This girl used to like me, but I never liked her back. For some unknown reason, I was always mean to her and always blew her off and thought she was extremely annoying. Then one day, I did something pretty fucked up and it got her really mad at me. Thats another story, but whats important is that she was REALLY mad at me. That night I went home and though to myself, wow, that was fucked up. I need to be nicer to her now because I genuinely feel bad about what I did.

So, I apologized to her for what I did, shes been a friend for 13 years. She forgave me, and each consecutive time we've hung out, I've been very nice to her, very friendly, and nice to her through texts messages. In the process of me being nice, she mistook that as me liking her. So she goes to my friends house and tells him she thinks I like her (which I DID, I just didnt want her to know just to avoid any awkwardness since we've been friends for a super long time)

So, my buddy records this conversation on his iPhone and she proceeds to say that

- She doesnt like me
- She flirts with me just to fuck with me (Made me mad)
- I'm just a friend (Dont pretend like you like me and then tell my friends youre fucking with me)
- She thinks Im in love with her now just because she kissed me on the cheek once
- She thinks I like her because I'm being nice to her via text messages as well. And shared these messages with my best friend

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So, a couple weeks go by and this girl is starting to take everything I've done/said and managed to find a way to twist it up and make it seem like Im in love with her. She never said I was a creep, but I FEEL that way now. She cant even tell me to my face, she tells my best friend and he tells me. I've never called her out on her shit. Heres whats happening:

1. I like love songs, among other genres. So when were in her car (or mine) with all our friends, I plug in my phone and play these songs. Everybody likes them, but she tells our friend that I'm playing them as a "dedication" to her. Like I'm playing the songs so that the lyrics are dedicated to her via me. This isnt the case, I just the music, so does everybody else. I've become a creep without even knowing it.

2. We ride bikes, skateboards, scooters, and other stuff around the neighborhood and to the beach to chill once in a while. My friend had a bike, she had a skateboard, and I had the scooter. A razor scooter, the kind that middle school kids ride. Its fun to ride, but its small, and I'm 6'4". Im hunched over and my hip hurts when I ride it. So as my friend is riding the bike, she pulls up along side him on her skateboard and holds onto the handlebars so they can roll together and stuff. Im minding my own business on the scooter and I'm getting tired of riding this thing meant for 13 year olds, so I ask my friend to trade, and he obliges. Later on I find out that she thinks I asked for the bike so she can hang on while I was riding the bike, I'm not that desperate or pathetic, jesus, what the hell is her problem?

3. Every time I make eye contact with her during a conversation she tells my buddy im giving her "that look"

Really? Fuck. I dont understand how she manages to think this way, and as a result I feel like a total creep and I feel like I dont want her to ever see me because now I feel embarrassed. I'm constantly trying to find ways to reverse this, even though I'm not consciously doing it. Its just how I act. Now im kinda mad at her for making me feel like a tool, but I dont show it and I havent called her out. I cant call her out because I'd have to tell her that my friend tells me everything about me she doesnt want me to know.

This shit is REALLY immature but I have to find a way to do this to preserve a friendship of 13 years. I also want her to go back to liking me like she used to. She liked me when I was a douche, now that I'm polite, she doesnt.

Thanks

Edit: She flirts ALOT. But she admitted that its not real. Should I judge based on her actions? Or is she just fake flirting to get a response out of me so she can feel powerful/controlling?

I lost the power in this relationship, how do I get it back?

Well it doesn't seem like you need to do anything different but maybe confront her about it. If you don't want to be as direct you could take a little thing she does and use it as an exuse to say something like how you saw her doing that and ask her if she knows that you don't like her like that.

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Regarding confronting her about it.

She thinks I dont know that I just explained in my original post. If I confront her about it, im going to have to admit that my friend told me. And shes going to get mad at my friend for telling me what I wasnt supposed to know and this whole relationship will become a huge clusterfuck. Its REALLY immature and I seem like a 14 year old, but thats just the situation Im in.

I would confront her and wouldnt give a shit but shes part of our very tight-knit group of friends and I dont want to mess anything up between any of us

Wait... so a chick you've been "friends" with has been fucking with you for 13 years because it's FUNNY? She shows your texts to another dude? She's twisted to think you love her based off of a kiss on the fucking cheek to the point she discusses it FREELY with someone else?

She's disrespected you like it was her JOB and you're wondering how to save a friendship?

WHAT friendship? She's NOT your friend. Face that. The only example of friendship shown is your buddy being YOUR friend for giving you the scoop.


Fuck that. This chick is a fucking bitch.

RR

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Sorry, she hasnt been fucking with me for 13 years, I've just known her for that long. Were 20.

This whole fucking around with me has been going on for a month at most. She USED to be in love with me, but something changed, I did something that changed that...and now she isnt anymore. Apparently the attraction is gone, but the flirting stayed.

The only reason I'm trying to save this friendship is because she hangs with ALL my friends. Were a tight knit group of friends and Im trying to save our friendship for the sake of the rest of the group. I dont want to bring any unnecessary drama

Yeah, disrespect is a huge no-no for me. I don't tolerate it.

I don't have that dynamic you're experiencing - and I'm glad for that. Tough spot - I'll defer to someone else.... I'm hardcore when it comes to that shit.

Best to you, hope it works out well for you, seriously.

RR

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If you confront her, she will just warp it within your own mind to think you're goin crazy over nothing. Just stop talking to her. Stop texting her, don't call her, don't give her a ride, etc. If you walk by her and she says hi, by all means say hi back. You can be polite and cordial, just don't extend yourself.

Find other women.

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Dude you really need to read this over and over again. Man up and put her in her place. If you´re afraid of compromising your male friends integrity let him in on your plan to confront her. If he has a problem with that he needs to man up just as bad as you do. Full stop.

GET ANOTHER GIRL

so for the time being get an actual girlfriend this'll make her confused and probably kind of irritated.

DON'T PLAY HER GAME, don't give a fuck about anything to do with relationships and her

Fuck that....I think you need some Dark PUA method here.

I would write to her "hey btw, hope you didnt get fooled into thinking just bcuz im nice i like you or something. i think i need to be honest with u. ur a gr8 friend, but i think ur being a bit too attached. I'm seeing many girls so please try to be chill..."

I say fuck with her, toy with her, emotionally, physically, fuck with this girls brains until she fucking cries. She is NOT your fucking friend. If something changed in a month, accept her as a goddamn LOSS.

Hahaha first time I've ever heard you go this evil man :L

you lost the power?

well, if you think so, then it is so, you are only as powerful and abundant as you feel and know you are

she flirts alot but admitted it is not real

her admitting that to your friend, seems to follow a long pattern in your post of this chick seemingly trying to impress your friend, doesn't really mean anything, but it is fairly dis-respectful,

it is compareable to going after two girls at work, and telling one of them that you just flirt with the other girl at work to fuck with her, same thing, this really means nothing, one time I was seeing a girl who was trying to convince me she was not seeing other guys, it was fishy how flirty she was acting at work around a particular guy and she kept lieing to me about it with a very similar spheel, until I found out from the guy's friend (that I also used to work with) that they were infact offically dating, in your situation, it could be true, and it could just be her trying to impress, you can't really say one way or the other, pretty pointless to stress over what this means

the fact that she would dis-respect you like that though, certainly speaks volumes about her character, to be honest you can't really allow yourself to hold onto something like this though, it's just a waste of time to worry about this and feel bad feelings towards her, maybe she is going through a fucked up time in life and just was feeling insecure at the time she was speaking about you, and wanted to seem cool, who knows, who cares, but one thing is certain, it was fairly rude what she was saying, and if that is truely how she feels then she doesn't seem like a very good friend or potential girlfriend or lay or any form of functioning relationship material in any way

she teases you

alot of what is going on here seems to bother you, yes it is dis-respectful and should be dealt with, but why does this bother you soo much?, do you somewhere deep down agree with what she says?

you said she doesn't really say these things to your face, when she does how are you effected, and how do you respond? do you feel insecure? do you become passive or aggressive? what is going on when this happens?


why is it so important for you to hold onto the relationship between you and her?, is this what you really want?, her to like you?, will you be happy if she likes you?, will it be enough for you?

how many other girls are you interested in and have tried to date/sleep with in the last year?, is it under 10?, over 10? over 100?, over 1000+?

if you feel this is personal, you may pm me

Hahaha...I have done many dark things to some girls that I feel need not be mentioned.

That´s a shame, sounds interesting lol! Don´t be a tease Captain