| 1. does masturbation really kill your drive that much? i've heard it does and you could say i have an addiction to it to where its hard for me to go past a day without it.
No, it's all mental. I'm 45. I jack off 2x/day if I don't fuck. I've fucked 2 chicks this weekend. One Friday, one last night. Went 3x Friday, 2x last night and I've jacked it already today. Got the one from last night coming over for 'private time' (as she put it) with me tomorrow and I will knock it out of the frame then... My dick expects to cum 2x a day. I've trained it that way....and I don't need any pill to help me keep it up.
2. my biggest problem is opening a set in the first 15 minutes. it still takes me a mad long time to get the first one down even though i do well in most of my sets.
Open the set as soon as you get the IOI. THAT fast. Never hesitate.... and never worry how many sets you open if you're achieving success. I've opened 1 set and F-closed a chick, I've also opened 4-5 sets and flamed. I view success as an F-close, that's it.
3. should i start taking breaks from sarging? ive gone out everyday this week and maybe i need to space out my days. the 2 days where i was in a daze i was completley tired and was just like fuck it.
If your mood sucks - don't go out. You project that to your tgt. You need to be positive, upbeat, energetic -- if I feel like a bag full of ass, I don't go out. If I'm irritible as fuck, I don't go out. Work inner game if you're always in a bad mood - if not, go with the flow. Control your moods. Only worry about shit that you can actually DO something about. The rest of it - if you can't control it - all yo can do is react to it... so 'fuck it' - let it happen and deal with it when you have to! You'll have good/bad days. Maximize the good ones.
4. at what point did you get past making a mild amount of approaches with heavy hesitation to basically getting over it and being able to approach every set you encoutner.
It took me about a month of opening everyone I saw. I felt like an idiot up front...no doubt. It was new. But eventually, you get the message - it's JUST a conversation - that's it. So fucking what? Now, I open anyone. I recently bought a new dress shirt for a suit, and the girl working there told me I could have free monogramming on the cuff - what initials would I like... I said "Damn, I never thought about it... Hmmm... I love the letter R, and put a W on it... then ... I dunno... gimme an H." She stared at me dumbfounded until she realized I was giving her shit. Great ice breaker - spur of the moment... BUT - I also know a year from now, she'll remember 'that guy who came in to buy a shirt and made up letters for a shirt'... She was young-mid 20's, I didn't even try to game her - I just talked with her. Zero pressure. What happens if she clams up? She looks like an idiot - I'm nice, affable, personable and engaging... and it's contageous much of the time!
5. what goals are good to set for myself and how do i fix my brain to complete them?
Open 10x people/day everyday until it feels natural. Then open and advance the conversation the same way... Crawl before you walk. The exercize isn't the amount of sets you open - but the eventual realization that it's a NORMAL part of social dynamics - it's conversation - people do it DAILY. So take advantage of that. Once that's done - that's the major hurdle for most - the AA is a bitch. Overcome that and you're able to advance to concepts.
Rock on!
RR
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