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Hi, SexAddict, I have a situation i'd like your input on:
A while back I met a girl at a place I saw volunteering. I could tell she was into me but I didn't really like her that much because of her personality (I felt she was into more because she saw me as an oportunity to get ahead).
My interaction history with her:
-went out with group to a bar, talked to her, I could tell she was into me
-she made sure to say a couple of times that she has no boyfriend
-she added me on facebook (not that big deal, but she did it not me)
-we met a few more time at the "work place", there I didn't give her much attention as I didn't care much about her
-we danced at an event in a club (I was quite drunk and she was the one to drag me to dance with her), then she gave me a ride home. I think she was down to fuck that night. Even though we had some sort of argument in the car (my mistake), she asked me to give her a "goodbye kiss" as I left the car, and dropped in somewhere in the conversation the question if I live alone.
-she called me one time but I never gave her my number, asked her where she got it (yeah I was a prick)
-last time we met she was quite cold (must of been 2 months ago)
Meanwhile I reconsidered and I reached the conclusion that it might be fun to fuck her and maybe hang around. I don't know, what have I got to lose?
I'm writing you to ask you how I should go about it.
To be honest I was thinking I should call her and tell her i'm planning to go skydiving on the weekend and ask if she'd like to come along. Make it sound casual. I'm just planning to have fun, not go out of my way to impress her. I know it sounds elaborate and maybe expensive, but I can afford and I got the feeling she can too.
I think a coffee date would be boring, i'm sure we both got plenty of them and we're past that point I think.
Inviting her at my place might be too forward and she might feel insulted, considering we didn't see eachother for long time and I acted as a prick. It will sound like I just want to use her like a cheap whore.
Thanks for taking the time to read it
Hey man, I'd suggest getting a hold of her either by calling her or texting her, first act as though nothing has happened and you still have a good rapport with her. If she show's any resistance due to your prior behavior then you can just mention that you were going through some some issues with an ex girlfriend and were kind of woman hating at the time and it was nothing personal. But now the issue has resolved and you wanted to make up any odd behavior with her. ( only if she brings it up or you sense she is still affected from earlier).
As far as what to do, skydiving may be a little too much for a first hang out. I'd suggest going out for dinner or drinks and going from there.
You can invite her out for dinner either to apologize for being a little harsh with ( if she gives attitude) or just because you'd enjoy her company ( if she response well to your initial contact)
Ideally what you need to do is make first contact and gauge her reactions and responses to you.
If she agree's to dinner, spend a bit of time having a pleasant chat, and re-establishing a good rapport, then go from there.
If the dinner is going well, you can bring up something to do afterwards, either go somewhere for drinks or flat out invite her to your house to watch a movie. ( you can use the skydiving as a future invite during the encounter, if she's into that)
It all depends on how well things are flowing, but odds are if you get her out for dinner, she is good to go for anything else.
As for worrying about her thought process, it really is pointless, until you see how she reacts to your invite and her general demeanor. In the meantime all thoughts and concerns are irrelevant.
CHAT
