When I approach girls I always was afraid of public humiliation and had this feeling of dread that something awful might occur. I mean I was afraid of hurting my reputation, but also of feeling ashamed which is a miserable feeling. I also had this feeling that something else awful would occur. I use affirmations to change these feelings to approach then if I feel embarrassed I use affirmations to change that feeling. It helps to think about what you are afraid of it gives you something tangible . What have you guys been afraid of?[/youtube]

Same story for me....humiliation and shame are two big ones that can influence the result. Affirmation dont work for me because the feeling is always there . All you do is suppress it to a level that you " ignore" the bad feeling until it comes up. I never believed in affirmation. When you approach and feel humiliated/ashamed it is YOU who are doing all the work. Even f the girl laugh at you/looks you weird/ignores you it is really you who control the feeling that you have. The matter of the fact is that 90% of the time guys dont approach girl and you are always one step closer when you do it no matter the result.

How did you overcome those feelings?

Affirmations do work, unless your in a really strong move and then you need to go home and prepare some more mentally for the outing. The fear is always there but the intensity of the fear is not. Ultimately you need to be willing to be the bad guy and hated if you want to make the approach.