ok.. I think this is a shit test..

Here is part of our texting convo

ME: So what are 3 things that make you awesome?

Her: BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH...
2seconds later
Her: Now I expect you to do the same..

ME: Is this turning into a "Ill show you mine if you show me yours" convo?

Her: LOL in a way. I mean its always weird when one shows and the other doesn't.

ME:( i list off 3 things) I would have told you about how i like to help people or my sense of humor, but you already said that.. and i didn't want my answer to be like yours.
and don't worry, I'm a gentleman.. If you show me yours, i'll show you mine lol.

her: I guess since I went first I had an advantage. There are only so many good qualities, and I took like half of them.

ME: I have an idea... Are you ready to take this convo back to middle school!??!?!

Her: I thought we already had with the 3 good qualities thing, Or I guess these days middle school condos imply sexting.. So idk.. Go ahead and ill let you know if we can talk about it.

ME: Sexting!?!?! lol no no no. That would be taking the convo back to high school..
Truth or dare?

Her: Truth or dare is usually only slightly less sexual than sexting... but ok.. I pick dare because there is no way you can know if i do it or not..

Me: I was expecting you to pick truth. I guess i should have said lets play 21 questions.. lol

I dare you to tell me what your biggest fear is..



So guys... What do you think?? Did I pass a shit test? or was she asking me to escalate?

Not a shit test. Your texting just sucks.

Be straight forward man. Don't apologize for shit you say. Tease her at times. If she brings up sexting you should have been like "Damn right this is turning into sexting. You adventurous enough?"

She was playing you here, not the other way around, because she has control of the frame.

I never apologized to her, but I agree with you... I should have been much more dominant and controll the frame better... It's something I need To work on.
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Not apologizing? With apologizing I mean when you say something you stick to it. Here with your "lol no no no" you changed your game to suit her, "no! this isn't sexting, please don't think of me as a creep" is what this says.

Also, don't text with an expectation of her behavior. This also goes for a real conversation face to face. Don't do a "routine" that's supposed to get a specific behavior, because guess what, if she doesn't behave the way you intended, you look retarded. "I was expecting you to pick truth"...OK, shoulda said "Truth or truth" then.

See, she has the frame here, and you are sucking up to her, or trying to. Every text you send, every word must have value. "lol no no no" has no value. "I would have told you about how I like to help people..." ok great for you. What did this achieve? Nothing. Don't say it.

Keep your texts as short and to the point as possible. If the girl is interested, you can send just one word if you want, like "Cute." And she will reply.

So remember, you're the man, hold your ground. She gave you her three things, now you give her yours. Simple. This could have gone in a good direction, you just messed it up. No disrespect, just helping out here.