*Hey everyone...I'm back after a brief 8 month break (girlfriends...psh)*

So, I have a number of women I'm always going out with, texting etc. But there is this one girl who is obviously quite shy, but very hot and has a sexual side. I met her online, and have yet to meet in person yet.

She is constantly avoiding our plans in the nicest ways possible.

We made plans to go swimming/bridge jumping:
me: "At 4 I'm going to head to *bridge*. It's pretty awesome out right now...hopefully the weather holds"
Her: "Its supposed to rain =/"
Me: "That means we might get wet walking to the...swimming spot...where we're quite likely to get wet...risky "
Her: "Lol. Shush"
Me: "you nevous? We can go to chuckee cheese instead"
her: "well I can't swim. Sooo eff that"
***First time she mentioned this...we discussed it the night before at length***
Me: "LOL. I'd prefer not to jump off cliffs without the water...so we might want to change the plans"
her: "Lol. Might be smart"
me: "K, meet me at the *other date spot*. Can you be there by 4:15?"
her: LOL. If I had the time today i'd give it a shot"

....We had already made plans for the day, she never said anything before about cancelling, and then all the sudden she did. I'm not oneitis on her, but she seems very cool and I'd like to get to know her. Advice?

Well, in that situation, I would in a *calm and cool* manner, explain that I had arranged plans to see the her that day, and her flaking out caused a disturbance in my day (that came out weird, but convey that it is disrespectful for her to flake like that).... Perhaps then explain (I'm not sure how much you guys have talked or are communicating) that you are looking to hang out with her and meet her, but perhaps she is not on the same wavelength as you, and freeze her out.

yeah, you gotta be ready to ditch her if necessary. some girls just flake, even if they like you.

what i'd do is gauge what works better for her. some people need to make plans beforehand (people who truly have busy lives), others need it in the moment (thrill-seekers). others are just plain flakes. figure out which one she is, and respond accordingly!

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"To get what we've never had, we must do what we've never done."

call her on the phone (not over text), ask her if she is free that day, if she is not, ask her when she is free, make plans, challenge the plans by qualifying her to being sure she will be able to make it, offer some sort of reason why you have to be sure of her comming like other plans or what ever, then invite her out after seeing when she is free, if she has a ridiculous objection after that about what you suggest doing, remove the objection (if she pulls that rain shit, just say, well what would you enjoy doing today?)

if she won't meet after that, or she makes plans in the future but won't qualify herself to them, you have established a pattern, assume she is a waste of time