and it totally skipped my mind, that it was now just me and her, and none of our friends or the other guys that were trying to hit own her. What I do? I go into this really amazing story about some awesome shit that happened to me early this week, totally made her smile, but was probably the most counter-productive story, when it came to the whole seduction process.

So she ends up going home. (Not right away, but within like 30 minutes)

So...I wasn't done yet at the bar, I mean there was a lot of pretty women here, a lot..., and I was like fuck it.

So I see this girl dancing, and I grabbed her hand, and we started doing east coast swing. We totally rocked it, and this girl is hot, like I look at her and get turned on hot. So we just chatting about dance, and my one friend comes up to me and she tells me "Hey, just to let you know, that is your cousin's new girlfriend." I was thinking: "Oh that lucky bastard."

It is a really a damn shame because, because outside the bar later, me and dancing girl were talking about some sadomasochism fetishes, and she was really interested in the topic. Again I thought: "I can't attempt to steal, or make a move on my cousin's girlfriend. That is a no, a big no."

So the last girl I talked to was this girl in this fucking baller blueish green looking dress.

Me: Excuse me miss, but that dress is fucking hot.

Dress girl (turning to her boyfriend): Hey, he thinks this dress awesome.

(ah oh.)

Me: Yeah I mean it really fits your figure gracefully.

Her: Thank you. A lot of my friends told me it shows off my figure.

Me: Yeah, one of my girls said that you have a really luscious ass. (And they did).

Now at this time the boy friend gives me a mean, pissed off look.

Her: Thank you, I love the fact that I am a thin white girl, with a black girl's butt. (She starts a shaking it, and the boy friend's face keeps getting madder and madder.)

At this time I try to break the tension with the boyfriend by cheering him, he wouldn't have any of it, but his girlfriend cheers me. He kinda lightly grabbed her and turned her away from me, and began talking to her, I couldn't hear what they were saying. She then turned around I excused myself, and wished her a goodnight. (I might have been able to take interaction farther, but the dude was getting seriously pissed, and I didn't need to get into a fight.)

A Few things I've observed.
1. It seems that when I really find a girl sexually attractive, like they are super hot in my eyes, the interaction with them always seems to go better. I ask a ugly girl, or a girl I find cute but not all that sexually appealing, interaction goes kinda dull. So in other words, I am only going to approach women I find really hot.

2. I want to try be a little more sexual in my complements, and more open with my sexual desires and fetishes with women, and see how the interaction goes, because I always read how women are more sexual than men, so I am wondering if I talk about the freaky shit I want to try, or have done, if women will be more receptive of me.

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And hard, that out of hell leads up to light." - John Milton's Paradise lost.

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FIELD REPORT: My thousand dollar night. (And I have a few questions at the end if any body has some advice).

So recently I wanted to dive a little bit more into non-verbal communication for club environments, and I had some audio/video by Gambler, so I watched/listened, took some notes, and went out and applied it, and boy did I get some results.

So I am at the club, and I tried my traditional way of approaching (which doesn't work really all that well to be honest), which is I see a girl I think is cute, ask her to dance, and she either says yes or no. However after a few rejections I went back to my table, and I was like well let me try a few things I learned from Gambler's stuff, and see how well it work. So I see these two girls, and our eyes lock, and instead of looking way, I make a 'come here' gesture with my hand. Well turned to each other and began to talk, almost like they were not sure if I was waving them over or not, but I keep waving and they came over.

So I introduced my self to them, and I began to dancing with the less cute one, my reason for this is a buddy of mine told me, if you show the girls you are not interested in a fun time first, it makes it easier on you later when you go for the girl you want (Which was this girls friend). So we dance for maybe 15 minutes.

Afterwords I began to dance with her friend, this really hot girl in a purple coarsest. Well, Another thing Gambler talked about was basically start with a high energy interaction and move into a seductive interaction, well I just basically applied that to my dancing. Me and the girl started out in Hustle, and we moved into Mernague (Which is a still a fast dance, but I can escalate a lot easier in it). So, the last thing I remember he said, along with every other P.U.A, is to keep eye contact, and boy I did and I could just feel the sexual tension. It was on like no doubt in my mind, I was going to pull this girl. She kept eye contact, and I kept making the dance more and more seductive, and we kept getting closer and closer. Well, anyways we stopped dancing for a few minutes, and I got some information out of her, first she was there from out of state, which I looked as plus, and that she was there to celebrate her friend getting married.

So, she had to get back to her party, but told me to come dance with her a few minutes out of the floor. Now at this time, I was like yep I am going to dance with this girl some more, isolate, go for the kiss, and pull her, or that was basically my plan, but this story does not end happy for me.

So I wanted to let the guy I came with that I was leaving, (I had a place to take her near by, so I could get him later if I had too.) Well when I found him, he mouth was bleeding, and I was (well call him the roman)

Me: Hey man what happened?

The Roman: Your brother punched me in the face, twice!

Me: What!

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I Go to look for my brother, and he is gone, but a nice $250 bottle is at my table, one that he ordered and put on my tab. At this point I was pissed, and totally forgot about the girl, and was on a search for my brother.

Well he gets kicked out of the club, and I have to put him somewhere, so I stick him in my truck and locked him in, thinking the worse he will do is puke.

So I go back into the club to look for the girl, I can't find her..... I'm a little smoked, but okay not the end of the world.

Well suddenly this really hot girl approaches me, and I was like "What..." and she starts talking to me. So I began to talk to her, well her friend grabs and pulls her away, and I was like you know what, time to close my tab.

Well the hot girl comes back, and we begin to talk again, and I was like "This girl must really think I'm hot, so lets go for this." So I tell her I am a competitive dancer, and she loves it, and we begin to dance. Well her friend comes and grabs her and takes her away again. I am like "What the fuck. Like this girl isn't being a cock block, she is being a vagina block. Her friend is approaching me, and starting conversation with me, (which I view as the biggest I.O.I ever) and her friend just isn't going to let it go down." So at this point I am not really sure what to do. I've never had this happen to me before so... I was just took a stab in the dark and went looking for her. Couldn't find her.

Well, the club is about to close, and am way too drunk to drive, so there is a hotel 100 feet away, and I am like fuck it, I'm sleeping there for the night. I grab the Roman, and my brother out of my truck and we go to the Hotel. Well, first thing that happens is my drunk ass brother breaks the glass case at the hotel lobby, on purpose, and runs out of the place leaving me to deal with it. I still get my room.

I put my brother on the bed, The roman takes the other bed, and I fall asleep on the seat. In any case I wake up the next morning and my brother's bed looks like someone got murdered on it, as he cut his hand when he punched the glass case. I was like... "Fuck man, we are leaving and I am dropping your ass at home."

Well we get to my truck and.... it won't start. I found out that when I lock my brother in my truck, he tried to drive the damn thing even though he didn't have a key, so he jammed a work key into it, which didn't work, and than yanked down on the automatic shifter and broke it. So in essence, I was stranded 30 minutes drive time from my house. Well I got home eventually, and learned a few things.

1st: Leave the brother at home.
2nd: Practice more Non-verbal communication.
3rd: Repeat what I did, but get the kiss.

Questions I am left with.
1. How do you deal with girl cock/vagina blocks, even when your target is the one approaching and starting conversation with you?

2. Is this shit normal, like some of the field reports I've not posted have really weird endings like things one, and to be honest this is a common occurrence for me. My nights always seem to end with some really funny/weird shit happening.

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first thing is first, just like with male cockblocks, lock in the target if you can, idealy you want to put your self physically between the target and the cock block so that all the cock block can do is address your target verbally, communicate to the cockblock through your target until the ice has been broken and you have been formally introduced

two decent choices, depending on how invested in you, you believe your target is

1) say loud and clear, wait!, introduce me to your friend, start quickly building rapport with the cockblock, kiss her ass, show her you are safe, while you're building rapport to involve both in the set start qualifying your target through her friend (you ask the qualifiers to the friend, when she is willing to qualify her friend for you, you address your target and let her know she is qualified), also you can use mystery's line ''listen we like each other, are you going to be ok with that?'' (this gets her to qualify herself towards not cockblocking)

2) ask the target if she is just going to let her friend ruin her fun?
(this is if you think she is attracted enough to want to keep hanging with you instead of getting pulled away)
normal to have your brother pop a bottle on your tab, punch your buddy in the face, and the night ends with a bill that you didn't have much to do with... nope probably not a regular night out

getting a girl have her buddy playing the roll of vagina protector, yes, this is very normal, learn to kiss some ass before it becomes a issue, don't just let girls pull their friends away, get them to talk to you before they leave, a girl can go to crazy lengths to cock block, and it is more likely that some girl from the pack cockblocks with success then some random guy